Insecurity is a primary emotion that overpoweringly defines an individual’s self-perception and it affects their attitude. Insecurity comes from not having enough self-assurance. As individuals grow older they implement malicious thoughts about themselves and others. They then throughout their lives maintain those insecurities by believing their self-deprecating thoughts. Insecurity stems from wanting acceptance, leads to jealousy, and dependence on others. Insecurity comes from seeking for acceptance through others. Insecurity can be seen in people who can’t think for themselves without validation or someone who can’t be happy without validation from others. Someone who can’t be their self around others in fear of them not accepting who they are. Many young people believe that if they associate themselves with those who appear to be confident that they are going to be accepted and that’s how they’ll gain their confidence. However, this does the complete opposite. Being surrounded by people that an individual is constantly looking for approval from is damaging. They are repetitively never good enough for anyone and never assure of acceptance. Picture a young girl name Isadora in high school. She’s in a group of six girls and at least once a week someone would be …show more content…
People can never experience their true character when hiding behind a façade of self-doubt. Not only are these individuals hurting themselves, but they are also harming their relationships with others. Insecurity comes from the lack of confidence in an individual. Wanting approval is shown in those who are insecure. When this emotion grows it becomes something as ugly as jealousy. As well as an addiction to the dependency of another person. Nevertheless, insecurity is a powerful emotion that creates a negative effect on an individual’s ability to view themselves positively and impacts their
A contributing element to someone who is insecure mindset is thinking they don’t deserve someone, so they will do anything to please them. “I skip English everyday so you and me can ride to school together”; she gives up one of the biggest parts of her education to ride to school with Raheem. She holds back what she wants to say and do to please Raheem. Her willingness to do and say anything even if it goes against what she really thinks shows that she thinks that’s the only way he’ll stay with her.
Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities or self-respect. Janie from Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neal Hurston and Jefferson from A Lesson Before Dying by Ernest Gaines both struggle with establishing a positive self-esteem or a sense of self-worth. Both characters get so overwhelmed by the supremacy of someone or something around them that they doubt their own power, thus, creating a feeling of doubt for themselves and the voice that they have. In order to gain a sense of high self-esteem, a person must endure points of self-doubt.
Ordinary People by Judith Guest is the story of a dysfunctional family who relate to one another through a series of extensive defense mechanisms, i.e. an unconscious process whereby reality is distorted to reduce or prevent anxiety. The book opens with seventeen year old Conrad, son of upper middle-class Beth and Calvin Jarrett, home after eight months in a psychiatric hospital, there because he had attempted suicide by slashing his wrists. His mother is a meticulously orderly person who, Jared, through projection, feels despises him. She does all the right things; attending to Jared's physical needs, keeping a spotless home, plays golf and bridge with other women in her social circle, but, in her own words "is an emotional cripple". Jared's father, raised in an orphanage, seems anxious to please everyone, a commonplace reaction of individuals who, as children, experienced parental indifference or inconsistency. Though a successful tax attorney, he is jumpy around Conrad, and, according to his wife, drinks too many martinis. Conrad seems consumed with despair. A return to normalcy, school and home-life, appear to be more than Conrad can handle. Chalk-faced, hair-hacked Conrad seems bent on perpetuating the family myth that all is well in the world. His family, after all, "are people of good taste. They do not discuss a problem in the face of the problem. And, besides, there is no problem." Yet, there is not one problem in this family but two - Conrad's suicide and the death by drowning of Conrad's older brother, Buck. Conrad eventually contacts a psychiatrist, Dr. Berger, because he feels the "air is full of flying glass" and wants to feel in control. Their initial ses...
In the book Status Anxiety, the author Alain de Botton introduces different thesis on Status in his words status is something that people desire. He often reflects on how people gain status through the eyes of others if people could obtain status in the eyes of their own self than the world might be a better place to live in. He compares status to personal needs of human: such as love, the expectation that society has for people, how status is obtained by snobbery, the meritocracy people live in, and how people use their dependence for advantages and disadvantages. At the beginning of the book before chapter one begins the definition of status is displayed the books definition of status is “One’s position in society” After reading this the
Self-esteem involves evaluations of self-worth. People with high self-esteem tend to think well of others and expect to be accepted them.
