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Raising a child properly is important to parents. In China, the biggest issue for Chinese parents is how to raise their children properly. Chinese parents believe an old saying: talented apprentices trained by strict master(s). This old saying inspires Chinese parents that a child has to be treated strictly to make sure that the child becomes a talented person. Therefore, Chinese parents treat their children strictly even though Chinese parenting methods are different. Both "Why Chinese Mother Are Superior" and "Two Kinds" have shown that Chinese parents prefer to schedule their children’s spare time. Chinese parents want their children to maximize the value of time by giving their children a lot of practice. They prepare a lot of academic and music-related exercise for their children. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” Amy Chua doesn’t allow her daughters watch TV and play video game and asks them to practice their instruments two or three hours per day.in addition, in “Two Kinds,” every night after dinner Mrs. Woo, the mother of Jing-mei, would give Jing-mei new tests and demands her daughter to practice piano two hours a day after the mother sees a little Chinese girl playing piano on TV. Both Amy and Woo show us that they control their children’s spare time and ask or compel their children to do something that they think that is good for their children. Both Amy Chua and Mrs. Woo have very high expectations for their children, but their expectations are different, and the results are different. They want their children to be successful. Amy Chua asks her children to be straight A students, and she forces her seven-year old daughter to play a piano piece that “is incredibly difficult for young player” (Chua... ... middle of paper ... ...the daughter refuses to practice piano, the mother shouts to her daughter “ ‘Only two kinds of daughters,’ ‘ Those who are obedient and those who follow their own mind! Only one kind of daughter can live in this house. Obedient daughter!’ ” (Tan 8). Both mothers threaten their children when their children break their rules. Chinese parents think children must obey them because they know what is best for their children. All in all, there are various Chinese parenting methods, but the common ground is that Chinese parenting is strict. Strictness is the symbol of Chinese parenting. Because of strictness, almost all of American parents think this parenting style is not good for children’s development. However, Chinese students’ ranking keeps rising in the world in reading, science, and math. Depending on that, should more parents consider using Chinese parenting method?

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