Award-winning best-selling author Mandy Hale once stated, “Without negativity, life would be amazing.” But this statement is incorrect. Many people believe that avoiding negative people can help bring you a positive life, but that isn’t always the case. Studies show that negativity can actually help people in some ways. For example, negativity can actually change people for the better, break poor society standards, and cause broken relationships to be fixed.
One of the many ways negativity can help you is by changing people for the better. For example, whenever there is an offense, the first reaction people have is to throw the person in jail. However, studies show that this is not the always the best solution. Mistakes can actually change
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These standards even cause the best of friends to break up, as shown in the novel Uglies. Tally, the protagonist in this novel, lives in a community where everyone is expected to be pretty, and everyone that is “normal” is ugly. This causes Tally to have negative experiences everywhere she goes. Tally and her best friend Peris have a really weak connection because of this. Tally states, ”He [Peris] said that they’d be best friends again, once she was pretty. But the way he looked at her face… maybe that was why they separated Uglies from Pretties” (Westerfeld 25). Through this quote, the writer implies that Tally feels uncomfortable about her appearance. She feels that she needs to be turned into a pretty for society to accept her so she says that she wants to. But, when it is her turn to be turned into a pretty, she runs away and decides not too. This shows that even though Tally did want to become a pretty, she decided not to because she realizes that this is a useless standard the society provides. When breaking this society standard, many people around her have also started breaking this rule. By the end of the book, the “Special Committee” caught the group of escapees and Tally surrendered herself to save her close friend …show more content…
Negative experiences such as broken relationships have a big effect on how people act when in difficult situations, especially when by themselves. Jacinda, the main character in the story How to Tell Renata, proves this. Renata, Jacinda’s mother, is dating a man named Jerry. But, Jacinda feels uncomfortable around him because she feels as if he has been sexually harassing her, but she is afraid to tell Renata about this. When deciding about how she could tell Renata, she thinks, “If she doesn’t believe me, she’ll hate me, thinking I’m lying about the guy she loves. Or maybe she will believe me, and hate me even more” (Holeman 2). Through this quote, the writer implies that Renata and Jacinda have a broken relationship. The fact that Jacinda feels that she can not tell Renata about her problems entails that the relationship between Jacinda and Renata’s relationship is very weak. Now, Jacinda does not have anyone to talk to and is dealing this major problem on her own. When Jacinda finally has enough courage to speak to Renata, Renata already found out about the issue and was ready with “arms unfold[ing] from across her chest and ris[ing, opening…” (Holeman 4). This passage suggests that the long-lasting broken relationship that was separating Renata and Jacinda has finally been broken and that they have reunited. The conflict that has now been crushed demonstrates how negative experiences can bring
Mary Hoge had gone into labor Sunday 23rd of July 1972 giving birth to her fifth child, Robert Hoge. When Robert Hoge was born, his own mother didn’t want him. Robert’s mother Mary thought he was too ugly, that he was, in appearance, a monstrous baby. Robert was born with a tumor the size of a tennis ball right in the middle of his face and with short twisted legs. Robert was born in Australia, where he would have to undergo numerous operations that carried very high risk in order to try and live a “normal” life.
To conclude, positivity is the better solution to a conflict. It can help you look at things in a different perspective.Your outcome will surely be better with a better attitude. If Anne Frank, Louise Ogawa, and Ella Vangheem can do it, so can
Award-winning author Mandy Hale once stated, “Without negativity, life would be amazing.” However, this statement does not always prove to be true. Today’s modern community generates a judgement that negative experiences will ruin your life, but studies show that negativity can actually result in positive change. For example, negativity can positively change teenagers actions, introduce teenager’s to more supportive environments, and help fix broken relationships.
