In her book, Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus, Kathleen Bogle studied the different relationship trends over the past 100 years. She explained how young adults shifted from calling on each to dating each other to now hooking up with each other (Bogle 2008). In today’s society, college-aged adults have adopted the practice of hooking up, which involves different levels of intimacy (kissing to sex) without a long-term commitment to one’s partner. Throughout her research, Bogle explored the social script for hooking up and the different relationship dynamics for young adults due to this practice (2008). Due to the multiple levels of intimacy involved in hooking up, the term, “hooking up,” can indicate many different actions. …show more content…
Bogle concluded, “Hooking up is dominant on campus, but it represents a wide range in terms of level of participation and sexual behaviors” (2008:183). Students mentioned that they rely on non-verbal cues when initiating, discussing and terminating hookups. In Sounds of Silence, Hall and Hall state, “Through ways so subtle that they lie beyond even our own perception- and ways so obvious that no one can miss the message- we communicate feelings of comfort and discomfort, trust and distrust, pleasure or tension, suspicion, uncertainties, desires, and a host of other feelings and concerns” (2007:109). In their interviews, students recall the importance of a potential partner’s vibe. By subtle nuances, a student can tell that a person is interested in a hookup and that they are ready to leave to go hook up. At the end of a hookup, one of the partners will signal the end of the encounter (Bogle 2008). With little verbal communication, two students can easily follow the proper social script to correspond one’s intentions. Most importantly, students have a non-verbal agreement that a hookup does not indicate a commitment to each other. Across all type of hookups, students do not automatically enter a relationship with one another due to hooking …show more content…
The process of hooking up does not lend itself well to a city setting where people cannot walk to their destinations. Also, females begin to stress the importance of building connections with their male partners before any sexual interactions occur. This is due to the lack of network connections outside of a college setting. It is harder to determine a person’s background and personality when a one does not live in such a small community anymore. The only similarity between undergraduates and alumni is that the double standard between men and women still exist. The social norm for men is to have had multiple sexual partners; whereas, women are expected to have had a small number of sexual partners. In Bogel’s study, males mentioned that they would never be interested in a female that was as sexually active as a male (Bogel 2008). Beth Montemurro explains, “American media have presented conflicting images of girls and women, images that paint them as either innocent or promiscuous, resulting ‘schizophrenic [ideas] about women’s sexuality” (2006:152). With this confusing representation of women’s sexuality, women do not truly understand what they should consider deviant behaviors. Women only know they have been deviant when a male labels them as being too promiscuous, while they are being just as sexually
Donna Freitas “Time to Stop Hooking Up. (You Know You Want to.)” First appeared as an editorial in the Washington Post in 2013. In this essay Freitas aims to convince her readers that hooking up may seem easy and less stress than a real relationship, but in reality they become unhappy, confused, and unfulfilled in their sex life. “Hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex” personal experience, compare and contrast are a few techniques Freitas skillfully uses to strong convincing essay.
