The first child. Anticipation and excitement fill the mind. Nothing is more exciting than waiting for the thrill of being a parent. The experience of pregnancy and parenthood is like none other. The first child. Everything needs to be perfect. Parents want to spend every moment with their new child. Bonding comes easily. The second child. It may not contain as much as joy as the first child, but excitement is still on the mind. Along with excitement also comes the difficulty to form a connection with the newborn due to being a parent of two. Katherine Gyles knows firsthand the effects of bonding between the first and second child. Katherine’s relationship with her firstborn, Kate, was impeccable. She spent the first few days in her room, barely …show more content…
This hormone reduces a mother’s stress and allows the mother to have skin-to-skin contact with her infant to increase the connection between the two. “Experts say the bond that develops between the two during this time not only sets the tone for their whole relationship, it also helps to determine the future emotional and physical health of the child for decades to come” (Onderko 64). According to a study, researched by Susan Goldberg, the sooner a mother began to connect with her infant, the sooner the baby would begin to breastfeed. By breastfeeding in the early hours after birth, the baby will develop a better bond with their mother. Mothers have a sense of different situations too. Gyles’ relationship with Kate is one to learn from. Shortly after she delivered her second child, Michael, the family experienced a passing. She sensed something was different between her first and second child. “I was “mothering” Michael but “not really connecting” with him” (Gyles 33.) The death in the family caused a saddened environment. Gyles spent less time bonding with Michael than she did with Kate. After realizing this, Katherine began bond with Michael in the same way she did Kate. Gyles quotes, “By day three of this new count, I knew I had crossed to the other side; I was intensely in love with Michael and knew his own deep sweetness, as I had known Kate’s strength”(33). By sensing a change in the environment Gyles was …show more content…
There are many ways to help the challenges. If women experienced a difficult pregnancy she may be too exhausted or hurt to hold her child. After her time in the hospital she will begin to feel better. Once at home kangaroo care, skin to skin contact will aid her in the bonding she lost due to delivery. Parents can sleep with the child and be there when the infant needs cared for. While parents do things around the house, parents are able to carry the child in a sling. This allows the mother and father to connect with the infant even while accomplishing little tasks around the house. Premature babies struggle to gain energy after birth. “Research has shown conclusively that premature babies, even in incubators and ICUs, who are gently stroked daily gain nearly 50% more weight than the ones who are left on their own.” (Shanbhag 15) In order to boost the strength of the infant, bonding should occur. As mothers, hormones are greatly active throughout the pregnancy. One major hormone is oxytocin. Oxytocin gives the mother a warm feeling and can help relieve stress. Newborns spend nine months developing in the mother. It goes without question that the mother and child are attached in that way. After delivery babies are able to smell their mother’s scent. The scent is calming to them. It can also lower pain the infant may be experiencing. A mother’s connection with her child may take time to form, but it will always benefit
Kate was born and brought up an only child. At first Kate was a normal child and no one thought anything of her. When she got a little bit older Kate began to do things other children wouldn't normally do. At one point she was caught in her Barn with two boys and her tied up. Her mother and father punished her for this and whipped her until she was good again. Kate was doing great things, she was doing things that made her look like a perfect child. One day though Kate made a plan to kill her parents by locking them in the house while she sets it on fire. Kate did this and immediately got out of town. This is when Kate made her and ended up with Adam Trask another main character.
...or the father. The father providing kangaroo care makes the baby more attached to the father and it provides a way for them to bond. This can also be applied in the NICU setting. Mothers that have babies in the NICU, the mothers can come visit the baby can practice kangaroo care. The babies in the NICU usually have problems with thermoregulation, and by providing kangaroo care; the baby’s temperature can be regulated. The mother’s milk takes some time to come in. by providing kangaroo care, the skin-to-skin contact helps the mother produce milk quicker. By studying the research that has been done on kangaroo care, the nurse can perform evidence-based practice and use kangaroo care at their job. Using the research, the nurse is able to apply this knowledge and create a bond between the baby and it’s parents. It also can help the baby, whether it is sick or healthy.
The mother-infant bond is the familiarity and attachment a mother forms with her offspring. These helpless babies are reliant on their mother’s nurture for survival. This dependence reaches farther than a physiological need. Infants rely on their mothers for a wide variety of demands. The mother-infant bond is critical to maximizing the fitness of each individual, as well as the growth of the species.
Infant Children most always feels very secure with their mother or guardian. When carrying for a child you always have to give them their basic requirements, but you also have to show them love and affection. Love and affection can have more affect on a child than just giving them basic needs. In my psychology class, we talked about a psychologist named Harry F. Harlow. He performed an experiment at the University of Wisconsin which was on the mother/ child bond with monkeys. I will review some of that experiment and explain how this experiment was very true within my life.
At Cook Children’s Hospital, NICU parents are not only seen as the parents of the infants, but they also incorporate them as part of the team. Parents are highly encouraged to spend as much time as they possibly can with their premature infants, to have physical contact with them by giving them kangaroo time, which allows parents to have skin-to-skin contact with their infant, as soon as the infant reaches the stage in which he or she is a suitable candidate to be in physical contact with their parents. Siblings who are over 3 are allowed to visit their siblings at the NICU at specific times of the day, and child life specialists help siblings understand what is going on with their baby brother or sister who is in the NICU. If they have any specific questions, the child life specialist is there to assist them. Families are referred to other institutions that will be able to help them if their facilities aren’t able to fulfill their needs. One of the institutions that...
