Throughout this semester I have learned many helpful things in this class in regards to how communication works, how to improve my personal skills, and how other people might perceive things differently than I do. The three concepts I have chosen are vocalics, pseudo listening and avoidance. These three are daily struggles for me and each time they were used previously, I didn’t really understand what all they entailed. I have been made much more aware of what these things are, and how often I use them day to day. Now that I have become more aware of my communication mistakes, I plan on working my hardest to improve upon them which will improve my relationships with my family, friends and significant other. Vocalics is a big indicator of …show more content…
It is defined as “behaving as if you’re paying attention through you’re really not.” (McCornack, 2015, pg 126) Pseudo does not aid in creating competently communicate, it does the opposite. It is not appropriate in really any situation. It does not make the conversation effective because one person in the conversation is not paying attention, while the other is trying to communicate thoughts, emotions or fears. This does not show respect for the other person, it shows that you don’t seem to care about what they are trying to discuss. Pseudo listening is also used very commonly in my household. My parents and I all use this in daily conversation. This is another thing that will cause conflict in the household, as there is usually a topic trying to be discussed, while the other person taking part in this conversation is ignoring everything they are saying. When I am trying to talk to my mom while she is playing a game on her phone, or scrolling on Facebook, she will nod her head or give me simple one word answers. This irritates me to no end and will cause me to raise my voice and cause an argument. I also tend to pseudo listen when I am doing homework or watching Netflix. This again will cause an argument between us and lead us to be annoyed at each other. This is a communication concept is something that I try not to use very often, but unfortunately I do. I am …show more content…
The situation will continue to worsen and the relationship will be strained. Avoidance is “ignoring the conflict, pretending it isn’t really happening, or communicating indirectly about the situation.” (McCornack, 2015, pg 184) Avoidance of conflict can sometimes be appropriate to the situation you are in. If the relationship is a short term one, sometimes avoiding the issues you have with this person is better than addressing them and possibly creating worse conflict. It can be effective, but is usually not. You can accomplish the goal of getting through the day, pleasing a client at work or maintaining happiness throughout a customer situation. However, when using avoidance in a long term relationship, it is possible it could be detrimental. The longer you avoid the issues you are having with a person, the more feelings you bottle up. At some point, you will hit your limit and will blow up like a balloon. All of your past frustrations will spew out left and right, hitting the other person all at once. This can cause extreme conflict and could even lead to the end of the relationship itself. It is possible that it can show your respect for the other person by keeping emotions out of a possible business only relationship. I am a huge avoider with conflict. I have always known this to be true and now because of this class it has brought to my attention even more. I am trying to improve upon this issue by
However, I have learned to improve my communication skills and relationships through communication courses. Prior to enrolling in communication
In part two, Petersen talks about the description of a healthy style of communication. He suggests that those learning to improve his or ...
I am a qualified solicitor and in this role I have developed my communication skills. On one occasion I was representing a mother who was a victim of domestic violence. The father wanted to see his children but the mother was not allowing it due to the domestic violence. I acknowledged her concerns regarding the contact and explained that I understood why she would not want contact to take place. I also explained to the mother the courts view in terms of contact and domestic violence cases. I highlighted the fact that if she allowed contact without going to hearing she would still retain a level of control. I suggested that contact take place at a neutral location and be supervised by a friend or family member until she was comfortable with this arrangement. The client was reluctant but highlighted that the court would want some form of contact and she would have to adhere to this. However, by reaching an agreement outside of court she is not bound by it and will be in control. The client agreed to
Through the process of acquiring knowledge in this course, I have learned countless aspects about my own self. Amidst the very challenges I faced, the act of communication, management, and leadership, are among them. Being bilingual, my communication skills are on par yet at times hinder me from articulating my intention precisely as I have meant them. With every socialization I have made, I have striven to do better and to be better. I have learned that although you may consider yourself “fluent” in a foreign language, there are phrases or intonations to which come across as something entirely different from what you intended to say causing the message to be lost between the barrier of the two communicators.
“Mindless listening occurs when we react to messages automatically and routinely without much mental investment” (Adler & Proctor, 2011, p. 237). Both of these ways of processing information require cognitive reaction. Out of the two, mindless listening is used in most situations. When someone asks what the weather is like outside, someone can quickly respond with “cloudy” or “sunny”. While this is referred to as mindless listening, it is still listening and requires mental feedback.
