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To survive as a happy human being you have to determine yourself as a person in a society. Of course there are different cultures and all of them are have differerences in appreciation of a person . But be sure, that all the cultures accept and appreciate a person that can be considered a Man. Being a Man has an important meaning and it gives a man an ability to influence and an advantage to be respected. Even the cultures where being a Man has a little importance they will always accept and respect you as a strong person. But it is not easy to be accepted as a Man . It requires a lot of things combination of which makes a Man. But believe me living as a Man is a very pleasant and prideful thing.
OK, then what it means to be a Man?
I want you to know that being a real Man is very difficult and includes in it the best human characteristics. When I say the best human characteristics you have to understand what are considered the best human characteristics from my point of view.
Remember to achieve the being a Man you have to achieve those characteristics combination of which creates a whole notion of Man. Those characteristics are the followings:
1. Be smart and wise. As already being smart is also not so easy. Being smart gives you advantage to be respected. But smartness and wisdom is not all for a full and continuos respect. There is second characteristic.
2. Be respectful. If you want to be respected. Remember respect always brings respect. Never show disrespect. Because every person needs respect, and showing respect to someone means recognizing a person as a person. Being recognized always gives a person a great feeling of pleasure.. That feeling of pleasure given by you sooner can be manipulated by you.
3. Always show understanding and attention toward people. As I have seen during my life every human being considers himself thinking the best way and having the best ideas in his head. And if you show that you understand him and to some extend agree with him , that person begins to recognize you as partner. I mean by showing understanding you can be considered a friend and avoid undesired conflicts.
When someone is thinking of a man, what do they think? Strong? Brave? That’s what most people think; in reality that is a very false image. In “Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code,” Michael Kimmel, talks about what it means to be a man and what it takes to be a man in today’s world. Men are pressured into what they “should” be. If they don’t follow certain unwritten rules, which include: not asking for directions, not giving up, not showing fear, or any signs of emotional weakness, such as tears; they are considered less than a man, a wimp. A real man must be aggressive and brave, he must defend his territory: status, family, possessions. Men blindly follow the Guy Code, they believe in order to fit in, they must comply and be part of the pack.
“Man up!” with a powerful voice said from my father. It is that I initially heard when I was on the first day and needed to introduce myself in the kindergarten. There is no exceptions that men has being taught should be afraid of nothing since the day they were born. As young men grow up, they would generally learn and integrate within a box of codes which shows them how to be a man, as known as the Guy Code. The Guy Code is a set of rules prevalently applied among men groups about how a man behaves with other men and his girl friend. It mainly teaches guys to be dominated, aggressive and fareless. In Michael Kimmel’s “ Bros Before Hos: The Guy Code”, he indicates that men disguise their emotions and inner to be like a man particularly
presence (Tablet I: 30-38). In addition, he emerges more divine than human (Tablet I: 50)
Theodore Roosevelt once said “We need the iron qualities that go with true manhood. We need the positive virtues of resolution, of courage, of indomitable will, of power to do without shrinking the rough work that must always be done” (qtd. in Art of Manliness). Resolution, courage, will, power, and determination, these are all qualities that society has determined a “real man” must possess. They have molded what, throughout time, has been accepted as the abiding image of manhood- an image of predominance, invulnerability, and vigor. Men opted to pursue this vision of what they should be and in this journey pushed aside women.
“Act like a Lady, Think like a Man,” starts of by describing how men think and the status they need to achieve in order to feel like a man. The most consistent point made in this part of the book is that men respond to life, their career goals and relationships differently than women. Harvey first put an emphasis on the idea that men need to be able to gain a title and also need positive reward from the title they have achieved. From that idea, it can then be assumed that until men do so, they are commonly not going to commit to a relationship purely because the...
In the text, The High Cost of Manliness, writer Robert Jensen discusses the harmful effects of having male specific characteristics such as masculinity. It has come to his attention that men’s actions and ways of living are judged based upon the characteristic of being manly. Jenson argues that there is no valid reasoning to have characteristics associated with males. Society has created the notion that masculinity is the characteristic that defines males as males.
