Female Role Model Essay

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Being raised with no father figure has an overwhelming effect on boys who are becoming men. Boys need role models in their life to teach them how to be a man. Without this boys have a chance of growing up to be men with issues. Such as relationships problems, their emotions can be unstable, they may have behavioral issues, and they may grow up not knowing how to be a father to their own child.
Growing up, my siblings and I didn’t have a father-figure to look up to. I didn’t care. As I grew up I realized that I have a female role model in my life, which was my mother. My brother Hakim, however, didn’t have a male role model to show him the ropes of life.
Hakim was a bright child. He was on the honor roll, played on a basketball team; we did
Not long after he was sent right back. Stupidity is the only word I could think of, he took scissors and decided to cut his house arrest bracelet off. The judge decided to just to give Hakim a warning, and if he got into trouble one more time he would be sent to Juvenile for 16 months.
My brother’s junior year I had seen a little improvement, but not enough. My mom had gotten remarried that summer; I think that had a little to do with his behavior improving, due to their being a man in the house. Sadly hakim wasn’t able to change his conduct quick enough. On October 10, 2016 he snuck out the house; on his way back, he was shot and killed by a drive by shooting. It all happen so fast my mom came screaming in my room “Keelah, Keelah , Keelah!” I had never woken up so fast in my life. She told me my brother was shot, and my heart just dropped.
I blame it all on dad if he had been in my brother’s life, he could have been a male model to my brother and he would still be here today! I always wonder what was going through my brother’s mind when he did the things he did. “ Children also develop the belief that the absent parent is bad and so, through genetics, they must also be bad” (Alan Schwartz). Maybe this is what he thought when my dad wasn’t
She talked about her son who was murdered in 1995. She told me “she wished she was more involved in her son’s life, and if she was he may still be here”. She told me that his father had left when her son was young; she believed if he had stuck around in her son’s life he may still be here (West).
Most boys tend to want to grow up as fast they can, to become men. “These include intense competition with other boys, engaging in risky behaviors, and criminal “tough guy” behavior intended to scare the world into seeing them as men”(Frank Pittman). When boys do this, they think they’re doing something right. They can be to others what their fathers were never to them. More than that they’re trying to prove it they’re selves because they don’t want to turn into their dads, somebody who just leaves their child.
“Men who grow up without fathers are more likely to abuse alcohol and drugs and to get into trouble with law enforcement” (Marie Hartwell-Walker). Which is the case for many young boys without fathers. I know the majority of my male friends do not have fathers in their life; majority of them smoke weed. With my brother it was anything he could smoke. I remember asking him one day “why do you smoke? He replied back “just because.” I don’t ever think he had an actual reason for doing it; it was just something to

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