Lying in the workplace: Do or don’t?
Lying means being untrue to someone, lying at work should be avoided because it may cause lots of problems in communication with others and it will affect the future jobs, and it is absolutely not a stepping stone to be successful. For more understanding of the reasons why I am not supporting people lying in workplace, I will explain each different point below.
First, being untrue at work could be overstated or unreal but it is a common courtesy act in our society. From the past up to present, people will telling a white lie to reduce the harm, embarrassment or distress. People do not want to tell the truth because they don’t want to hurt anyone and to justify their actions. This bewildering action will be represented as insincere behavior in some situations, so these act may kindle friction and distrust in communicate with others. Although sometime it is a well meaning or small lie, it may hence a bigger lie because it has to cover-up the small lie, then the smaller things will turn to be bigger. When the lie getting bigger, the problem that the liar want to hind will certainly get much worse before its gets any better. In this
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Most of the companies may not want to hire the people who are not trustworthy and dependable. Just like meeting a friend, people will want to meet a friend that is having a true heart. If people tell a white lie to our workmates, superiors or customers and they find out the truth, they will change their view and negatively think that this person is a liar. The lack of truth will change to a lack of trust easily. Without believe, the relationships may break down. When the company does not want to keep the relationship. The liar may get fire and have a bad reputation. If this people want to find another job, it will be a difficult thing. So it is really affect people’s future even because just a one small
22). People mindlessly respond to avoid their true emotions. Truthfully, I was not fine, but exploding inside with nervousness. However, I didn’t attempt to burden anyone with my lack of confidence, so I told this untruth. Even though white lies may be harmless, they can lead to other deceptive lies labeled by the authors as gray, red, blue and colorless lies. Why do we tell lies? Interestingly, according to the (Banaji and Greenwald, 2013), “evolutionary biologists have proposed that Homo sapiens is indeed hard-wired to tell lies,” (page 25). Furthermore, we want to appear favorable to our friends and family and this may pressure us to justify our lies. According to (Banaji and Greenwald, 2013) it is referred to as “impression management,” by social psychologists (p.27). Thus, lies allow others to see us as we want to be seen, such as I wanted the group to see me as a confident person who could handle obstacles and superbly interact with
Ericsson's article is clearly about the way people lie, mainly whether the manner in which people lie to others is to make the other’s life easier or their own life easier. People lie every day, whether in simple white lies or more complex lies. Ericsson describes white lies, the most popular lies. She uses an example, how a friend told her another friend looked good when, in fact, she did not look good. People use these types of lies daily to avoid confrontation. “The liar deciding what is best for the lied to” (Ericsson #). Anyone can use them, children to parents, friend to friend, students to teachers, boyfriend to girlfriend, etc. A white lie is a good way to keep oneself out of trouble. Ericsson thinks white lies are so common because the truth is more dangerous than a simple lie. However, the lie may seem simple and part of daily life, but Ericsson points out that it is not always so simple. Telling a white lie may benefit to you in the short term, but if for a...
First Ericsson discuss white lies, she describes white lies as when a person “assumes that the truth will cause more damage than a simple, harmless untruth” (Ericsson 181). A person decides that it is better to tell the lie rather than to tell the truth because of how they perceive the outcome will be. Ericsson believes that people should not use white lies because they’re “[deciding] what is best for someone else” (Ericsson 181). When people use white lies they’re assuming that what they are doing is good for the other person, even if they do not know for sure that the other person will benefit from not knowing. On the other hand in the book “The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time” by Mark Haddon, the main character, Christopher does not believe in lying but he uses white lies. Christopher says, “A white lie is not a lie at all. It is where you tell the truth but you do not tell all of the truth” (Haddon 48). In this situation, Christopher’s
Stephanie Ericsson’s The Ways We Lie, analyzes and reflects on how lying has simply become the norm in our society. We all lie, there is not one person in the world that does not lie. Most people lie because they are afraid of telling the truth, however what they do not know is telling a lie can lead them in the wrong direction because many things can happen when lying to a person. The person can find out when everything unravels that person will not have trust in you and you would be known as a liar. To every action there is a consequence, so why not deal with just one consequence when telling the
It can occur without their direct knowledge. “White lies” are told because they aren’t seen as “real” lies, only small fibs. The reasons as to why people tell “white lies” depend on the person and event. That being said, some people tell these lies in order to fix the situation at hand. As stated in an article named “White Lies in Interpersonal Communication”, “Lies may be the most common form of duplicity used by man (Bak, 1978). Most of us find ourselves ‘telling white lies more or less regularly’ (Boyers, 1974:151), often treating the lie as the most efficient solution to interpersonal communication problems (Knapp, Hart, & Dennis, 1974).” (Camden, Motely, Wilson 309). This article states that people tell “white lies” all the time and it’s in order to regulate communication problems. Other times, people think they are telling the truth, when in reality, they are not. People with mental disabilities can find it hard to keep ideas straight in their minds. This can cause people with these types of issues to lie without meaning to. In CIDN, Christopher has a conversation with a policeman when trying to run away to his mom. He was upset with his father after finding out he had lied to him about his mom being dead. Christopher says, “‘I’m going to see Mother… I have a cashpoint card.’” (150). He forgets to mention that he has stolen the card from his father and is running away to see his mom. This way,
In society, some people are looked at as liars or “bullshitters,” as stated in the article, “Is Lying Bad for Us?” Honesty is not always the best policy, and in certain situations, liars are best not to tell the truth when protecting the innocent, or protecting oneself. Because of this, lying should be looked at as a standard in society and something that people recognize in every day life.
