Lauren Hooks
CSME 1491
QBQ! The Question Behind the Question
The Question Behind the Question is a book that begs the question of personal accountability. Too often we go through life without power because when things happen we look to point the finger. This book empowers the individual by seeking to change the way that we respond. When we take matters into our own hands we can determine our own reality. Throughout the text, the author shows us how much power the words that we use have over the outcome of any situation. Words like “When, Who, and Why” unknowingly create an outcome that is seemingly out of our hands. With these words we seek to remove the problem from ourselves or put it off until later which can be very dangerous. When using the word “Who” we seek to place blame on someone else. The word “When” seeks to buy time which will eventually be wasted through procrastination. The word “Why” lives in the past and acts as if we are helpless to do anything about the problem now. Words like “What” and “How” are the first steps to solving a problem which will make you a more productive individual.
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Seeking to blame in any situation renders one powerless in the problem solving process. Instead we must focus on asking questions that contain “I.” If there is an “I” in the question, then only I can solve it. Frequently there are road blocks in life that we cannot destroy. The successful person concentrates on what I can accomplish as opposed to what “They” have done to stop me. Successful individuals seek only to make progress in spite of whatever may get in their way. Continuous forward movement, no matter how big or small, is what will get you to the finish
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Scapegoats appear abundant in the world today. Political parties and businesses consistently seem to find a person or small group that takes the blame for serious issues. This can cause problems and arguments that sometimes lead to something serious like wars. Scapegoats are just a way of passing blame off of oneself and on to others, just so reputations can remain intact. This sort of attitude shows how lethargic the world has become, where people don’t even take responsibility for their actions. Many people from older generations complain about how all the new generations become too comatose and unwilling to take on their own actions and indiscretions. With attitudes like this, peace will never be found and will inevitably lead to conflict. Something must be done to stem the flow of scapegoats which have been utilized far too much over time.
Conover inferred many times that when something bad happens there will always be another person pointing the finger at another o...
Why is it that we as human beings feel the need to blame someone for every negative situation, which occurs? If we really look at the situation with any great depth, we may discover that an almost endless amount of things may be 'blamed' for the tragedy blaming an individual is pointless - only fate can really be blamed.
I think this practice is best exemplified when people are stuck in agitated/unsettled states. For example, when there’s a long line at the bank and a specific person is taking a long time with one of the tellers. Someone in line who is late for work might begin to project the negative aspects of his/her situation towards the person holding up the line, who is unintentionally making him or her even more late. The person working with the teller likely has no intention on making the person in line late, however it is easier to blame others for our situation rather than to accept personal responsibility. I see it more as way to push our own problems on
Responsibility: jy717 (1999) wondered "1) to what extent is each tragic hero responsible for his own downfall? 2) to what extent does each hero take responsibility for his actions?"
There are many types of people in this world; there are athletic people, artistic people, smart people, and not the brightest people. Most importantly, there are Creators and Victims. In Dr. Skip Downing’s book, On Course: Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life, he describes who Creators and Victims are. Downing says, “A mindset is a collection of beliefs and attitudes.” (42) A Creator is a person who has a mindset of thinking differently about the choices that they make by not blaming anyone for their mistakes and take responsibility for their actions, leading them to better outcomes. I for one, am a Creator and do not push my actions towards others. A Victim is a person who is not as persistent with their choices and tends to not take responsibility for their actions.
What is a victim mindset? A victim mindset is when someone is busy blaming other and complaining instead of finding a solution for their problem. On the other hand is creator mindset which is when someone is focused on finding the solution to their problem and taking action. Skip Downing a college professor with a doctoral degree in English and master’s in psychology talks about these different mindsets in his book On Course: Strategies for Creating Success in College and in Life. This book is also about how students’ can become successful and what skills they would need in order to achieve success. Kara Miller teaches rhetoric and history at Babson College which is a private school in Massachusetts. Her article “My Lazy American Students”
Kane, Robert. "Free Will: Ancient Dispute, New Themes." Feinberg, Joel and Russ Safer-Landau. Reason and Responsibility: Readings in Some Basic Problems of Philosophy. Boston: Wadsworth, Cengage Learning, 2013. 425-437. Print.
Scapegoating is when a person irrationally blames their failures on others, therefore not taking responsibility themselves. The “scapegoating theory says that prejudiced people believe they are society’s victims” (Schaefer 38). It is always someone else’s fault that things do not go their way and the person “… transfers the responsibility for failure to some vulnerable group” (Schaefer 38).
In Philip Pullman's three book series, His Dark Materials, readers find themselves following a pair of children across a multiverse as they fight to do what they believe is right. By having his characters challenge those who are in power Pullman is is able to show readers how he believes we should live our lives. Throughout the trilogy there are a number of times in which one character questions the authority of a person who is in charge. By doing this Philip Pullman shows us how he believes we should live our lives. Pullman argues that we should question authority to make sure that power is in the right hands.
In this paper, I will argue that we have free will for our actions and our moral responsibilities. Free will is a big part in life. We have free will, but there are times where there is no free will. In the world we live in today, we really don’t always have free will.
Parents are to be blamed to some extent too. They do not take the time to notice that their children are being teased and left out of everything because their kids do not tell them and they do not ask. Their parents are completely unaware that their own kids are hurting so bad inside that they are in their bedrooms planning murders and making bombs.
We all know someone who insists on blaming their problems on their parents; whether it’s a child, teenager, or an over-sharing co-worker. Most of the time we ignore it; along with the twinge of annoyance at someone seemingly unwilling to take responsibility for their own actions. But could “blaming” their parents really be a completely understandable, or even acceptable reason for their behavior? Certainly not in all cases, but an abnormal childhood with a parent not mentally sound, or a genetic predisposition to a mental disorder can expose the child to the development of psychological disorders or damage. Whether it’s biological or environmental, personality disorders including depression, narcissism, and anxiety in parents directly affect their children.
The irresponsibility of blaming others for your own actions can be done subtly with a great deal of tact, or directly with implications that are meant to wound. Either way, I believe it shows a weak indecisive character. Although it remains socially unacceptable, motives for participating in the blame game can stem from a variety of character flaws, such as, the effort to protect self-image, justification by eluding ones actions, a low self-esteem, or the lack of self-control. According to Marc and Dianna MacYoung of No Nonsense Self Defense, blame is very much like anger; it teaches us to override our self-control and ultimately dulls the sense of empathy. Pointing the finger to blame someone else can be harmful to everyone involved; age or gender plays no role. Whatever the circumstance, the individual doing the blaming suffers right along with the individual being blamed.