In the Uglies, being a pretty is the one thing everyone can’t wait to be. If you’re not a pretty, you’re pretty much thought of as useless until you turn 16 and get to have the long awaited surgery that transforms your face into something completely new and better. It is nearly impossible for Uglies to not want to look pretty. Even if one was to hate another, they would still want to look and be like them if they had big eyes or full lips. The text says, “There was a certain kind of beauty, a prettiness that everyone could see. Big eyes and full lips like a kid's; smooth, clear skin; symmetrical features; and a thousand other little clues. Somewhere in the backs of their minds, people were always looking for these markers. No one could help seeing them, no matter how they were brought up. A million years of evolution had made it part of the human brain” (Westerfeld 19). In other words, Tally is saying that it is part of their biology to want to be pretty. There is almost no freedom in Tally’s world and the only way to be accepted is to undergo the surgery and look like everyone else. The author is showing today's generation that this will be the future if teenagers keep idolizing and doing the same things as celebrities. Teenagers see someone they idolize with big lips and go get lip injections or see someone with long eyelashes and get eyelash extensions instead of just embracing how they
The line “ and you’ll be ugly forever,” (225) conveys how people’s first instinct of you is to judge no matter what, they may not even know who you are but that’s the natural instinct. This quote shows how even though someone else may think you’re ugly in someone else's eyes that person could be perfect. Tally Youngblood started to realize this when David, a friend she met at The Smoke, kept complimenting her about the way she looked, but she had never looked at herself in a different way other than an ugly. David sees her as a perfect girl, but even perfect girls have flaws. Tally seems to think that everything about her is a flaw. She's never looked at herself from a different perspective. “... but uglies have an easier time trusting someone like me…”(356) Uglies have an easier time trusting anyone than pretties, because they're uglies and they don’t understand the hardships that the pretties may face, even though they live in the same society. Uglies may think pretties have it easy but they haven’t experienced that life
Ever hear one say, “Sometimes I’m busy making others happy, that I forget to make sure I’m okay.”? After reading Barbara Ehrenreich’s Bright-Sided I have learned that balancing both positive and negative thinking is the single most important life lesson shown throughout the book. Ehrenreich tells readers that the power of positive thinking Is undermining America and how being too positive and too optimistic, can lead to trouble. One that knows how to balance the amount of positivity and negativity will create a proper outcome for their future.
Having a positive outlook can be very important when being involved in a conflict or trying to solve one. This is how Anne Frank and Louise Ogawa from First Read: Dear Miss Breed got through the roughest times of their lives. They kept a positive outlook on things and tried to make the best of the worst. Just looking on the bright side, even if it feels like there isn’t one can make a huge difference. As a great thinker, such as Joyce Meyer, once said, ‘’A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances, having power over you’’. If they did not maintain a positive outlook, then who knows how they would have survived. Having a positive outlook gives you the strength to keeping going
If someone thinks negatively towards something the outcome will not be good, and vice versa. Thinking you can achieve the American dream is a major key in doing so, and some Americans are already on the right track. In the U.S., a survey showed that 36 percent of Americans say they have achieved the dream, and another 46 percent believe they are on the path of achieving it. It is not so easy, though, to always look on the bright side. Sometimes it seems as if nothing is going right; that is when negativity occurs. People can argue that mindset has little impact on the outcome, or that it does not matter how positive a person is because some things are just not meant to be. An article, however, proves this wrong. The paper argues how negative emotions prevent humans from flourishing; it also states, “if your ratio of positive to negative emotions is greater than 2.9013 to one, you will flourish both physically and psychologically.” If a person believes in themselves, they are more likely to accomplish their
In this story the main character, Tally, changed a lot. First of all, she was so set on becoming a pretty, she new she was an Ugly and she wanted to change that. “She put her fingers up to her face, felt the wide nose and thin lips, the too-high forehead and tangled mass of frizzy hair” (p. 8). This quote shows that Tally was very aware that she did not fit it with the pretties, she was very ready to change they way she looked to fit in. During the course of the story Tally wanted to stay ugly. She totally changed her perspective on the way she looked. I think was also one of the biggest turning points in the story.
In this book, Shinn discusses how you can change your way of thinking in order to lead a more fulfilled life. She touches on the fact that many people often bring bad incidents upon themselves due to having a negative perspective. For
Adkins, Ben. "Negativity brings everybody down." Fort Worth Business Press 17.48 (2004): 32. MasterFILE Premier. EBSCO. Web. 28 Oct. 2011.
All of our emotions play a big role in our lives. Even though it does not feel like it at the moment, negative feelings can be a good thing.If we never become sad, angry, or scared we would not be able to appreciate the true value of happiness, we would only focus on ourselves and happiness, and we would become less alert to threats and dangerous situations around us.
Beauty is dangerous, especially when you lack it. In the book "The Bluest Eye" by Toni Morrison, we witness the effects that beauty brings. Specifically the collapse of Pecola Breedlove, due to her belief that she did not hold beauty. The media in the 1940's as well as today imposes standards in which beauty is measured up to; but in reality beauty dwells within us all whether it's visible or not there's beauty in all; that beauty is unworthy if society brands you with the label of being ugly.
The reason for this article is to figure out which different techniques have a better impact on stopping or decreasing negative thinking. It is to also help people learn how to overpower the negative with the positive. Negativity has a way of controlling our life and stops us from
...and goal oriented people you will most likely get the best out of life. If you decide to surround yourself with negative people who don’t have anything to look forward to in life, then you’re setting yourself up to be unsuccessful. Those negative people will try their hardest to bring you down with them.