Trust And Distrust In The Story Of 'A Real Marriage'

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While reading the story of, “A Real Marriage,” I sensed an underlying issue of the story to be about trust and distrust. I will expound about this later in my essay. For now, I want to briefly touch base and explain the development of the story. The story begins by explaining how Abigail met and devised a plan with Amir. During this time period, Abigail is in college trying to finish her degree with one task left in which is completing the swimming test and Amir has been illegally living in the country for the past two years. We learn that it didn’t take long for Abigail to become close to Amir and soon after propose to him in order for him to be able to stay in the country. From what I’ve read, Abigail has been brought up in a very broken home thus has a reflection on her present lifestyle and character. Abigail finds it fun and exciting being able to help her boyfriend combat discrimination. She reminds me of a person who likes to live on the edge. Amir on the other hand has come from a very devout, close-knit Muslim family.
Coming from two totally different kinds of families and upbringings, the idea of a quick, simple, and quiet marriage sounds fine to Abigail, but to Amir marriage is a life-time commitment, …show more content…

I really enjoyed how you saw that no matter how bad things got Amir never lost trust in his wife. At the end of the story, I thought the author wrapped up the story perfectly by assuring us and Abigail that everything will be ok and that her husband will be there each step of the way with her. What trust and faith! That is why I feel that the title, “A Real Marriage,” is so appropriate for this story. Although Abigail and Amir were different in almost every way they still believed in each other that there was good. A real marriage is based on faith and trust in each other and that is exactly what Abigail and Amir had in each

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