"I forgive them for the world; I forgive them because of family pressure, because of societal pressure. But in my heart, they will always be unforgiven" (NPR Staff).
Imagine being in that position, resenting and hating someone so much yet being forced to forgive him or her for the injustice they did. Imagine being put in this position solely due to your family disapproving of the man whom you wanted to marry and wanted to kill you. In the Oscar winning documentary “Girl in the River: The Price of Forgiveness” by Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy this is the position Saba is in. The documentary tells the story of Saba, an 18 year old girl who’s father and uncle attempt to kill her due to her marrying someone whom they did not approve of in order to protect
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Of these 93,000 women, 47% were killed by members of their family and intimate partners. 13,400 of these women were killed in Africa, 19,700 in Asia, 6,900 in America, 3,300 in Europe, and 200 in Oceania. (United Nations, 2014: Pg 14). The Forth World Conference on Women (in the Beijing Declaration) defined violence against women as “ a manifestation of the historically unequal power relations between men and women, which have led to domination over and discrimination against women by men and to the prevention of women’s full advancement.” (United Nations, …show more content…
If a man is assumed to be homosexual he maybe subjected to honour killing or honour suicide. Honour killing of LGBT people has become more frequent, as more urban areas in conservative countries experience increases in the numbers of the people who are open with their sexuality. The families of those people, often those who still live in less developed areas, believe these to be shameful thoughts and take it upon themselves to correct these transgressions. This trend gained international attention when in 2008 Ahmet Yildiz was killed by his father, Yahya, in Istanbul. Such crimes are not reported often in Turkey, so the few (16) reports compiled by gay rights organizations are predicted to drastically underrepresent the true numbers of honour killings. Recently another man came forward admitting proudly to have killed his brother. The situation is worsened by the fact that the government officially acknowledges homosexuality as an “illness” and barely investigates complaints made by the LGBT community. (Hilton, 2011)
There is a need to spread awareness of honour killing in order to bring the individulas practicing them to justice for their crimes. There was a slight increase in awareness of this issue thanks to Sharmeen Obaid-Chinoy’s documentry. This allowed pushed for the government of Pakistan to pass a bill punishing honour killings and caused for the man who shot his two sisters to
In her, “Between Vengeance and Forgiveness,” Martha Minow discusses, not only the tandem needs of truth and justice that arise and intersect in the wake of conflict but also the duality existing between the notions of vengeance and forgiveness that surface as needs, particularly in a society recovering from violence. The central question of Minow’s work explores the idea that there may be a need for middle ground between vengeance and forgiveness. For the purposes of this work, in delineating first the needs of victims and then the needs of society at large in the wake of violent conflict situations, it may be asserted the Minow’s middle ground abides at the intersection of acknowledgment of harms and retribution for harms committed. To demonstrate
In Heidi Durrow’s book, The Girl Who Fell From the Sky, she creates an eye opening story about the effects of one’s race and how they deal with society. Rachel, the protagonist of the story, is deeply impacted by her mixed race and society’s standards for her. Throughout the book she struggles with her identity, the loss of her family, and the ups and downs of life. No matter what happens to her, she always finds a way to survive, whether it’s jumping from a building or dealing with her fellow classmates. One thing anyone can learn from this story, is that even though it is difficult conforming with society and meeting society’s principles for us, one can overcome the standards set for all of us.
The Onion's article, "Girl Moved to Tears by Of Mice and Men Cliffs Notes" (2006) explains the reaction and reasoning behind University of Virginia sophomore communications major Grace Weaver and her choice to read the Cliffs Notes version of Of Mice and Men over the original. The Onion develops the major claim by including specific quotes from Weaver about her efforts in reading these Cliff Notes and the personal effect these summaries had on her while also going deeper by looking at her choice to read these summaries instead of the actual book. The Onion's purpose is to entertain readers with Weaver's experience in "reading" Of Mice and Men in a sardonic and cynical manner in order to bring awareness to a lack of understand and competence that can come with taking the shortcut with a task that deserves an actual attempt. Because of The Onion's use of direct quotes and small but forceful commentary, the tone is satirical and critical to an audience of individuals who have read Of Mice and Men and can laugh along with The Onion at Weaver's short-sighted pursuits and amateur response to the book she didn't really read which can serve as a reminder to the mediocre outcome that results from laziness.
The high rate of violent deaths in women has led to the international community; through different ways and means to require the authorities to take preventive and corrective measures about it.
The statistics available on violence against women are startling. Domestic violence is the major cause of death and disability for European women ages 16 to 44 and accounts for more deaths and injuries than automobile accidents and cancer. The Russian government estimates that over 14,000 women were killed by family members in 1999, but there is still no legislation that specifically addresses domestic violence. In South Africa, more women are shot in the home by relatives than are shot on the streets or by intruders (web.amnesty.org).
