Reflection Paper On Listening Styles

In this essay I intend to reflect on the results of listening styles. The paper deals with the basic concepts of the listening skills, its advantage and disadvantage. It also deals with the significance of the listening and communicating skills of the person.

Listening can be difficult or challenging no matter who or what situation you may encounter. In this refection I have utilized Baker (1971) and Waston (1995) Listening Style. I chose to use the four distinct styles because it will improve my listening and communication skills in personal and work relationships. After many years of not be able to understand my spouse listening and communication skills, I am now somewhat able to effectively communicate with him. The best way to understand

A close friend of my spouse and I came over to our home to air out a few personal issues that he was encountering. I notice that my husband was becoming restless, interrupting the conversation, and finishing the sentences. I thought that was rude of him. My husband even request that our friend get straight to the point. After receiving a few side eye looks from my husband, I than realize he did not want to hear all the extra venting. I’m okay with the extra emotions that come along when communicating. I sometime receive more detail about what the issue maybe in the extra emotion. My husband and I had a conversation after our friend left because I wanted to understand his actions. He believes communication should have a clear purpose no matter what the issues may be. “Let’s get straight to the point”. He assume he was seeking our advice and assistance, so he would have like that he get straight to the issues so we could do just that and be done with it. He step into a firemen shoes and wanted to tackle the problems head on. For him, the quickest way to assist or put the fire out is by giving solution. Based on my husband conversation, when communicating or telling a story he has already sorted

(1971). Listening Behavior. Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey: Prentice Hall Watson, K.W. and Baker, L.L. (1995). Listening Styles Profiles. Amsterdam: Pfeiffer & Company. Those four listening style strategies are people –oriented, action – oriented, content – oriented, and time – oriented. Let’s talk a little about those who are people – oriented that show a strong concern for others and their feelings. They are external in focus, getting their energy from others and find much meaning in relationships, talking about “we” more than “you” or “they”. For example, I will seek to understand the life stories of others and will focus on emotions. There are also people who are content – oriented that are interested more in what is said rather than who is saying it or what they are feeling. Action – oriented listeners focus on are interested first on what will be done, what actions will happen, when and who will do them. I’ll use my husband as an example, he like “so what” answers in his questions and look for plans of action. He like clear, crisp descriptions and answers that are grounded in concrete reality. Straight to the point and structure