With that being said, it is evident that police are more likely to show up and hold arrests if the victim of spousal violence is a woman, indicating that spousal violence towards men is not severe enough. (Steinmetz, 504) Often times, people are quick to defend women who do indeed physically abuse their husbands as all cases of self-defense. While some women’s claims of self-defense may in fact be true, it has led to society’s belief that all culprits of husband abuse act out of self-defense. As opposed to finding a resolution to this problem by supporting these men, the same way others would support abused wives, people end up making excuses for the behaviour of some women. Some of these justifications include the desire for attention from their ... ... middle of paper ... ...ands would rather not speak about being in an abusive marriage for they may feel as if no one would really understand what they have been going through.
Males are known to look for trouble, they don’t know why they do it, but it feels right when they do it because it 's the only way they can “earn” respect from friends and outsiders. Every male feels they deserve respect, they will try to get it no matter what, “Respect is linked to violence,” Dr. Marshal stated in the video “The Mask You Live in.” Males are aggressive, it’s like a special trait they’re known to have. IF violence I the only way they can get respect, then that’s what is indeed to happen. Males mask their feelings, and push everything out with actions.
Women need to accept the fact that men aren’t very good communicators. In the article lack of com... ... middle of paper ... ...refer to keep them on the inside so they will not be judged. On the other hand, women do not have much of a problem going and sharing their problems, because they are searching for help. This makes men and women very different in that aspect. Some believe men would rather not talk at all rather than talk to others about their problems.
People have trouble getting through the day when they are bullied. Like every conflict in the world, someone had to start it, but that doesn’t matter when it comes to peer to peer cruelty. Anyone, individuals, groups, or bystanders are all equally guilty when it comes to bullying. There are different ways this cruelty can be stopped, including direct discipline, or also emotionally connecting with the bully. The people responsible for stopping this type of behavior are adults, but the witnesses who see bullying happen have just as much a right to step in as anyone else.
The male characters basically took advantage and preyed on the females in the book based off of strength. Men are physically stronger than women, so when a man looks or sounds angry a women’s instinct is to cower away from him. Men also use the excuse of them being angry as a way to not receive consequences for their discrimination or abuse. According to Brian Nichols who is a policy manager for Men Stopping Violence against women goes to say in his article that when a man yells at or hits a woman it is his choice. Anger has nothing to do with it, the man does it because he knows that he can get away with what he did.
Women are more protected in domestic violence and when they initiate violence it is most likely because it was self-defense but men are not allowed to use self-defense because the man defending himself is deemed the attacker, even if they were not the ones to initiate violence. Even when the police are involved and they know the victim is a man, they are always going to protect the women first and assume the man was the assaulter. Men are ultimately stuck between a rock and a hard
The Toxic Culture of Masculinity This paper will detail the toxic effects that were caused by the hypermasculine attitude our culture has created. It will prove that glorification of masculinity encourages abuse, violence, and gender roles. What do most people think when they hear the phrase “be a man”? They probably think to toughen up and suppress their emotions, because everyone knows men don’t cry. In our society, traditional masculinity is characterized by violence, danger, promiscuity, and a lack of emotions.
Instead, the community needs to begin to accept that boys can be victims too. The community should give space for male victims to process their pain without fear of shame, rejection, or humiliation. Instead of teaching young boys that they always need to be strong and self-reliant, parents and media should begin teaching boys that it is okay to cry and be vulnerable. Also, when court cases come about where males are the victims of sex crimes, they need to be taken seriously. The female perpetrator should not be viewed any differently than the older male who raped a young girl.
A negative effect of not being a “sissy” and suppressing your emotions at all times is building up aggression within. A University of Texas professor named Art Markman helped conduct a study on what happens when suppressing emotions. Markman states “ People may become more aggressive after having a long period of time in which they’ve had to control themselves” (www.youtube.com). It has been shown that by suppressing your emotions you are vulnerable to snapping and unleashing plenty of aggression. I personally would agree the rule “No Sissy Stuff” exists and males definitely enforce and police it upon each other.
A solution to this problem would not be, telling women what to wear, how to act and what they can or cannot do; but it is teaching males at a young age to not rape women by discussing it with them, telling them how that affects people, the consequences of it, and telling them that it is never okay. Men are allowed to get away with objectifying and dominating women in this society because it is what we as a culture have gotten used to. It is always in the news, it is not odd to know someone who has been raped or sexually assaulted; and it could happen anywhere from a job, walking to the car, or even in one’s own home. To some men, sex is a game and a woman telling them “no,” is only going to make them be more persistent in getting it. As long as women are getting blamed for their own attacks, men possess all of the power and control; and are not taught that raping and hurting women is not okay nor acceptable, rape culture is not going anywhere.