For as long as we can remember, the idea that marriage is sacred, desirable, and even necessary has persisted in the western world. In a way, society has taught us that in order to live a normal, fulfilled life, one must find their soul mate, marry them, and spend the rest of eternity together. According to tradition, a perfect marriage is characterized by a husband that goes to work every day while the wife remains within the home cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the children. Tradition has further dictated that once the husband returns from work, the wife has dinner ready and the family sits down around the table to share a meal together. American literature is full of stories that both play on or challenge these traditional roles within a marriage. But, one might ask, does …show more content…
In "The Revolt of 'Mother, '" Sarah, unhappy with her husband 's decision to prioritize a new barn over a home for his family and his lack of understanding and willingness to discuss her feelings, seizes on an opportunity when her husband leaves the farm for a few days to seek out a new horse. While he is gone, Sarah and her children gather their belongings and move into the newly build barn, turning it into a home for their family. When Adoniram returns home, he is confused and upset that his wife made such a decision while he is gone. However, when he takes time to sit alone and reflect, he comes to understand that he was mistaken to not listen to his wife 's concerns and begins to weep as he sees what a new home means to his wife. This revelation gives the reader hope that Adoniram and Sarah both can move forward with the realization that good communication and allowing the wife to have a say in decision making, even if that is not traditionally how things are done, will lead to a much happier and more fulfilling
She is successful in doing this through the setting of the story and with the characters that fill the world of that time period. Just as most regionalist stories, “The Revolt of ‘Mother’” is set in a rural part of the country which is never really stated to the reader. She illustrates her setting choice with some literary realism aspects. For instance, when she describes the area around the Penn’s house as being “littered with farm wagons and piles of wood; on the edges, close to the fence and the house, the grass was a vivid green, and there were some dandelions”(Freeman). In this vivid description, she knowledgeably reveals the values of the region by including the wagons and wood. These items represent the hard work ethic known is this area. Freeman also uses the pretty setting to contrast Sarah Penn’s dark and repressed psychological landscape. Freeman could not have chosen any other setting because it would not have had much of a profound impact on the
The Bible which is seen as one of the most sacred text to man has contained in it not only the Ten Commandments, but wedding vows. In those vows couples promise to love, cherish, and honor each other until death does them apart. The irony of women accepting these vows in the nineteenth century is that women are viewed as property and often marry to secure a strong economic future for themselves and their family; love is never taken into consideration or questioned when a viable suitor presents himself to a women. Often times these women do not cherish their husband, and in the case of Edna Pontiellier while seeking freedom from inherited societal expectations and patriarchal control; even honor them. Women are expected to be caretakers of the home, which often time is where they remain confined. They are the quintessential mother and wife and are expected not to challenge that which...
Human beings are not isolated individuals. We do not wander through a landscape of trees and dunes alone, reveling in our own thoughts. Rather, we need relationships with other human beings to give us a sense of support and guidance. We are social beings, who need talk and company almost as much as we need food and sleep. We need others so much, that we have developed a custom that will insure company: marriage. Marriage assures each of us of company and association, even if it is not always positive and helpful. Unfortunately, the great majority of marriages are not paragons of support. Instead, they hold danger and barbs for both members. Only the best marriages improve both partners. So when we look at all three of Janie’s marriages, only her marriage to Teacake shows the support, guidance, and love.
Is marriage really important? There is a lot of controversy over marriage and whether it is eminent. Some people believe it is and some people believe it is not. These opposing opinions cause this controversy. “On Not Saying ‘I do’” by Dorian Solot explains that marriage is not needed to sustain a relationship or a necessity to keep it healthy and happy. Solot believes that when a couple gets married things change. In “For Better, For Worse”, Stephanie Coontz expresses that marriage is not what is traditional in society because it has changed and is no longer considered as a dictator for people’s lives. The differences between these two essays are the author’s writing style and ideas.
Bill Cosby once said that, “For two people in a marriage to live together day after day is unquestionably the one miracle the Vatican has overlooked.” J.J. Lewis (1995-2009) This famous comedian could not have been more correct when recognizing that every marriage will face a multiple number of challenges and is often difficult. Couples, once married, must find a way to end any struggles in order for the marriage to be successful. Marital traditions have changed greatly over the centuries and due to this, the opinion of what an ‘ideal marriage” consists of has changed as well. When reviewing the document “On Love and Marriage” the author (a Merchant of Paris) believes that marriage should not be an equal partnership, but one that pleases the husband to avoid conflict. This can be clearly seen through an examination of: the social, and political environment of the late fourteenth century, and the merchant’s opinions on the area of obedience to a husband, and how to avoid infidelity.
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In Mary Wilkins Freeman’s “The Revolt of ‘Mother’” Mother is the typical woman of the late 1890s, who was brought up to be subservient to men, as was common during the era. America was a completely patriarchal society at the end of the nineteenth century. Women had always been perceived as lesser beings than men; women were thought to be less intelligent, weaker, and generally less important than men. “The Revolt of ‘Mother’” was written just around the time when women started demanding their rights, strong women, like Sarah Penn. The characterization of ‘Mother’ as a meek woman strongly conveys an idea about real women standing up for themselves and their beliefs that was just the beginning of a women’s liberation movement toward reform.