Managing relationship conflicts can stem from a variety of sources. This can range from the communication aspect of a couple and also getting into disagreements. It can be hard to deal with a relationship conflict. The severity of the conflict can greatly affect the relationship in a variety of ways. One way the severity can affect the relationship is if the couple will still be together. Break ups can happen when getting into an argument, but they can also be preventable. Being able to identify the conflict triggers is a very important tool to learn and it can put a halt to arguments.
.... Through the evaluation of reactions from both myself and others, I have realized the significant impact the misuse of a particular listening style may have. These effects reach beyond social and professional environments, and in some cases may produce unintended negative effects with family. I had not realized that the two listening styles I use most commonly could be so incredibly polarized when it comes to employing critical listening. As a result, I have devised appropriate steps which I feel will assist in creating a more balanced conversational environment and improve my overall effectiveness in communication. I was surprised to discover that my listening styles are not always conducive to the environment in which I am listening; however, I am consequently compelled to take the steps necessary to achieve higher-quality communication in every aspect of life.
The irony is that speaking to others is one of the most important, if not the most important, professional and personal skill students must have to be successful (Doyle 88). The student needs to understand the importance of this skill and realize that in the future many opportunities and career successes are directly impacted by working with others. Students are also encouraged to take charge of their learning. Giving the student control and as many choices is a good way to optimized their learning.
The purpose of this paper is not to teach you, or to show you how interpersonal communication is essential to everyday life at home or work. But, I am going to do my best to at least show you how essential communication skills are in all areas of life by using me as the example. My plan is to focus on some of the elements of interpersonal communication that we have been touching on this semester. While reading our Interpersonal Communications Book, three goals kept being highlighted that I personally wanted to accomplish by the end of course. I’m sure that by now have noticed that I keep referring to my topics as goals. The reason why I’m doing so is because I’m still on that learning curve…an ongoing process. If can recall back to all of our assignment in this course they all bring one collective point. That point is that, Interpersonal communication is an essential skill in everything that we do in life.
It is very important to understand that in everyday communication we are either the speaker or listener and it’s important that we do those jobs as best we can in order to have a healthy communication relationship. This activity was very useful because I got to reflect on my past successes and failures in my communicating strategies and in doing so I can improve and adapt to become a better communicator and listener. I believe that this assignment is very useful because it is real life experiences that may occur again and I can better assess the situation and use the appropriate communicating strategy necessary. This reflection will help me in my personal development by giving me situational experience that I will be able to correctly approach in and out of the
When reading the opening lecture I cringed at the thought of dealing with communication. Sort of that belly ache feeling you get when you had to do an oral presentation in front of the class in elementary school. I understand have a number of strong qualities but self-image and my perception are still traits I long to improve.
Conflict avoidance is a technique used to deal with conflict. Avoiding conflict is mainly used to disregard the direct issue at hand. Avoiding conflict can be used to temporarily get rid of an issue or it can be used to permanently remove the issue. Avoiding conflict within the workplace most often results in relationship division. Workplace conflict is inevitable, meaning wherever and whenever there is a group working to accomplish similar goals as a whole, conflict will be present. Workplace conflict exists due to various factors. (Graham 2014) The most common seen factors influencing workplace conflict include role understanding, meaning who is responsible for what task, how tasks are to be accomplished, personality difference and poor
Now the communication class is almost over I have realize how important is to have good communication skills, and how it is key to life. I have learned many things in this class for example ways to approach strangers. Another thing that I have learned how to handle conflict and how sometimes it could be good it not always bad and many others. The way I look things have change to have reach my goals. This class was has also taught me how to look in the “other” perceptive, and not being selfish by just seeing one side. All that I have learn will help me and other around me to be able to communicate better.
To be effective listeners, the listening process should be incorporated into our lives. We should be attentive to what people say, clarify what the speaker is trying to come across, and respond in a way the speaker can understand what we are saying. I think I was aware that I needed some improvement in certain areas of this process but I feel as everything is slowly changing. In the future, I’m going try not to interrupt people, get distracted, tune out, and try to get a bigger picture of what the person is telling me. If good listening habits are applied in our day-to-day life, we can easily communicate with anyone and everyone.
The first concept I used was responsive listening, responsive listening is giving your complete undivided attention, while letting the other person get a chance to speak freely and openly, while the person listening provides only small interjections and nonverbal listening cues while sometimes paraphrasing to show that you have fully been aware. I choose this concept because I felt like sometimes I dominate the conversation with my brother and I decided to just give him complete undivided attention and a chance to talk. I was picking up my brother from school, and from the start he seemed to be...