Forgiveness Intervention

It is amazing to know how much studies has been done and the good outcome of the practice on forgiveness intervention with the hope focused couple approach for 20 years (Ripley & Worthington, 2014). The FREE model is based on the forgiveness – based intervention that has been beneficial for many years to help the couple rekindle their love and forgive each other. It can be used with adults, parents, couples and adolescents. Dr Worthington confirmed during the interview with Dr Hanson in reading and study for week three on the blackboard that Forgiveness intervention has worked for many couples in many years. The main negative effect of the forgiveness intervention according to Ripley & Worthington is that sometimes people take advantage of

The Free model uses forgive and reconcile to help couples rebuild their relationship and rekindle their love. The reconciliation occurs in 4 steps that I call the four D’s; Decision, Discussion, Detoxification and Devotion.

After reconciliation the therapists look at how to approach the offended partner using the FREE forgiveness methods which is based on stress-and coping- theory of forgiveness, this theory has 4 parts which the therapists need to properly carry out and evaluate - first is Stressors –as couple counsellor we need to evaluate the degree of hurts or injustices and this varies in individual. Second is Appraisal- this is also based on the different types of stressors like the degree of threat and the size of the injustice gap,

Third is Stress Reaction – For every action there is always a reaction and how individual reacts differs and lastly is the Coping responses – the coping response of individual varies and after the injustice some people do not return to their normal state leading to unforgiveness which has bad effects which can be physical or psychological and so the need for coping mechanism either by going the biblical way for divine justice from God or the offended partner may

Reconciliation is affirmed with this bible verse “All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God”(2 Corinthians 5:18-21, ESV) , I feel this is the most important part of the FREE model and has to be tackled with good results before proceeding to the forgiveness intervention using the 4 D’s. Decision – at the step the couples will make a decision whether they want to reconcile or not , this step is very fundamental because if the couples are not ready then the forgiveness therapy cannot take place; Discussion – here the offender make confession or te couple will discuss about their wrongdoing; Detoxification – at the stage the they will talk about how to remove the poison that I the bad behavior from the offender so it will not reoccur; Devotion- The