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There are many people who are abused when they are children but we don’t think about how this affects the abused when they are adults. Abuse comes in many forms; physical, verbal, and emotional. Abuse can scar a person mentally and emotionally for the rest of their life. People that have been abused often have to resort to therapy to deal with the demons of their past. How does this mentally affect people who were abused as children?
People who were abused often feel anger; their anger can often be projected towards others. They can easily be angered. “I was beaten for no reason,” he says. ‘I’ve had anger issues ever since.” Helling 80 quotes one man. When children are abused, they can’t fright their abusers back so there is no release for them and their anger and frustration builds and ferments inside. They are even further tormented in their own heads, nightly reminded of the pain in their dreams. “In their nightmares, the men all dream about the same place: a blood-smeared cot in a dank concrete building at the Arthur G. Dozier School for Boys.” Helling 80. The reminders follow the boys into adulthood, causing the anger to burn in them all the time. Many of them become the abuser. Growing up without a release and the constant reminder of helplessness and the rage it causes, the men to want to hurt others like they were hurt. If you were raised in an abusive way and never shown any different type of emotion, it would be hard to understand anything different. Thus you would likely inherit the characteristics of the abuser, believing that that is how one should deal with and express their emotions. These people have difficulty expressing their emotions in a healthy way due to the lack of any positive example and often repeat the...

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...ace or courage to help those who may be trapped in the same darkness of anger, pain and helplessness. They want to stop the abuse and end the cycle of torment and the hurt that it carries to be able to move on and turn the dark into light. “As part of her contribution to Domestic Violence Awareness Month in October, Lori, 50, a domestic violence survivor, agreed to tell The Daily Republic her story.” Something as simple as telling yours story can help someone who is being abused. Standing up for what you believe is wrong and can make a large impact that can help so many others.
Everyone has scars, they can remind us of the past and they can remind us that wounds heal. We can pick to let the scars renew the pain they cause when they were made of we can use them to look back and see how well we’ve improved. They may always be there but they don’t have to affect us.

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