Marriage is termed as a legitimate commitment or social establishment which unites two people mutually as husband and wife. The agreement ascertains privileges and responsibilities amid spouses, spouses and children and spouses and in-laws. Marriage is deemed to be a momentous union in every society. It is significant in terms of providing security, emotional support and fulfilling economic, social, cultural and physical needs. These needs are the natural cravings of young adults that drive them towards matrimony. It is a foundation that is based on personal responsibilities which form the backbone of civilizations.
Nowadays we live in a world which is full of choices and the choice of the person you would like to merry is one of the most important one. It is really hard to decide whether this person is really “yours” or it is just the illusion. Thus, can it be a better way to have somebody who decides who will you be married to? Some people think it is unfair because person doesn’t have the right of choice but the others think that arranged marriages are a good choice. Free choice marriage is a marriage in which both partners choose each other by themselves and the choice is based on factors such as physical attraction, the desire for emotional stability, love, similar outlooks, personalities, interests etc. However this is not the only way to choose. In arranges marriages the partner is selected by elder family members but the young people may have the right to veto the choice if they strongly disagree with it. There are definitely pros and cons of both and only after taking them into consideration person can decide which to choose: arranged or free choice marriage.
What is marriage? According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary "Marriage is a union representing a special kind of social and legal partnership between two people”. Marriage is considered be a union in which it should last a life time. Marriage can be look at differently depending where you come from and also what you belief in. In western countries arrange marriages have been known to exist for decades. On the other hand there is also Love marriages which consist of two people who genuinely love and are attracted to one on other. Either Arrange or Love they are still considering marriages with different beliefs, traditions and customs. Arrange Marriages should not eve allow even though it is a culture in the Western Countries.
Love, the emotion expressed so widely from friends to romance, is the basis of marriage. The idea of matrimony revolves around the concept of one loving another so deeply that they want to join together and share a life together. The best description for marriage encompasses words like; commitment, unconditional love, and pure beauty from within one's heart. There is no possible way to measure the validity or trueness of these emotions. When a couple decides to wed, they are making the ultimate commitment to each other. Ultimately, the commitment should be a decision made by the couple and no one else. Many other countries practice arranged marriage, which couples are forced by their family to marry. In America, we are blessed with the freedom to choose who we marry. You may think that you have that right, but you actually do not!
Parents are the ones that will know their child the best. That is why they could potentially find the right man for their daughter. However, I believe that an arranged marriage takes away some freedom and vital life-lessons. Dating is a big teacher in the school of life. If a girl does not experience a wrong relationship, heartbreak, and what different types of guys offer, she will miss those important times of growth. Westerners could learn from those in arranged marriages.
I agree when Kingsolver says that traditional families have more stability for their children. My parents are together and we do have stability. It is still hectic because of three children going in different directions but at the end of the day, we are all together sitting at the dinner table talking about how are day went. My parents do model for me how a married relationship should be like. They show me how strong their love is and how I should be able to find someone who loves me just like my parents love each other. Their relationship had made each of their children successful.
As a society, somewhere we have lost the importance of marriage. It seems that we have forgotten how important a marriage is not only to our families, but also to our communities. We are depriving our children and our communities of the structure, and stability that they desperately need by choosing to live together, and start families without marrying. We are also doing this by denying some members of our community the right to have a healthy marriage at all. Our children are being denied the sustenance they need to develop healthy relationships of their own. Not only is society not viewing this as important, but it has been mostly absent in providing any support or assistance for families and marriage. Ultimately, I agree with Santorum’s views on the importance of marriage to a family, in fact the only ideas that I disagree with are his views on gay marriage.
Obviously like most people, my parents have had the biggest influence on my life. I’ve grown up with both of my parents being married, and they are still married to this day. I think the fact that my parents are still married, unlike a lot of families nowadays, has a huge influence on how I view what a family should be. I have strong views on marriage as a result of what my parents have instilled in me. I believe that no matter what, make sure you know what you’re getting into before you just up and marry someone, and also, if you and your significant other are going through a rough patch, do not give up on your marriage. Especially if there are children involved, do not...
The chapter with the topic that interested me the most in this Sociology course was the one dealing with marriages. I thought it was interesting to see how marriage can take on so many different meanings depending on what country or culture a person belongs to. To most people, especially here in the US, marriage is usually the union of two adults (usually heterosexual) who are in love with each other. This means that the two individuals get to choose who they want to be their future husband or wife. However, in India, it is not an uncommon practice to marry a person that your parents have approved/chosen for you.