What is a mother 's ultimate parenting goal? Is it receiving a certain amount of hugs from her child or witnessing a certain number of smiles? Is it watching her child achieve academic success or excel at athletics? Is it managing to successfully parent during times that make it difficult to breathe in and out or through a pain that makes it hard to be selfless? Tillie Olsen 's short story "I Stand Here Ironing" (Olsen 233-239), Amy Tan 's short story "Two Kinds" (Tan 240-248), and Alice Walker 's short story "Everyday Use" (Walker 249-256) each involve a complicated mother and daughter relationship that has emerged out of a time of economic difficulty and a circumstance of great loss and sadness. While culturally different, the mothers share …show more content…
These types of external influences affect mothers outside the realm of short stories as well. Personal losses, economic struggles, remorseful guilt, and cultural background all influence the way a mother interacts with her daughter and the methods she employs to guide her down the path that leads to prosperity and success, however, a mother 's ultimate hope is that her daughter understands her value, appreciates her opportunities, and embraces moments of contentment. In all three of the short stories, Olsen 's "I Stand Here Ironing" (Olsen 233-239), Tan 's "Two Kinds" (Tan 240-248), and Walker 's "Everyday Use" (Walker 249-256), the mother has suffered a significant personal loss. The mother in "I Stand Here Ironing" (Olsen 233-239) was abandoned by her daughter 's father via a good-bye note when their daughter, Emily, was only eight months old. "Mama", as she is referred to by her two daughters in "Everyday Use" (Walker 249-256), has lost a home to a fire that also left her daughter, Maggie, with permanent scars down her arms and legs. In addition, there is one quick mention of "daddy", however, the reader can …show more content…
In "I Stand Here Ironing" (Olsen 233-239), the mother 's economic struggle and her need for work is instrumental in her decision to send her daughter to live with her father 's family. This initial separation turned into years of emotional distance between the mother and her daughter. In "Two Kinds" (Tan 240-248), the family 's economic struggle prompted the mother to exchange cleaning services for her daughter 's piano lessons. The daughter 's lack of appreciation for the mother 's sacrifice contributed to the tension and conflict between the two of them, ultimately leading to a bitter exchange which altered their relationship for many years. In "Everyday Use" (Walker 249-256), however, the impact of economic struggle on the mother and daughter interaction is the most prevalent. The mother in this story offers this admission to her audience, "I have deliberately turned my back on the house" (Walker 251). This statement persuades the reader to picture a dilapidated shack where there are "three rooms" and "no real windows" (Walker 251). The mother lacks an education and has lived a life of manual labor. She has raised two daughters who are polar opposites. Maggie is shy and content while Dee, or Wangero as she prefers to be called, is flamboyant and consistently desires
After evaluating the short story “Everyday Use” by Alice Walker, I came to the conclusion that the narrator made the right choice of giving her daughter, Maggie, the family quilts. Dee (Wangero), her older sister was qualified for the quilts as well, but in my opinion Maggie is more deserving. Throughout the story, the differences between the narrator’s two daughters are shown in different ways. The older daughter, Dee (Wangero), is educated and outgoing, whereas Maggie is shy and a homebody. I agree with the narrator’s decision because of Maggie’s good intentions for the quilts and her innocent behavior. In my opinion Dee (Wangero) is partially superficial and always gets what she wants.