Kangaroo care is the act of placing a neonate skin to skin with their mother or father. This care is commonly provided by mothers but can also be provided by fathers. Paternal kangaroo care offers many benefits for both the father and the neonate. By implementing this care, the opportunity for fathers to bond with their neonate is provided. This bonding experience is important as many neonates spend several weeks in the NICU. The time away from their neonate can be particularly stressful for the family. Kangaroo care provides a means for the father to provide care for his neonate during their time in the NICU. The benefits to the neonate include maintaining greater temperature stability, stabilized heart rate, and respirations within normal limits. It is believed that healthcare providers lack the understanding about paternal kangaroo care and its benefits. This article will provide the evidence based practice to support and promote paternal kangaroo care. The goal of this research study is to provide evidence based research that promotes paternal kangaroo care
Having a child can be the happiest moment of a person’s life. A sweet little baby usually gives new parents tremendous joy. That joy can be accompanied with anxiety about the baby and the responsibility the new parents are faced with. The anxiety, in most cases, fades and joy is what remains. For some new mothers, however, the joy is replaced with a condition known as postpartum depression. “Postpartum depression is a serious disorder that until recently was not discussed in public…Women did not recognize their symptoms as those of depression, nor did they discuss their thoughts and fears regarding their symptoms” (Wolf, 2010). As such, postpartum depression is now recognized as a disorder harmful to both mother and infant, but, with early detection, is highly treatable with the use of psychotherapy, antidepressants, breastfeeding, and other natural remedies, including exercise.
Each second of fetal development during pregnancy is of extreme importance. This period of prenatal development is a time of change and growth with many factors affecting all areas of growth. Different stimuli having long-lasting effects on development is a process known as programming. The goal of this first article, (put the name of the article here) is to look into the idea of programming and how the influence of stress effects prenatal development. It begins with a biological approach. Looking at the role of Glucocorticoids cortisol in fetal development, the article states that they play a critical role in development and are associated with the “hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, one of the body’s major stress responsive systems.” (Davis & Sandman, 2010) This cortisol increases in mothers over the course of pregnancy and is important in brain development in the fetus. While these Glucocorticoids are important and essential to prenatal development, overexposure can lead to negative effects, including emotional disturbances in early childhood, deregulated stress responses in infa...
You have to teach them all of the rules, but you get to have a lot of fun with them, too, and that’s the best part-that you get to experience that feeling of having a child.”
The attachment style that a child endures with their mother initially begins before the child is even born. In the mother’s womb, the infant becomes aware of their mother and father’s voices, where they begin to develop a bond with them and feel nurtured and comforted by the things they hear their parents sing and speak to them. According to Bowlby, the development of attachment takes place in four different phases and are reinforced as they grow older from the Preattachment (birth to age 6 weeks), attachment-in-the-making (age 6 weeks to 8 months), clear cut attachment (between 8 months to 1 ½ years of age) and the reciprocal relationship (from 1 ½ or 2 and on). As the child grows older, then begin to understand their parent’s feelings and motives and are able to organize their efforts and reciprocate the same i...
Today, a lot of mothers of infants under 12 ¾ months need to put their
Infant attachment is the first relationship that occurs between infants and their mothers or other primary caregivers (Craig & Dunn, 2010). The mother-infant attachment begins at birth and is considered by a group of...
Infant attachment is the first relationship a child experiences and is crucial to the child’s survival (BOOK). A mother’s response to her child will yield either a secure bond or insecurity with the infant. Parents who respond “more sensitively and responsively to the child’s distress” establish a secure bond faster than “parents of insecure children”. (Attachment and Emotion, page 475) The quality of the attachment has “profound implications for the child’s feelings of security and capacity to form trusting relationships” (Book). Simply stated, a positive early attachment will likely yield positive physical, socio-emotional, and cognitive development for the child. (BOOK)
Dr. Sigmund Freud thought the experiences in the first five years were the most critical for the development of personality. It is where it all begins. We all go through stresses in life but it is the well-developed adult that is able to handle stress and how they handle it. It all starts with attachment between the caregiver and the infant. The emotional bond that forms between an infant and a primary caregiver is called attachment. Bonding is a continuation of the relationship that began during pregnancy. The physical and chemical changes that were happening in the body of a mother remind her of the presence of that little person who was growing inside her. Birth reinforces that bond and gives it validity. Now she can see, feel, and talk to the little person that she knew only as a movement in her belly and the heartbeat she heard through the ultra sound. Bonding allows her to transfer her love for the infant inside to the outside. Inside, she gave her blood and outside, she gives her milk, her attention with her eyes, hands and voice. Bonding brings mothers and newborns back together. Attachment is a very important development in the social and emotional life of the infant, usually forming within the first six months of the infant’s life and showing up in a number of ways during the second six months, such as wariness of strangers and fear of being separated from the caregiver. According to psychologist Mary Ainsworth, attachment is a connection between two people that creates a bond. It is that bond that causes the desire for contact with that person and the feeling of distress when separation occurs from that person. This special tie between two human beings that bind them together is what attachment is. Attachment aids a n...
Emotional along with physical domain in prenatal stage is necessary for the growth of the baby (Watson & McDonald, 2007). Pregnancy is the time from contraception prior to after birth, is established to be a major part of a person’s life which will carry a great deal of challenges not just for ...