As stated in the book, “college students have much to teach about sex” (8). That is because the values, ideologies, and worldviews of the students are representative of greater American culture. Although flawed, hookup culture on American campuses hold the possibility of accepting a culture of inclusivity, care, pleasure, and freedom while also rejecting predatory behavior, racism, classism, and abuse. Dismissing hookup culture all together is blind to the reality that young adults are going to have sex, and since sex is non-negotiable, one’s aim should be to foster open dialogue and critical thought onto a future where everyone enjoys the ability to freely explore sexuality, sex, and gender on their own
Donna Freitas in The End of Sex gives her thoughts on how hookup culture is affecting specifically college students. Her judgment comes out of a space where she wants, “to empower them (participants in hookups) to seek the kinds of relationships they want…” (16). Though her perspective comes from a good place, her argument has points that are shaming, archaic, dismissive, and one sided. Her argument seems to be that of a pro-woman stance at times, neglecting one of the key feminism ideals of choice. Freitas uses patriarchal arguments to back up her ideas, tarnishing her perspectives that come off as woman empowering. The book, The End of Sex, neglects to be conscious of female independence
According to the article “Tinder and the Dawn of the “Dating Apocalypse,’” “People used to meet their partners through proximity, through family and friends, but now Internet meeting is surpassing every other form” (Sales). Jo Sales’ point is that the Internet is overtaking other ways of meeting a partner. In the past, the way of finding one’s potential partner was through family members, but now society is moving in the direction of using the Internet as a way to find their partners. Students in college provided a great amount of information regarding hookup culture, which supported Jo Sales arguments. According to Martin Monto and Anna Carey, “Current research and the popular media have claimed that the hookup culture is a widespread phenomenon that has replaced traditional dating...” (Monto and Carey 606). In making this comment, traditional relationships that were once said to be loving and caring have moved to sexual activity called hookups. Research shows how hookup culture has overtaken the roots of traditional dating and will continue to expand in the future. The study shows how college students were involved in one-night stands frequently knowing that they do not want to build a long lasting relationship. Traditional dating in the past formed stable relationships, and the idea of hookup culture was not even a topic of discussion. Questions
Hooking up on a college campus has its positives and negatives. First off men benefit more from hooking up than women do. Women benefit more from traditional dating. The article “To Hook Up or Date: Which Gender Benefits?” by Carolyn Bradshaw, Arnold S. Kahn, and Bryan K. Saville explains how men benefit from hooking up and how women benefit from traditional dating. It explains the consequences of hooking up and the consequences of traditional dating. Hooking up has become so popular on college campuses that it has become the norm. In the article it explained how both genders have a similar ideas to hooking up as well as similar ideas to traditional dating. Both genders said hooking up is more popular than traditional dating because there is no commitment to continue the relationship. You meet a stranger at a party and if there is alcohol involved it makes the “hooking up” an easier process. You then start flirting with the stranger and engage in sexual behavior whether it is kissing or having sex. Traditional dating does have its benefits as well because you have the feeling of being liked/loved and also your partner is a friend to share happy moments with. The article did mentioned that both genders wanted a traditional date if you knew the other person had the same feelings for you.
When you hear the term “hooking up” you generally think of a sexual encounter with a stranger, but as explained in the book Hooking Up: Dating, Sex, and Relationships on Campus by Kathleen Bogle, this is not the true definition of the term because there is no true definition of the word. Bogle effectively addresses the social issue of hooking up as well as accurately addresses the ambiguity of the term itself in her book as he goes through the history of dating and how things have progressively changed over the last 115 years as well as the atmosphere of the college campus and how it is ideal for hooking up. She moves into the actual hook up and what exactly that consists of, next into the biases between the sexes and then into relationships after college and how they differ from the ones in college.
In "Fraternities and Collegiate Rape Culture" Ayres Boswell and Joan Z. Spade analyze the social perspective of the gendered relations in male fraternities that add to the high rate of violence against women on many college campuses. They list a host of factors that distinguish higher-risk from lower-risk atmospheres discussing the rates of rape in colleges and state how "1 out of 4 college women say they were raped or experienced an attempted rape" (217). Additionally, "1 out of 12 college men say they forced a woman to have sexual intercourse against her will" (Boswell, Spade 217). In other words Boswell and Spade indicated that the rates were high when it came down to women getting raped in colleges by men who also attended those colleges. In addition, Boswell and Spade specify in how most people are aware of rape but know very little about rape culture (Boswell, Spade 217).