“The revolt of mother” is a story of a woman's revolt against the male dominating society. Sarah Penn is a 19th century woman who cautiously fulfills all her obligations and duties as a mother and a wife. Adoniram is a 19th century man who is dominating and does not like to be questioned by his wife. Despite of having such a perfect wife, Adoniram never pays any attention to Sarah's demand of changing the house. Tired of being oppressed and ignored by her husband, Sarah decides to take the matters in her own hands. During Adoniram’s absence, Sarah moves into the barn for living and therefore frees herself from the clutches of male dominance. Her bold action represents the beginning of women liberation movement of the late 19th century.
Marriage is the legal or formally recognized union of a man and a woman, or two people or the same sex as partners in a relationship. Marriage rates in the United States have changed drastically since the last 90’s and early 2000 years (Cherlin 2004). Marital decline perspective and marital resilience perspective are the two primary perspectives and which we believe are the results from the decline. The marital decline perspective is the view that the American culture has become increasingly individualistic and preoccupied with personal happiness (Amato, 2004). The change in attitudes has changed the meaning of marriage as a whole, from a formal institution
When you think about family, what is the first thing that comes to mind? If you only thought about your parents or close relatives then you may have been caught in an “individual vs. family” paradox. Nearly every culture considers family important, but “many Americans have never even met all of their cousins” (Holmes & Holmes, 2002, p.19). We say we are family oriented, but not caring to meet all of our extended family seems to contradict that. Individual freedoms, accomplishments, and goals are all American ideals that push the idea of individualism. What's important to note is that family or even the concept of family itself doesn't appear in any of those ideals. Holmes and Holmes (2002), observed that “The family reunions of yesterday are now rare, and when they occur they are often a source of stress.” (p. 19) That quote solidifies one reason why family interaction today is : it's just too stressful, so we avoid it. Where does marriage fit into our culture of individuals? Marriage itself may be less of a family unifying event than a way for two individuals to obtain personal happiness; the climbing divorce rate alone seems to suggest the devaluation of commitment in a relationship. Likewise, the Holmes and Holmes (2002) state “marriage is in effect a continuation of courtship” (p. 19) In my opinion, I would have to agree with the authors on family and marriage, considering the above-stated facts and trends. If we, as a nation, can place the individual so far above our own relatives, are we not creating a future of selfishness?
In “The Revolt of Mother,” written by Mary E. Wilkins Freeman, along with the narrator, we can experience how human beings communicate. Time and setting are the most important definitions of a person’s life. A person cannot change the time he lives in. He lives in the present, the past, or the future. However, his place in location, he is able to choose himself. If a person lives in a city, on a farm, in the mountains, or by the ocean—this can define the nature of his daily activities and even his character. The heroes of this story lived nearly a century ago. They resided on a farm. This was a time when there weren’t a lot of modern accommodations. That’s why Mother and Father had to do everything themselves. Mother raised the children, milked the cow, and cooked the food, which she produced on her own farm. Father also had many responsibilities, such as tending to the animals and farming. They both worked a lot—completed their own given tasks. This separates them from each other, and at the same time, adds to their character.
“The Revolt of ‘Mother’” by Mary Wilkins Freeman, was a story of a woman who lived in New England around or before the author’s time. The mother, Sarah Penn, was kept out of the families decisions by the father, Adoniram Penn, until one event that lead to her taking drastic actions while her husband was gone. There are many religious symbols and actions taken by “Mother” within the story. Through the story Sarah moved from a feeling of servitude to her husband, to a feeling that she was in servitude to the Lords will and this led her, in the end, to hold power over her husband.
The way they talk about riding horses and living with livestock, it forms the scene of a countryside setting. "There ain't no use talkin', Mr. Hersey," said she. "I've thought it all over an' over, an' I believe I'm doin' what's right. I've made it the subject of prayer, an' it's betwixt me an' the Lord an' Adoniram. There ain't no call for nobody else to worry about it." (Freeman, “The Revolt of Mother”, 2017) She uses biblical references showing the religious background and beliefs the people came from. “The Revolt of Mother is one of Mary E. Wilkins Freeman’s most frequently anthologized stories, and, as an exemplary member of the local-color genre, its action is both poignant and culturally revealing.” (Gallagher, “The Explicator”, 1969) She writes about what is currently happening in her time period and brings voices to life throughout her short stories. In this case, it is the women who are considered housewives with only a few
“Till death do us part.” When taken literally, this is a powerful, committing set of words that over two million Americans swear to each year when they tie the knot (CDC). Despite the intensity of this phrase, the American Psychological Association shares that the current divorce rate in the United States is 40-50 percent. Suffice to say, the majority of these divorcees do not end their marriages because of death, but rather relationship troubles that cause the shared love to fade. Historical literature has suggested, particularly for females, complete transparency, freedom, and expression whilst being a part of a marriage has not always been easy to exercise. The work of several writers and public figures reflects this theme, as they look
In Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen shows examples of how most marriages were not always for love but more as a formal agreement arranged by the two families. Marriage was seen a holy matrimony for two people but living happil...