Personal Narrative: The Attachment Theory

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When I was younger my parents would read me fairy tales about the Disney princesses and how the man would rescue the woman, they would fall in love and live happily ever after. Obviously as I child I would think of love that way. I though you would meet a strong handsome man he would save you whenever you were in trouble, you fall in love marry, and live happily ever after. When I was in second and third grade the Cheetah girls movie came out and they were very popular. They had this song called Cinderella and the lyrics said “that fairy tale life wasn’t for me…I don’t want to be like Cinderella waiting for a guy to rescue me I rather rescue myself.” I remember singing that song when I was eight and nine and as I grew older I started to see …show more content…

Knox states “The attachment theory of love emphasizes the primary motivation in life is to be connected with other people.” I really relate to this. Ever since I was a child I always become attached to people very quickly. I always felt that even though I had a lot of friends when I was living in New Jersey that no one really understood me and I never felt extremely close to anyone. I always wanted to be understood in my life and feel connected to other people. Like I imagined I would have a friend and we would just click and they would understand me but I never felt that with anybody I met. I do struggle with trusting people in my romantic relationships and the attraction with my former partners was always a problem. It was always either I would really like someone and feel strongly for them but they would not feel as strongly for me. Or someone would really like me and I would not feel the same for them. Trusting people for me is hard. When I was in high school I had a boyfriend and I trusted him and he hurt me repeatedly ever since then it has been hard for me to fully trust men and to let them in. Knox mentions people who relate to attachment theory have challenges in long term relationships. This is very true for me. The longest relationship I had lasted for a year and a half. My main problem in long term relationships is, first I have a tendency to ruin my relationships with men, and I always have a fear …show more content…

I always wanted unconditional, pure love. I feel to obtain that kind of love you have to take things slow and see all sides of that person. Such as learning about your partner background, their past relationships, their parent’s relationships, friendships, past emotional or physical trauma they experienced and more. Your past relationships, parents relationship and any emotional and physical trauma is important to know about your partner because it not only lets you see that persons scars it also allows you to know what makes them the person they are today. It is important to see all sides of person because you need to see them angry, sad and frustrated to see how they handle themselves and how they would treat

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