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Love And Rejection: Breaking Up

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Love and Rejection: Breaking Up

Some felt they were a modern day Romeo and Juliet. The reality, however, is that they were a heartbreaking example of what can go wrong with adolescents. Christian Dalvia, 14 and Maryling Flores, 13 were sweethearts who were forbidden by Flores' mother to see each other. In early November, 1995, the young couple met one last time. Standing at the edge of a Florida canal, they joined hands and jumped 15 feet into the cold, murky water to their deaths.
Their deaths may sound romantic, even heroic to other teenagers when, in actuality, it's just plain stupid. There were probably many other reasons for their deaths, but ultimately, the thought of not being together tortured to the point of wanting to take their own lives. This is a very extreme example of what can go wrong with teenage heartbreak. One minute they're inseperable - sharing their most intimate thoughts and details - the next minute they are faces across a crowded room or polite acquaintances at best. These are the consequences that come along with a breakup.
We teens hear about love all around us, in music and movies, on TV, in stories. We hear that love will make us happy. We hear that single people are lonely. We are told that if we are not part of a couple, we are not complete.
We all want to be part of this thing called ‘love'.
Okay, we get a boyfriend or girlfriend, now everything should be perfect.
But, it's not perfect, because life never is. It is easy to become disappointed. Feelings can change. One person may decide to say good-bye.
When that happens, the one left behind will feel rejected.
Rejection means choosing between one thing and another. The one who feels rejected thinks as if they are not good enough. It hurts. When the person you love decides to leave you, it is even more painful. Does rejection mean failure? No. The end of a relationship means that the boyfriend or girlfriend decided that s/he wanted a change. The reasons for this are within the ex - not within the rejected person. No one is a less valuable person because their boyfriend or girlfriend's feelings have changed. What To Expect
There are nine stages of rejection that almost all “dumpees” must go through. The pain may be awful, but each stage is part of the healing process.
The stages may not follow in an exact order, but they will all be experienced.
The Denial Phase: “This can't be happening.” During this stage, people may find themselves waiting for the phone to ring and not believing that the

In this essay, the author

  • Narrates how a young couple met one last time at the edge of florida canal.
  • Describes the extreme examples of extreme suicide.
  • Opines that no one is a less valuable person than the rejected person.
  • Opines that if a woman doesn't call her, she will change his/her mind.
  • Describes how they feel pain in their chest, or want to throw up when they think of the person or see them.
  • Explains the blame phase: pointing the finger at you or at your ex for what each of you has done.
  • Opines that their ex doesn't believe in their temper.
  • Narrates how she told him she would tell his mom he'd been doing drugs.
  • Opines that the underhanded ploy to make tom upset is not a mature way of thinking.
  • Advises abusing people to seek help and break off all contact with the person they're abused with.
  • Opines that reunions can be valuable when the time is right.
  • Advises against rushing a reunion with your ex — give yourself plenty of time for the reunion.
  • Describes the things that hurt, wanted, feared, and what you wanted.
  • Opines that parents don't have time to waste on their children's reactions.
  • Explains that children have to assume the role of the other parent.
  • Explains that teens hear about love all around them, in music, movies, tv, stories, and that single people are lonely.
  • Explains that each stage is part of the healing process. the stages may not follow in an exact order, but they will all be experienced.
  • Analyzes how someone who is obsessed with driving by the ex's house or place of work, calls the other just to hear his or her voice, and tries to cover it up with lies like, "i was just in the neighborhood."
  • Opines that one should accept that it's over, stop asking why, realize and accept their emotions, and decide to let go.
  • Explains that many of us entertain the fantasy of seeing an ex and having him or her say, "you were right all along, take me back!" this would restore your feeling that you and your love mattered, but it only happens in a few cases.
  • Opines that adults have more to worry about than teenagers. they are severely depressed because they have their whole life ahead of them.
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