I feel I love with the mother of my girls when I was 18. After a year of being together we have a mutual decision of having a baby. She was 17 years old and yet she had to grow up and mature as soon as the words "I'm pregnant" came out of her mouth. Hearing this bright much joy into my life but I realized I had nothing to provide for my child. That's when I had to grow up.
Question #1: What were the challenges faced as you became mom at the young age? "I think it is always hard to have first baby despite your age, because you are not ready physically and emotionally. I think it happens with anything in life that you face for the first time. Even though some couples go through classes to prepare for the child I do not think you are fully ready mentally, emotionally, and physically to face all the challenges that come with a birth of a child. As you face those challenges as a first time mother, you are nervous because
Seeing my mom struggle and not having my father around only encouraged me to become the best version of myself I could possibly be. In 2005, my younger brother was born and similar to my situation, his father walked out as well. It became more difficult for my mom to raise two children on her own, so I helped her in any way I could. My mom always mentioned how she intended to go college, but she did not have the time for it. She raised me on her own, and she had to do it all over again with my brother.
I spent about two and a half years rejecting the idea that I needed anyone. My mind was made up and I could take care of anything that came my way with no hesitation. I quickly regretted the decision to disregard my mother for who she is and the role she played in my life. Young girls go through a lot, especially during their pre-teen years. When I reached this certain mark in my childhood I did not react as well as I should
Narrative Essay: When I Became a Mom Being pregnant at a young age was a hard thing to grasp. Although I had graduated high school and had a job, my fiancé and I were not quite ready for the life changing experience. It was impossible as a young adult to be able to prepare myself mentally and emotionally in becoming a mother, as I was going to experience challenges, frustration, and a rewarding feeling in my life. My fiancé and I had a lot of support from our families, but that wouldn’t prepare me for the rest of my existence. On the day our son, Riley, was born, I delivered a healthy little boy who didn’t cry at first.
I had to get home schooled until I delivered. Nurses also would come to my home to check up on me and educate me on parenting. Eventually my parents became more supportive of my pregnancy after the big delivery scare. Which made me feel a little bit better because I didn’t have anyone else’s support due to my age. Many family members would judge me for my mistake and they wouldn’t allow my cousins to be around me because I was pregnant at sixteen.
But it doesn’t complete what my parents set out for us. Their true goal, with us, was to help us to grow into adults with a stable career. That is the last step for me. Being the youngest of my sisters, I always wanted to do the things that they never could. It was difficult to stay up many late nights studying for my exams but the result was that I am ranked 10 out of 504 students in my class, a feat that my sisters would have never fathomed.
Education is a very important need in our lives because people are able to achieve and strive for a better life style. When I was younger, my parents would always tell me to do good in school and I never understood what that really meant. As I was becoming older I realized that education is very important in my life because most people in my family didn’t go to college and they had to work whole day from nine A.M. to nine P.M. and I didn’t want that to happen to me. My parents had sacrifice their lives to move to America so that I could get an education because in Vietnam education wasn’t free and that would mean the people who had money would have education there. I’m proud to be in America because if I was in Vietnam I would have done same job as my parents did in America.
I never viewed pregnancy as a bad thing that ended your life. Instead I viewed it as something special that definitely could change your life but it was something beautiful that not all women could have. I saw the struggles that my friends had throughout their pregnancy and after they had their babies. Many of my friends were not able to go out because they had to take care of their baby. They couldn’t buy themselves new clothes because they had to either buy their baby food or they had to buy their baby diapers or other necessities that they needed.
The last thing a teen would need is hearing her peers or peoples around her judge her for having a child as a teen, when it’s already hard enough to have a normal teenage life and go to school. Teen moms usually lose most of her friends during pregnancy (Taylor 1). “New moms need encouragement and support from everyone in their lives. If you don’t have anything nice to say to new moms when they return to school, don’t say anything at all,” heap advised (Taylor 1). It’s difficult for a teen to go back to school and face all of the negative judgments from their peers for having a baby.