Relationships are not convenient for college students, whereas hookups or booty calls are. The lack of emotional connections and commitment are what draws millennials to hookups rather than committed relationships. Although, hookups do have drawbacks as well. For instance, hookups can lead to STIs or even unwanted pregnancy is precautions are not taken. All in all, hookups are becoming more and more popular and are on their way to totally replace intimate relationships in the college
In my earlier development in high school, I had talked with a school counselor about the broader social structure of college, which has become realized as part of my emerging social development into adulthood. Emotionally, I am learning to talk more with my friends at school, which offer s a much more mature interaction than the emotional connection I had with friends in high school. I can cry, express deep emotions, and reflect on my feelings with greater trust and freedom in college. Finally, I am involved in a relationship with a guy or girl (depending the customer’s sex identity), which is providing a more profound understanding of intimacy and healthy sexual relations at the collegiate level. I am searching for a long-term commitment from a partner, which defines my maturation from the process of “dating” in high
Traditional gender roles have been gradually confronted in the recent decades with the rise of activism for the LGBTQ+ community. With that it seems as if the Millennial generation has started to become more accepting of different identities and has become more unwilling to label themselves than the previous generation. In their book Millennials rising: The next great generation, Howe and Strauss (2000) are creditied with dating the Millennial generation as those born in 1982 through 2004. Thus studies conducted with college students starting in 2000 is representative of the Millennial generation. Sexual attitudes are a person’s beliefs about certain sexuality influenced by many factors including culture (Abrams, 2016). A longitudinal study of 4 years will be done to analyze the progression of sexual attitudes and behaviors of first-year students throughout their experiences in college. The longitudinal design will allow for a complete analysis of developing sexual attitudes and behaviors from this community. Not enough research has been done investigating the gradual fluidity or rigidity of sexual behaviors and attitudes in students as a result of their experiences in college campuses. It is important to study this change in sexuality and attitudes to better reduce the beliefs of myths
In the United States, patterns of socialization exist that encourage men to feel they are expected to gain sexual access from reluctant women. They are more likely to be put in the position of decision maker and initiator in hetero-sexual relationships (Glass, 2002). Sex-role stereotypes encompass expected behaviors of both genders and through sexual scripts, guide expectations of how men and woman should interact with each other as strangers. Even though stranger-rape seems to be the least accepted type of rape scenario, men are often excused for being sexually aggressive while women are blamed for certain actions they
Kelly presents several interconnected elements to support his argument that the “Hookup” culture, commonly found on college campuses is morally problematic. Kelly defines a hookup as the practice of pursuing a sexual activity without any expectation of a relationship. He also provides four other requirements to help narrow down his definition of hookup culture. These requirements are, lack of commitment, acceptance of ambiguity, a role with alcohol, and social pressure to conform. These elements when paired with sexual activity outside of a relationship generate the potential for gender power struggle, abuse, manipulation and inequality.
Media showcase college as a huge frat party with loud music every hour, red plastic cup thrown on the ground, fraternity boy around every corner and SEX. Most adolescents' and young adults' enter college thinking they will only receive this experience and increase their sexual behaviors while being away from home. Hookups are common among the college community, typically freshman year. The young adults today views college as a place of freedom from all supervising adults; which means they will not have set curfews and rules to abide by. Hookups are sexual encounters between two individuals who are strangers, which only last for one night (Paul, McManus, and Hayes 2000:76). Hookups could be intercourse, oral sex, mutual masturbation, kissing,
Paul, E. L., & Hayes, K. A. (2002). The casualties of “casual” sex: A qualitative exploration of the phenomenology of college students’ hookups. Journal of personal and Social Relationships, 19, 639-661.
The reason that many students find casual sex appealing is the fact that it is wrong. We as human beings find the danger of doing some thing wrong intriguing. We are animals and are always testing our limits. Sex is an explored subject that is hushed as we are children growing up. We are taught that is not to be talked about and that we should always have boundaries before we practice this interesting, yet provocative action. As college students we are free from all authority and we tend to explore these new actions. Our animal instincts kick in and we are soon experiencing new emotions and feelings that we end up succumbing to under different circumstances. We explore all the different things that we are shunned away from as children and are able to do so without any authority telling us other wise. Our boundaries are set free and then we are dealt with the choice of emotional sex or casual sex. Most people do not see the emotional side of sex until they become older. As college s...