In the depths of an individual’s being, lies his or her self-worth. Self-worth molds individuals into who they are, what they want to become. Self-worth lies at the heart of self-esteem. Self-esteem is, Palladino (1994) a blend of “self-confidence, self-worth, and self-respect. It involves respecting others, [along with] feeling a sense of harmony and peace within yourself” (sec.1p.1). The secret to higher self-esteem is the incentive to take accountability for one’s viewpoints, such as his or her aspirations, ethics, capabilities, and curiosities and to understand that these things combined is what makes them who they are (Palladino, 1994). However, the quest of higher self-esteem at times will cause sacrifices to be made by the individual to education, relationships, self-regulation, mental and physical health, as well as other concerns (Crocker & Knight, 2005).
Self-esteem is a powerful force within each one of us. It is a person’s overall assessment
Heavy self-criticism, envy and a pessimistic attitude follow (Kirsh, 2005). Three states of self-esteem are identified: Strong self-esteem is when they have a positive self-image and are secure enough to make decisions and remain unaffected by any adverse scenario that would cause detrimental effects. Vulnerable self-esteem is when there is a positive self-image yet their ability to maintain it is not reliable. People with a vulnerable self-esteem avoid making decisions, blame others when situations were to turn sour to protect their own reputation. People who do not regard themselves as admirable or valuable, defeated and immerse in self-pity, define shattered self-esteem. Shattered self-esteem is undoubtedly related to low self-esteem
In Alain de Botton’s book, Status Anxiety, he argues that the aim of humorists is not solely entertainment, but also to convey a message that isn’t always okay to state directly. There are many places where his argument can apply. Even with humor, some topics are still too controversial to joke about; However, in most cases, humor can lighten things up and make it easier to discuss topics that otherwise would not be as easy to talk about without heavy arguments. There are many cases that would make his argument true. There are many examples that support his argument, and that help to show the importance of humor in arguing, including cartoons, comics, works of literature, and also when thinking of hosts of television programs.
Humor is very prevalent in today’s society. However, Is it vital? In his 2004 book, Status Anxiety, Alain de Botton argues that the chief aim of humorists is not merely to entertain but to discuss topics that might otherwise be “dangerous or impossible to state directly.” To begin, it is important to understand what humor is and how it differs from satire. Humor is anything that makes us laugh, while satire is a genre of literature which uses humor as a tool to convey an argument (Singh, 68).
Insecurity is a power drill that drills through one’s confidence and destroys their self-esteem. Whether it be looking in the mirror and being unsatisfied with one’s appearance, or having to speak up in a meeting. Insecurities have the ability to control one’s life and emotions. As Vin Diesel always says, “It's insecurity that is always chasing you and standing in the way of your dreams.” As a matter of fact, insecurities can come to one in many ways such as body language, personal habits, and society’s expectations.
Self-esteem touches everything about a person’s belief about himself and his emotional state. One’s belief can be positive e.g. I love myself, I am a great person. On the other hand, it can be negative e.g. I am useless or I am too fat. Furthermore, emotional state include shame, pride, joy, despair etc.
Most of the time, the feeling of being insecure give people a reason to change their way of thinking
One of the main themes of Possession: A Romance by A.S. Byatt is the idea that while searching for the truth of a subject the researchers becomes possessed by their search. Byatt uses many characters as a vehicle for this idea, but the best character that illustrates this would be Mortimer Cropper. Mortimer Cropper is a Randolph Henry Ash scholar. Randolph Henry Ash is one of the most renowned poets in the novel. He is very famous and is an inspiration and influence to many of the poets in the modern age. Mortimer Cropper is the biggest collector and most well-known Ash scholar. He spends his live obsessed with anything having to do with Randolph Ash. From the start of the novel Mortimer Cropper is introduced as a very intimidating and possessive character. When new Ash artifacts are found and his rival Blackadder finds out of them he talks about Cropper immediately by saying “Cropper will have been through [the artifacts] with a tooth comb [already]”(Byatt 35). This shows just how possessed with his work Cropper really is. New artifacts, that no one has ever seen, of Randolph Henry Ash have been found and already it is thought that Cropper has, not only seen then but, already examined them with “tooth comb.” Jackie, Buxton writer of the scholarly article on possession What’s Love Got to Do with It? writes “Possession also exhibits a postmodern obsession with "the question of how we can come to know the past today”. The American academic, Mortimer Cropper, seeks to own the past by accumulating its material artifacts”(Buxton). This shows just how large Cropper’s obsession with Ash can be. Even a Possession scholar identifies this as worth mentioning. Cropper wants to own the past by collection thing that belonged to Ash. Cropper ha...
This feeling of unworthiness is essentially what drives someone to push another away and may cause someone to guard themselves. Individuals guard themselves due to the fear of not being good enough. When one is not good enough, they are left