A baby changed my life. I was only 19 years old. My fiancé was 24 years old. We had recently gotten engaged and weeks later found out we were pregnant. I turned to my husband and said, "The thought of physically having a baby terrifies me." We were both so excited and nervous. My family was excited, but his parents didn’t really care. Of course, some of the family wasn’t because we didn’t do things right as far as we were raised. I can hear them saying it now, “You’re not supposed to have a baby out of wedlock.” We were going to go ahead and get married, but his insurance wouldn’t cover me because they said it was a preexisting condition. I went to my dad concerned about this and wasn’t sure what to do. Dad said, “Don’t get married my insurance …show more content…
The pain that I had gone away was coming back. I had a rush of excruciating pain contract through my upper abdomen and in through my lower pelvis. The nurse said, “I’ll get the doctor.” The doctor said, “You have started to labor and contractions are going to become strong.” The wave of pain came every four minutes. It happened so fast that I could not catch a breath in between. No longer did I feel like I had control over my body. Contractions now were every two minutes. The nurse checked and I had dilated to seven centimeters in a matter of minutes. As a contraction came on and paralyzed me from my belly down to my thighs I landed on the bed on my hands and knees. I cried out in pain as I felt the baby push through my pelvis. I thought he was going to fall out right then and there. The contraction passed and I was able turn over on my back in the bed. The contractions were now every thirty seconds. I was not able to take a deep breath and started to panic. My body took over and my mind went blank. I could hear nothing. The voices of my mother, nurse, sister and husband floated in the air. All I could do was cry in agony. I just wanted it to stop. The doctor let me know that it would be in a matter of minutes before the baby was to be brought in this world and take his first breath. She placed a mirror between my legs so I could see what was going on. The doctor said, “On the next contraction I needed you to push through your bottom and hold it …show more content…
I would do it all over again. As a friend of mine said, "I knew it would be hard, but I didn't know what 'hard' would feel like." Now I think back to that moment and can't relate. The thought of having a baby is definitely an experience you will never forget. As a mutual friend said, "It's like a roller coaster. All first time moms are experiencing the same thing, but it makes some people laugh with joy, and it makes other people cry with fear or puke." Everyone kept telling me that, when in doubt, I should tune into my "Mother's Instincts," but I didn't really feel like a mother yet. These instincts just kicked in. My son Gage is now 10 1/2 years old. He is a truly vibrant creature, and everyone that meets him comments on how he is such a blessing. He is determined. Gage is filled with passion, and all that he does is touched by it. He loves fiercely, he plays as if his life depends on it, and when he's hurt, and it seems as if his very heart has been shattered. Gage was born to live. Sometimes, I find myself reflecting on the last 10 years of my life and how much it has changed, and how much fuller life has become. I've always known that having children would change my life. I also knew that while raising children can be very rewarding, it is far from being an easy task. However, despite having all of those expectations before giving birth, I was still unprepared for and humbled by the birth of my firstborn child
Caring for a baby the whole weekend taught me a lot about how it is to actually have a real baby. Not only did the baby cry periodically but often at times like a real baby she would cry for no reason. I had to wake up at different times in the middle of the night just to tend to the baby needs and plenty times was very tired but I couldn't just let her cry. It got very frustrating when she would constantly cry back to back it didn't give me the time to do anything. Like when I took her out to eat with me on day I got her i couldn't even barely eat because she kept crying. People kept looking at me and the waiter table even thought it was a real baby when she saw the car seat. I learned that you have to be patient because at times the crying
I felt completely different about my life and the way I was living it. I wanted to flip my life around at the very moment and knew I couldn’t do it right then and there that it was going to take time and effort. I spoke to my mom the next day and I told her everything I realized and I apologized for being the way I was and making all the immature decisions I was at the moment. My aftermath motivated me to become the person I am today and live my life making better decisions for myself.
Growing up I was always told to enjoy being young; now I see why. A plethora of young teens today become pregnant in high school. I just so happen to be one of those girls. I would have to say it was a life changing experience for me. As a result, the parallelism between the aspects of my life as a teenager and as a teen mom are stress, responsibility and my emotions.
Last year in my high school child-development class, each student had to take the "Think-It-Over" baby home for a night to get a taste of parenthood. Even before I received the baby, I knew I was not ready to be a parent as a senior in high school. I could still remember when my brother and sister were little and I would have to take care of them all the time. At least the doll had no dirty diapers I would have to change.
