What Is Insecure Attachment?

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Attachment is a crucial factor in developing successful relationships between both parents and children, and romantic partners (Davies, 2011; Gowen & Nebrig, 2001). This essay will discuss the function of attachment and the different classifications of adult attachment towards their families, including children and partners. It will then move on to discuss how an insecure attachment as a child can be transmitted to adulthood and new relationships across generations if there is no intervention, and the effect this may have on relationships. Following this, I will discuss possible types of intervention such as earned security, and how this can benefit both Sam and Mal’s romantic relationship, and their relationship with their nephew Johnny who …show more content…

Children and adults with this attachment style often have high levels of self-reliance to avoid rejection, and lack visual emotion (Davies, 2011; Hepper & Carnelley, 2012). Children form this attachment style after experiencing constant rejection and anger from parents, and have no sense of security or safe-haven. In adulthood, avoidant attachment to partners or family correlates with negativity towards trust, respect and empathy (Hepper & Carnelley, 2012), and little desire for comfort or physical contact. Insecure ambivalent attachment is the next insecure style and consists of a need for attachment but lack of confidence in its availability from an attachment figure (Anderson & Alexander, 2005; Davies, 2011). Ambivalent attached children are often anxious and are fearful of exploration and social situations, and overly nervous of separation. In adulthood, this ambivalent attachment moulds into attachment anxiety, where one is constantly seeking reassurance and overreacts to negative feedback (Hepper & Carnelley, 2012). This causes issues in romantic relationships because one partner is unable to deal with feedback and prompts frustration and conflict in the other partner. Johnny, however, has an insecure disorganised attachment style, the third insecure style. This style correlates with anxious and untrusting behaviour and disoriented thoughts (Anderson & Alexander, 2005; Davies, 2011; Gowen & Nebrig, 2001). Johnny …show more content…

For example, parents who were abused as children are more likely to abuse their own children than parents who were not mistreated throughout childhood (Davies, 2011; Gowen & Nebrig, 2001). The attachment styles of an individual gradually develops by internal working models depending on how the child has been cared for over time (Bretherton, 1990; Davies, 2011). The internal working models are developed of both self and others and form expectations of behaviour and relationships with others. Working models are usually stable over one’s life, but may be changed through positive experiences and intervention, allowing one to better their attachment relationships, or may be threated through negative experiences such as a divorce or death (Gowen & Nebrig, 2001; Hare, Miga & Allen, 2009). The transmission of attachment styles, therefore, occur through an unchanged working model that one creates of themselves, that is then passed on to ones’ children. Johnny’s mother Gina was brought up through a neglectful childhood with a lack of love and support, and when becoming a parent, treated Johnny in a similar way. Regardless of trying to be a good parent, Gina’s internal working model that was developed when she was a child consisted of incapable and inconsistent behaviours. Gina’s negative attachment relationships led her to develop

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