Forever and Always?
In The Postmortal, by Drew Magary, people are afraid of commitment. They can’t and/ or won’t commit to people as well as institutions, due to them no longer aging and believing that they have all the time in the world. This is evident from the invention of “cycle marriages” and their basic views of marriage. Figure 1 advertises the aforementioned cycle marriages that are now available through their lawyers. These marriages are short-term contracts that maintain the tradition as well as appease the modern societies’ fears and beliefs. These people can’t commit to anything that lasts because they have all the time in the world so they don’t feel the need to hurry to get anything done.
In this postmortal society, people are afraid of commitment of any kind due to the invention of the cure for aging.
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On pages 77 through 81, John, our narrator, explains this belief and thought process to his girlfriend who is trying to convince him to marry her in the traditional sense. “I could commit to you if we knew our lives were definite. But they aren’t. I have no earthly idea what’s coming next, and I can’t promise that from now until the end of time I’ll always be by your side. Because I don’t know. And you can’t promise that either, because you don’t know.” These people love that they no longer age so that they can eternally party, and they don’t have to rush to do anything in life. They have the freedom to what they please when they please because there is no longer a time restriction. People in this postmortal era can’t commit to anything due to the belief that they have all the time in the world and thus making them require a time limit or expiration date for everything because nothing can be “forever and always” except
However, there is evidence of a positive correlation between love and the length of an arranged marriage (Epstein, Pandit, & Thakar, 2013). Furthermore, the authors summarized previous research findings in which researchers found arranged marriages had a higher level of satisfaction than love marriages in modern civilizations. The fact that both of these trends have come up shows that some western arguments against arranged marriages are founded upon inaccurate
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Marriage and divorce are culturally ruled, as I have noted from my interviews with friends and family of different cultures who have married, perhaps some have divorced, and with each experience in love they have culturally accepted values that pertain to their overall ideals and values on love, marriage, shared values, etc. The purpose of this paper is to establish a clear understanding of human nature as it relates to the portrait of adulthood and mate selection; institution of marriage, procreation, and even divorce as it relates to acceptance of failed expectations and moving on. I was not surprised to learn that the people I interviewed were traditional in their beliefs that marriage is a serious commitment that should be respected and approached for longevity.
Even now there are many different types of lifestyles from which people can choose. In this day and age where life doesn’t last forever, the concept of cycle marriage is still in play now with the high divorce rate. Even if it's for 40 more years, people don’t want to stay with the same person. This is our society's version of cycle marriage; it is being played out even now when we are not living with the cure for aging. When it comes down to the idea of marriage and what we want, it is more about who you are as a person and your religious beliefs. In The Immortalists, Aubrey de Grey says: "The cure will lead to the re-evaluation of the value of permanent monogamy." However, this statement does not really make sense because the value of permanent monogamy is a very personal thing. Every person has a different value system that is determined by how they were brought up. Just because in the future we may have the option to live forever doesn't mean that people will be necessarily quick to abandon their moral views on the subject of marriage. There are a lot of people who look forward to the idea of spending the rest of their lives together, no matter the length of time, with the person they love. For these people, just the idea of being able to live forever gives them the option to now be with someone they love for both now and for what might me an
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helps us to behave within society rules. With that being said I believe it encourages people to have a sense of moral beliefs along with guidance. Which leads me to have faith that people are capable of separating there right from wrongs. Making themselves aware and in control of their own futures. For instants when I am faced with a difficult situation I know that it is up to me to make the choice not only to benefit myself, but to be concerned of those around me as well. It also ties in with the way we act, this is known as behaviorism the claim on minds and/or mental events in which they can be expressed in terms of behaviors (“Ontology”) studied by
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A lot has changed in the past few decades, not to mention centuries. Perhaps you’ve heard your grandparents, or any adult in general, talking about how much the world is changing. In the past few decades, commitment has gone on a rollercoaster. At times it’s going uphill-marriage rates are up, divorce rates are down, and people are happy in their relationships. At other times, it has been quite the opposite. In A Brave New World, they show a glimpse of a possible future society; the novel serves as a warning to help the world slow down when it comes to technology and love. The expression of love has evolved throughout time due to the decrease of chivalry and the increase in divorce rates because of the change of “steps” in a relationship.
Throughout the last half of the century, our society has watched the divorce rate of married couples skyrocket to numbers previously not seen. Although their has been a slight decline in divorce rates, “half of first marriages still were expected to dissolve before death.” (Stacy, 15, 1991) Whatever happened to that meaningful exchange of words, “until death do us part,” uttered by the bride and groom to each other on their wedding day? What could have been the cause of such inflated divorce rates? Perhaps young married couples are not mature enough to be engaged in such a trremendous responsibility, or, maybe, the couples really do not know each other as well as they thought. Possibly, they have been blinded by infatuation rather than by true love, or, quite simply, the couples mistakenly have different relational expectations.
The Western Religious leaders and moralists believe only one spouse for life is the highest form of marriage. Some of the most "primitive" peoples are strictly monogamous in their ideals, while some "highly advanced" cultures have moved away from the stri...
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