Marriage In The Great Gatsby

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Love is an intense feeling of deep affection for someone or something. It is pure and true feeling. What happens if something could change what we thought we loved? Finding love or being in a relationship is never easy, but it does not help when the people in the relationship are focused on money or social status like in the 1920s. In F. Scott Fitzgerald's, The Great Gatsby, the ideas of love and marriage has been clouded by money and the desire for The American dream lifestyle.
Tom and Daisy have a relationship that involves cheating, the desire for social acceptance, wealth, confidence, pompous mannerisms, and, despite everything, true love. They both loved each other, and they enjoyed the thought of how they appeared, a rich lavish living …show more content…

When Gatsby and Myrtle die, they both come back to each other and the safety of the wealth they share. “They were careless people, Tom and Daisy - they smashed up things and creatures and then retreated back into their money or their fast carelessness or whatever it was that kept them together, and let other people clean up the mess they had made…”(Fitzgerald 179) Their relationship and common interests they shared were centered around the wealth they had accumulated. The mindset that they could buy anything, lead them to live their lives the same way. They believed they could do anything or have anyone they wanted without repercussions. They represented, “ The type of millionaire that is anchored in a solid tradition of socially acceptable (because inherited) wealth and the the power derived from it”(Lean 40). Tom and Daisy appear to be the American Dream couple who party all night and have fun. The relationship consists of two individuals who live life recklessly knowing someone else will clean up their …show more content…

For Gatsby, the relationship was everything. When Gatsby first met Daisy he was automatically drawn to her for many reasons. “It excited him too, that many men had already loved Daisy - it increased her value in his eyes”(Fitzgerald 149). Gatsby loved that she has dated many men but none have been able to stay with her, in his eyes it made her look like a prize to win.
Gatsby believed he was in love with Daisy, but in reality, Gatsby was in love with Daisy’s lifestyle and what she represented. “She vanished into her rich house, into her rich, full life, leaving Gatsby nothing - he felt married to her, that was all” (Fitzgerald 149). He had a small taste of the wealthy lifestyle and automatically wanted more. Explain quote
When Gatsby left for war he automatically started to build up his wealth and social position. “Gatsby in not educated and in an attempt to win Daisy, he grasps at the most superficial aspects of the American Dream, gaining wealth without acquiring knowledge, insight, or wisdom”(Naqel 118). Gatsby wanted to return to Daisy and be rich enough for her and live with her. Gatsby over fantasized the day he would come back and hoped Daisy would come running to him because he was wealthy. “The desire for realism leads Gatsby to seek, to marry Daisy Buchanan. Marriage to her would mean a marriage into the families of the elite”(Wyly 65). Daisy represented a gateway to the wealthy elite

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