America was not everything the mothers had expected for their daughters. The mothers always wanted to give their daughters the feather to tell of their hardships, but they never could. They wanted to wait until the day that they could speak perfect American English. However, they never learned to speak their language, which prevented them from communicating with their daughters. All the mothers in The Joy Luck Club had so much hope for their daughters in America, but instead their lives ended up mirroring their mother’s life in China.
In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior,” Amy Chua doesn’t allow her daughters watch TV and play video game and asks them to practice their instruments two or three hours per day.in addition, in “Two Kinds,” every night after dinner Mrs. Woo, the mother of Jing-mei, would give Jing-mei new tests and demands her daughter to practice piano two hours a day after the mother sees a little Chinese girl playing piano on TV. Both Amy and Woo show us that they control their children’s spare time and ask or compel their children to do something that they think that is good for their children. Both Amy Chua and Mrs. Woo have very high expectations for their children, but their expectations are different, and the results are different.
Only one kind of daughter can live in this house. Obedient daughter."" (153) Suyuan yells this when Jing-mei refuses to practice the piano after her embarrassing performance in the talent show. She wants her mother to realize that she doesn't have to be a genius to be special, but Suyuan do... ... middle of paper ... ...y knew that in the U.S. children would be able to choose whom they married and which career they wanted to pursue. Each mother had wanted to tell her children the events she had endured but did not feel the children would appreciate the stories for their full value.
Amy sticks to the Chinese parenting she learned, but she doesn’t get the desired results with Lulu. After growing up and seeing such different standards for her peers, Lulu begins to disobey her mother. However, Amy being the Chinese mother she is does not condone her daughter’s disobedience and feels the need to double down. She responds with “Had I not been strict enough? Given her too much” (173)?
A slave is someone who is the property of another person and has to work for that person, but Chinese parents didn’t want any return from their children. According to the article “Two Kinds”, Tan’s mother claims that “trade housecleaning services for weekly lessons and a piano for Tan”(Tan 3). Tan’s mother proved all her effort to provide Tan a better life. When Tan failed, her mother would silence for disappointment so that Tan would discover her mistake for improvement. Her mother was upset than anyone else.
For many years, the mother did not tell their daughters their stories until they were sure that their fractious offspring would listen. By then, it is almost too late to make them understand their heritage that their mother left behind in China. It seems that their family's legacy cannot seize their imaginations after years, decades, and centuries of blissfulness and sorrow. Through the eyes of the daughters, we can also see the continuation of the mother's stories, how they learned to cope in America. With this, Amy Tan touches on an obscure, little discussed issue, which is the divergence of Chinese culture through American children born of Chinese immigrant parents.
For several hours, Chu says “The house became a war zone, and I lost my voice yelling, but still there seemed to be only negative progress, and even I began to have doubts. Then, out of the blue, Lulu did it” (page) and “Mommy, look-it’s easy!” After that, she wanted to play the piece over and over ad wouldn’t leave the piano.”( 27). Chu concludes that Chinese mother parenting style has been criticized as harsh and unreasonable by many parenting books, but Chu believes it is the best way to mold and build your kids confidence and self-esteem. She states that Chinese parents usually do not confess their love for their children, but they would do anything for them. Whereas, Western parents are all about caring, nurturing and devoting their loves to their kids since they were babies.
Jing-mei's mother said that she now "looked like Negro Chinese" as if it was her fault her hair ended up the way it did (Tan 1208). After the first two attempts to make her daughter into a child prodigy, the mother is just about to give up on the idea that her daughter can be better than what she already is, when her last idea hits her. She was watching the Ed Sullivan show, when she saw a girl playin... ... middle of paper ... ...ause her mother pushed her to hard to do things that she simply did not want to do. If her mother had just been a little more relaxed and not so caught up in her daughter becoming a child prodigy, then they would have had a better relationship. If parents push their children to do something they do not want to do, they may end up, like Jing-mei's mother, paying for it.
They see daughters who will bear grandchildren born without any connecting hope passed from one generation to generation"(Tan). Chinese mothers were "taught to desire nothing, to swallow other people's misery, to eat my own bitterness". Yet, the daughters do not have this blind obedience to their mothers. After the piano talent show fiasco, a quarrel broke out between June and Suyuan. June did not have this blind obedience like a Chinese daughter, " I didn't have to do what my mother said anymore.
The kids jumped all over me, would not pay attention for more than three motions, and repeatedly asked me random questions about the things I liked. That two hour practice was one of the most hectic and frustrating moments I have experienced, but, at the same time, it was new, exciting, and entertaining. The past years of coaching have allowed me to form strong relationships with these girls to the point where I see them as my little sisters. Being their coach involves more than just teaching them cheers and dances, sometimes I have to settle their differences, comfort them, and let them have fun. When the girls reached sixth grade, the team started to go through drama.