Analysis Of Elizabeth Kantor's Love Internet Style

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“Love, Internet Style” by David Brooks and “Why Jane Austen Would Approve of Online Dating” by Elizabeth Kantor both discuss certain aspects of online romance and draw conclusions about online dating’s effectiveness. Brooks’ piece informs the reader of similarities and differences between online romance and courtship rituals of the past with particular focus on how men and women behave in online dating situations. Kantor’s informative piece uses comparison and contrast primarily to highlight comparisons between online dating and assembly balls from Jane Austen’s novels. In Brooks’ essay, his thesis states that “[t]he online dating world is superficially cynical . . . But love is what this is all about. And the heart, even in this commercial age, finds a way”(222)—implying that, although not perfect, online romance can work. He evidences his statement by illustrating how online dating “slows things down” (221), “puts structure back into courtship” (221), and “is at
For example, he describes how couples might “exchange email for weeks or months” (221) when using a dating site, effectively slowing the dating process and adding more structure to courtship. He displays the transactional and sensitive side of Internet dating when he points to Internet exchanges between couples that “encourage both extreme honesty (the strangers-on-a-train phenomenon) and extreme dishonesty, as people lie about their ages their jobs, whether they have kids and, most often, whether they are married” (222). Brooks’ history of publication in widely known periodicals (like the New York Times (221)) and insightful, yet logical, writing style give validity to his essay; as, for

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