In turn, you demand a respect from the person, leading you to be
The topics that Joe Ehrmann uses as framework for his Building Men for Others program are quite intriguing and make you really question masculinity. The first topic, rejecting false masculinity, can be interpreted a few different ways. In the book, it states: “As young boys, we’re told to be men, or to act like men” soon followed with “we’ve got all these parents say ‘be a man’ to boys that have no concept of what that means. I completely agree with the statement of Joe Ehrmann and often question the definition of ‘being a man’. Many boys and men will reject the idea of a man being anything other than being big and strong or having power. Overall instead of a true definition of a man, kids and even adults interpret it as athletic ability, sexual conquest, and economic success. The second topic Joe speaks about is the relationships that make a real man. In the book it states “the number one complaint I hear from most wives is ‘My husband has no relationships with other men.’ In other words, most
When this thinking is applied to the discussion about men, it helps us to understand where the ideas about a “natural” masculinity that is same for all men comes from. If “man” is the physical representation, “masculinity” is the essence that defines him. So for example, if “masculinity” is defined by the society as behaviour that is sexually and physically aggressive, dominant, confident and avoiding the show if emotions, men that do not conform to these qualities are arguably less manly.
What does a person must do to be considered a man? While some say that he must be ambitious, opportunist and always striving to be better, others would disagree. They say that he must be just in his actions and always honest. The definition of manhood varies from person to person. In the play Macbeth, William Shakespeare suggests that the beliefs about what a man is differs from each person through the character's conversation and actions in the play.
Sometimes I think that the trouble with men is that we aren't women. One almost never sees women fight. No, that's a guy thing, a manly thing that also raises disturbing questions about what it means to be a man these days. Becoming a man comes with realizing your responsibilities in life. Becoming a man comes when you take control of your responsibilities in life for yourself and for others. If you live at home, and accept money, food, or anything else from your parents - you have no earthly idea what it takes or means to become a man. On the day that you catch the clue that electricity costs a great deal of money, and that leaving the lights on when you leave the home becomes very expensive, then one may slightly show the slow turning into the corner to manhood. On the day that you can solve tour own problems without having to call someone for help or whining to your parents, you have become a man
The word masculine can defined with many images coming to our heads to help us understand it fully. Stereotypes of what men are supposed are to be and do can be simply broken down with ease. Paying your bills and providing full support for your family, while their women stays home and watches the kids. If we want the ladies we have to have chiseling jaws, great muscles and a sense of humour. They should drink budweiser become intoxicated and watch sports game. But none these qualities if all practiced would conjure the question of you being a perfect men.
A real man values education and is always ready to learn. A real man is confident in himself but he is not arrogant. A real man knows himself and his limits.A boy grows from a teenager to a man when he reaches certain milestones in his life. When a teenager graduates from high school he is no longer considered a child. He must go and make a productive life for himself. When a guy gets a job, starts college, earns his drivers license, opens his own bank account, starts paying bills, begins to date, and he begins to make his own decisions in life, he should be considered a man.
Masculinity refers to set of attributes, behaviors and roles generally associated with boys or men and constitute of biologically created and socially defined factors. There are three main characteristics attributed as masculine according to David Gilmore (1990) – protect, procreate and provide. Protection implies that men need to establish and defend social and physical boundaries. This role requires them to have physical strength and endurance. A man’s physical capabilities affect every aspect, from self-preservation to mating preferences. Physical and emotional stoicism is expected from them – men are expected to suppress their feelings to enable themselves to maintain an objective view. Intellectual capabilities take precedence over emotion or intuition. Their role in procreation is as the aggressor in finding a mate and is recognized in most cultures. It is required of men to possess virility and potency, the ability to sexually satisfy a woman, fecundity and having progeny. As providers, men work primarily to feed and create an environment of comfort for their
Accepting differences: people are all different and the sooner we accept one another’s differences and tries to work with them the faster the relationship can advance. Realise differences and try to talk about them but if you cannot come to an agreement rather agree to disagree and try to respect one another’s view on the topic.