For instance, there is a type of lie that people often tell which the author called a “white lie”. The author counters white lies saying that they are a key element to not go through chaotic and repulsive arguments with the people that you are close relationships and you work with professionally. For example, In my observations, I have seen people use this lie their bosses in business and work situations in order to to get benefits like promotions and raises. This can also happen to friendships as well. For instance, In society as a whole we are very judgmental towards each other and when it comes to watching various relationships bloom in beginning before me, I notice that is people are very cautious and aware of one another. People in the beginning do not want to be too blatantly with one another or else that causes huge argument riffs in the relationship. And that could end the relationship. White lies are not a hindrance but a help to society. It makes any kind of relationship last longer. Another example for using a whites lie for a good beneficial purpose is in a memorial service. For instance in a scenario, a man has this co- worker that he works everyday. The co-worker of this man was a great worker but not a great person. The co- worker was annoying and alway in a rotten and complaining attitude towards the man. Suddenly, the co-
White lies are defined as diplomatic or well-intentioned deception. There are many different types of white lies that are told, such as, lies of flattery for example; if someone gives another person a gift and the gift was not what the person wanted, this person would reply “thank you so much! I just love it!” This type of white lie is told because telling someone that their gift was undesirable would make the teller look like an inconsiderate being.
Telling people something that is not true is not a good idea, but occasionally it feels like the only option. In Haroun and the Sea of Stories people are constantly saying things that are not true, stories themselves are not true. Even Blabbermouth who is a brave hero, lies about her identity. She claims to be a boy even though she is not. She gets exposed after saving multiple lives, and she is still fired. She did not even try to fight it because she realized “no point pretending anymore” (Rushdie 183). She was like a story, she did so much good and showed the truth behind who she really is and covered it up by pretending to be a boy. Rashid was a very trusted person, even though his job was essentially to lie. It is said that “everyone had complete faith in Rashid, because he always admitted that everything he told them was completely untrue and made up out of his own head” (Rushdie 20). Everyone understood that he was not telling a true story and that they would never become real, but the meaning behind what he is saying is
We lie all the time, lying is not something new to our culture. We lie to our parents, we lie to our friends, we even lie to our significant other, but why do we do it? There is not one set reason on why we lie but they can vary from an insignificant reason to something more nefarious. A good operational definition of a lie is “A lie is a false statement to a person or group made by another person or group who knows it is not the whole truth, intentionally.” (Freitas-Magalhães) We have been raised to know that lying is usually a bad thing, and it’s better to tell the truth, not to mention the circumstances get exponentially worse if you are caught lying. No one wants to be labeled as a liar, or untrustworthy. This may sound unorthodox but I personally think lying is perfectly fine; depending on the situation. If you have a prima-facie duty to be dishonest it’s perfectly acceptable. Ross says a prima facie duty or obligation is an actual duty. “One’s actual duty is what one ought to do all things considered.” (Carson) I’m not the only one who finds this too be true. Ross would also agree with me, He says “Lying is permissible or obligatory when the duty not to lie conflicts with a more important or equal important prima facie duty.” (Carson) As I was doing research on this topic I did read one extremely compelling argument on why we ought not to lie. Aristotle basically said a person who makes a defense for lying could never be trusted. (King.)
Everyone lies to protect themselves or another individual they care about. The emotional attachment to the individual makes someone want to protect them, even if they have to lie. If the reasons for lying are bad, that’s when a lie becomes more than just a fib. White lies, on the other hand, are used to make someone happy or keep them happy. For example, if you lie to your friend or sibling because they’re having a surprise birthday party, but you don’t want to ruin it for them.
I do not know of anyone who wants to be known as Pinocchio, the wooden boy who lies and in a result, makes his nose grow bigger. As an old proverb says, honesty is the best policy. I agree with being honest at all times. First, telling the truth to me, is always the right thing. When I catch someone in a lie, I just think to myself, what has come up of this world? A person’s truths and lies prove who that person is, and what that person is capable of. Second, people can earn a great deal of respect and trust from telling the truth. Now, people trust their “gut feeling”, but someone’s “gut feeling” should always be truthful. Respect is something that is earned, and at sometimes, given to people who do the things that they are supposed to do for themselves and for others. Last, most people were taught to tell the truth at a very young age. A truth is
Being honest and having a reputation of never lying makes people trust them more. People are more likely to come up to a person who tells the truth and ask them a question. They are more likely to get the right answer and not a lie. People who tell the truth are more respected and aren't looked down at for being a liar. People can be trusted more when they constantly tell the truth. When they ask if they can go out and do something, they are more likely to be able to because others trust them and they don't have to worry.
Growing up, we are always told to never lie because it is the worst thing you could ever do. “Lying will only lead to a horrible situation with less than mediocre results. While lying is not always good, it is not always bad either. Samuel Butler once said “Lying has a kind of respect and reverence with it. We pay a person the compliment of acknowledging his superiority whenever we lie to him.
Some lie to create a false fantasy or a false self-esteem to escape tragedies or horrors in their life (Dr.Phil).Also, this research will tackle the difference between compulsive lying and the normal “white lies” people use every day. First, many people get exposed to criticism every day. Naturally,