Forgiveness is crucial for a clear conscience and peace of mind for the both of them. However, all of this is arguable by the fact that today’s experiences are incomparable to those of Hitler’s times. One cannot begin to place one in each other’s shoes and know exactly how to respond to the events happening. One can only guess how they would respond, but until they are in that moment, all plausible reasoning can change. Nevertheless, forgiveness continues to be an aspect of everyday life in every century.
Grief Girl is a novel written by Erin Vincent about her and her sibling’s experience of losing both their mother and father. Vincent was only fourteen years old at the time of her parents’ death. The chapter goes into detail about the events of the night of Vincent’s parents’ death. Based on the chapter, I can conclude that Vincent definitely went through at least two of the stages of grief. The fact that the novel is nonfiction helps me connect with the emotions that Vincent felt that day. Her details are extremely vivid and it is recognizable that Vincent recalls the events from that day very well.
This violence or abuse involves acts made against women with the intent to harm the them or their lifestyle. According to the United Nations Declaration, violence against women is defined as, “Any act of gender-based violence that results in, or is likely to result in physical, sexual or psychological harm or suffering to women, including threats of such acts, coercion or arbitrary deprivation of liberty, whether occurring in public or in private life” (United Nations, 1993, article 1). This definition supports my theory that any action made to hurt women is based on gender stigma and inequality between genders. It also implies that the term “violence against women” is not limited to only physical abuse but instead comes in many forms, such as emotional and verbal abuse. In addition, any violence or abuse made towards a women is seen as “a major public health concern and a violation of human rights” (Heise et al.).
We see it effects us in our communities as well: when warring gangs call for a cease-fire after years of senseless killings; when a spouse accepts into his or her home, a marriage partner who has repented from unfaithfulness; when a former addict becomes sober, makes amends, and is fully restored to family and community. Each time we witness an act of forgiveness, we marvel at its power to heal, to break a seemingly unending cycle of pain. Forgiveness is something virtually all Americans aspire to. Following September 11, 2001, Palestinian and Israeli officials issued orders to pull back from aggression and violence. The world is witnessing astonishing acts of forgiveness and of seeking forgiveness. Forgiveness is the key that can unshackle us from a past that will not rest in the grave of things over and done with. As long as our minds are captive to the memory of having been wrong, then we are not free to wish for reconciliation with the one who wronged us.
United Nation (1993) Declaration on the elimination of violence against women: proceedings from the United Nation world conference on Human Rights G.A. res. 48/104, 48 GAOR Supp.(No. 49) at 217, Doc. A/48/49.https://www.unfpa.org/swp/2005/english/notes/page3.htm Accessed on April 2014
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“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”(Matthew 6:14-15, NIV) Husain Haddawy’s The Arabian Nights discusses many situations in which individuals learn to forgive others for the wrong that they have done against them. The Bible refers to the idea of forgiveness as an act not only for the person that has wronged you but for yourself; in order to grow, we have to forgive because if we do not, God will not forgive us. Haddawy’s literary work emphasizes the importance of forgiveness through the stories relating to the Demon and King Shahrayar.
Honor killings have become very common in Pakistan especially in Sindh and in tribal areas of Pakistan. In Pakistan hundreds of women are killed every year in the name of honor. Such a cruel custom has existed in our country from so many years. Honor killings are common in all over the country, though in some areas the incidents of honor killings have taken a shockingly high amount of incidents in recent years. In Azad Kashmir a mother helped her husband in killing their 15 year old daughter because they saw her talking to a young man. They killed her by dousing her acid. Her elder sister was not in favor of this custom and she was very anxious about that crime which her parents had committed. She demanded justice and police investigation for her sister but all went in vain because it was done in the name of so called ‘honour’. Our state also goes after the satisfaction of honor in foreign policy. Our society has become so cruel under the involuntarily accepted conduct guideline of the Taliban. The people who are killed in the name of honor are mostly women.
Forgiveness is freedom. There is a key that opens the door to healing, happiness and peace, that key is forgiveness. Forgiveness starts from you and it is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Forgiveness of both self and others is the most powerful tool we have, and it is readily attainable to all of us .Take a step of creating a kinder humanity by forgiving someone in your life. If you are convinced and ready to forgive, you may be wondering where to start. My suggestion is to start small by letting go of the grudges, bitterness and anger.
Violence against women appeared from a long time ago and happened in every country. It caused pain in both mental and physical for women. There were so many people trying to stop this problem but it was still not completely fixed. There are many reasons that lead to this issue all over the world. After many surveys and investigations, we realized that the main reason is Discrimination and Unequal power. Some legends and stories in the past made people think men’s role is more important than women’s role in society. And because men are stronger, more active than women so they can do more work. This also makes people think men deserve more rights than women. They soon forced on human’s mind that men are also...