Motherhood has taught me many life lessons. Before becoming a mother, I was a self centered child. I had no motivation to succeed. All I was worried about was where the next party was. At that time I had no want to try because I was so scared to fail. I was slowly progressing to go nowhere and do nothing with my life. That has all changed now. I no longer party or use drugs. I work full time, attend college full time and devote my all to my children. Without them I would probably be in a jail cell not where I am today.
Whether planned or unplanned, change can cause disruption to one’s stable environment if not handled in the correct way (McGarry, Cashin, & Fowler, 2012). Having children was a positive planned change for me. The decision has greatly improved my well-being and outlook on life. My thought process was changed the instant I held my first child. From that point on, every decision I make is centered on how it will affect them. Motherhood has opened my eyes to the realization that change occurs every day and there is no halting the process. As I watch my children grow, I emotionally embrace each unforeseen moment that comes with it.
When I found out I was pregnant I could never have imagined how hard my life was going to be as a teen mom. I remember my dad sitting me down and telling me he respected my decision to keep my daughter, but that I had no idea how hard I just made my life, I don’t think that in that moment I really realized what he meant, but I would soon find out. I was just starting my 11th grade year when my daughter was born so I still had two years of school left. I also had to work so I could take care of my daughter, so trying to do both seemed impossible, at one point my school wanted me to go to school during the day and at night so I could graduate. There was no way I could work and go to school during the day and at night. I had to think long and hard about what I needed to do, my daughter and I needed to be able to survive so I definitely needed my job, so I did
It’s early morning, around 9 a.m. and I’m lying in a hospital bed as calm and collected as I can be. It could be because of the drugs that have been shot up in my back a few hours back. Six hours ago I was grunting and moaning from the sharp pain I was feeling in my lower back area, a pain I could no longer bear. “Would you like the epidural shot?” questioned one of the nurses.
My life changed for the better. I wouldn't and couldn't image it any other way he lights up my whole entire life. The grow within a blink of an eye. My baby can speak in full sentences and uses the potty on his own. “Mommy mommy i have to pee pee”.
I am the third child out of four in my family, I have one older sister, an older brother and then a younger brother. I was born on January 20th 1997 in Clinton, Ontario. This means I was probably conceived the middle of May sometime. My mother did not take pre-natal pills before I was born because I was not really expected, but she was taking vitamins during this time to stay healthy. My mother did see our family physician while she was pregnant with me. She saw the doctor every month for the first and second trimester and then she saw him every other week in the last trimester. In these checkups they would see if I was gaining weight, check blood pressure, blood levels and just to see if everything was healthy. My mom did not have any screening tests done to see if there was anything wrong because it was not very common to get screening done in our
The day I found out I was having a son changed my life for the better in so many ways that I would never have imagined. I was soon to be separating from the military and I really didn’t have a plan for my life. I was just going to go home and collect unemployment like my mom had suggested, but then it all changed in an instance. My girl came back from a trip to Atlanta with her sister to visit they cousin and I trust her so I knew it was mine but it sure was a wakeup call. But then all I could think about was what the hell do I do now cause I now have someone who depends on me coming and I can’t just go chill on my mom’s couch anymore. Also I knew I had to make sure he didn’t turn out to be the man I was for while hurting women left and right just because I could.
Pregnant at the age of eighteen changed my life. I was scared and the reality of life hit me all at once. I had imagined being pregnant and thinking it was easy. Thinking that going through nine months of carrying a child was a breeze. I didn’t think about the details of childbirth. Women all over the world have been doing this for years.
Everyone has a least one major event that they can remember right? For some it would be weddings, engagements, graduations, etc. For me, I would have to say the day I gave birth to my son. It was a windy Wednesday in November. It was November 13, 2013 to be exact. I entered Woman’s Hospital in Baton Rouge, Louisiana ready for one of the most exciting experiences in my life. The day I gave birth to my son changed my life completely. My life changing experience started with the preparation for the birth, giving birth, and after birth.
This was the biggest moment in my life at this time; I was only a child who was about to have another child. I didn’t know any better and there I had to be a single parent at sixteen. I believe that this was a curse and a blessing at the same thing. My son is the blessing, but the curse had to deal with the loneliness and negativity that I received from my
After what seemed like an eternity of pushing, sweating, and pain I was able to give birth to my son. My entire labor lasted about twelve hours, but to me it seemed like a life time. The pain I experienced was well worth it, because I was able to give life to another person. After all that I had experienced for those long nine months many people have asked if I would do it again. My reply to all who have asked me is, “of course I would, in a heart beat.