Women now have more opportunity in the workplace than they have ever had, therefore, many moms are career moms and dads are sometimes staying at home. Years ago, these types of families were given labels for being dysfunctional or abnormal, however, this label is not holding up as well as it did years ago. There are many non-traditional families that are raising children in a loving, nurturing home with a substantial amount of quality love. Quality is the key in any relationship between anyone. Society is finding out that it is not the traditional image that makes a loving family, but the quality of a relationship that people give to each other is what really makes a family.
Now a days, a family can be anything, form a single mother raising her boy, to a gay couple raising adopted children. The myth of the “Model Family” does not persist to this day because gender roles have changed allot since the 1950s, the involvement of technology and devices in the house, and children are now raised by a variety of caring adults. First, gender roles have changes allot. Women no longer do all the housework, and men are not always the only breadwinners of the family. These roles have changed all over the world.
Nevertheless there is still much argument over whether mothers should stay at home, or work. Over time many studies have shown the advantages of having a stay at home mother as well as disadvantages of having a working mother. Although most people believe that the negative out ways the positive many studies have proven that children of employed mothers are equally affected. According to David Pelcovitz, Ph. D In recent years, Mothers working full time employment has risen, mothers working outside of the home have become part of the norm in the United States.
“It suddenly occurred to me that I too, would like to have a wife. Why do i want a wife?”(Syfers) this was an article by a woman named Judy Syfers in the 1970’s. Judy Syfers wants a wife because she wants someone to care for the house, children, and even dinner but in society that was her job. Back in the 1950’s all female to stay at home and care for the house, that was seen as normal to the society. But now things have changed in the 21’st century, in today’s society it is normal for the male to stay at home and care for the house and kids,
Because this was the decade in which my father grew up, this was what he had come to know as the “ideal family.” My mom on the other hand was born during the time when individualization was becoming more and more popular. Women worked and supported themselves, and did not necessarily need someone to look after them. Once my mom was ready to settle down and have a family, she did want her husband to work but she did want to make it clear that she would also work and conform to being a housewife. With this came differences in my parent’s marriage. My dad felt as if he was the head of the household, so he had the authority.
There are different kinds of strong women in this world, some can go out and work, but then there are the ones that stay home and are the homemakers. The women that stay home aren’t weaker than those who go out and, work they just have different responsibilities. Most stay at home mothers don’t go on and get more education past high school, but that doesn’t mean they don’t learn anything new or they just stay where they ended, many learn new house tips and different ways to do things to help their home and husband. Stay at home mothers shouldn’t be condemned because they aren’t taking advantage of the way that had been paved for them, but they should be praised just the same as working women because they go through a lot all day and they are raising new generations to become wonderful and caring people to make the world a better
The roles for parents of a one-career family are different, especially that of stay at home mothers. Mothers are responsible for caring for the children and most household duties, while the husband’s main priority is making an income to support the family. Many mothers find it less stressful and are glad to be able to stay home to care for their children and household, since many of these responsibilities ultimately fall on mothers, many husbands are happy to not have the pressures of doing household
It was ideal to families that men worked and women stayed home. However, gender roles have changed today. Women have better rights to work now; many are no longer staying home. From "Gilmore Girls" Lorelei, owns an inn to support herself and her daughter, Rory. She is an independent and highly respected woman in the show.
Actually, I think a lot of stay at home moms justify their laziness and lack of ambition by saying they are staying at home for the benefit of the children” (abcnews.com 2). For many years women have believed that if they returned to work after having children, their children would be harmed by the lack of a mother’s presence. This belief is no longer true. Studies have shown, “Despite the declining population of young people, the number and proportion of children with working mothers rose steadily during the past decade” (Kamerman 13). In fact, “1979 was the first time more U.S. children lived in families with a mother in the labor force than in families with a mother who was a full-time homemaker” (Kamerman 13).
In Queens, most women were stay-at-home mothers and expected the man to provides the finical needs. Sherry affirmed her notion of traditional mothers by giving examples of her neighbors to state that it’s the “norm” to take at home and take care of your children. On the other hand, Gen lived in an area where most of the mothers worked outside the homes. She stated that today, “women should not identify herself with only the home, but with the labor force as well.” Both families’ neighbor encouraged them to believe in their gender ideologies, which had some contradiction between what a person said they believed, their gender ideologies and what they actual did in the second shift. The Mendoza and Ortega family had one person, the wife/mother, doing more of the second shift, housework.