First in “Everyday Use” you recognize the differences in all three women throughout the story. The mama
When we meet our narrator, the mother of Maggie and Dee, she is waiting in the yard with Maggie for Dee to visit. The mother takes simple pleasure in such a pleasant place where, "anyone can come back and look up at the elm tree and wait for the breezes that never come inside the house." (Walker 383) This is her basic attitude, the simple everyday pleasures that have nothing to do with great ideas, cultural heritage or family or racial histories. She later reveals to us that she is even more the rough rural woman since she, "can kill and clean a hog as mercilessly as a man." (Walker 383) Hardly a woman one would expect to have much patience with hanging historical quilts on a wall. Daughter Maggie is very much the opposite of her older sister, Dee. Maggie is portrayed as knowing "she is not bright." (Walker 384)
In her short story “Everyday Use”, Alice Walker portrays an African American family. In that family, there were the mother, her elder daughter who does
The stories “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen and “Everyday Use” by Alice Walker, are different in many ways, but are also similar. “I Stand Here Ironing” and “Everyday Use” both focus on the relationships of the mother and daughter, and on the sibling’s relationships with each other. Emily from “I Stand Here Ironing” and Maggie from “Everyday Use” have different relationships with their mothers, but have similar relationships with their sisters. Although the stories are similar in that Emily and Maggie are both distant from their sisters, they differ in that the mother is distant from Emily in “I Stand Here Ironing,” while the mother is close to Maggie in “Everyday Use.”
"Everyday Use" is told from momma's point of view which helps to reveal how she feels about herself. Momma feels that she is an uneducated person, she says "I never had an education myself," this creates barriers between her and her oldest daughter Dee who has a college education (94). She describes herself as "big-boned woman with rough, man-working hands" that wears overalls by day and flannel gowns by night (93). From momma's point of view one can tell that she favors her relationship with her daughter Maggie mo...
As the author mentions, both narrators suffer or experience oppression. In “Everyday Use”, Walker implies that the mother still live under the shadow of slavery when she mentions about the mother couldn’t look into white man’s eyes (337). Similarly, Olsen in her story “I Stand Here Ironing” writes “I was nineteen. It was the pre-relief, pre-WPA world of the depression” (224). Although the symbols in both story has its implication; however, the act of ironing and quilting represent the chores of woman. Both stories demonstrate that women are typically portray as house wife. Alice Walker and Tillie Olsen embody the tension for the mother-daughter relationship. Both stories have different conflict yet they shared one of the tensions; distance. In “Everyday Use”, there exists a distance between the narrator and her daughter Dee due to different levels of education. They were unable to communicate with each other because they were not on the same level. The narrator in “I Stand Here Ironing” also has a complex relationship with her daughter Emily as she has been absent from Emily’s life and development. Although there are some conflicts between the mother- daughter relationship, both Emily and Dee continues to
Although, a mother’s determination in the short story “I Stand Here Ironing” mother face with an intense internal conflict involving her oldest daughter Emily. As a single mother struggle, narrator need to work long hours every day in order to support her family. Despite these criticisms, narrator leaves Emily frequently in daycare close to her neighbor, where Emily missing the lack of a family support and loves. According to the neighbor states, “You should smile at Emily more when you look at her” (Olsen 225). On the other hand, neighbor gives the reader a sense that the narrator didn’t show much affection toward Emily as a child. The narrator even comments, “I loved her. There were all the acts of love” (Olsen 225). At the same time, narrator expresses her feeling that she love her daughter. Until, she was not be able to give Emily as much care as she desire and that gives her a sense of guilt, because she ends up remarrying again. Meanwhile narrator having another child named Susan, and life gets more compli...
The narrator has two daughters, Dee and Maggie. Dee was this cute girl who was super intelligent and sophisticated. She often saw herself as being above her mother and sister and would often make them feel stupid and bad about themselves. "She used to read to us without pity, forcing words, lies, other folks' habits, whole lives upon us two, sitting trapped and ignorant underneath her voice". She shows that Dee enjoyed making her mother and younger sister feel dumb about themselves because it made her feel superior. Her whole life Dee detested her family and where she came from and couldn’t wait to get away. But, still her mother worked her booty off to provide her with high education and a good life. Dee goes away to college and when she returns she is a completely different person, suddenly interested in her family; photographing them upon arrival. With her guest, new "Wangero Leewanika Kemanjo", invades her mothers house taking everything in like it’s a cute display for her. Finally, when Wangero (Dee) demands that her mother give her some quilts, her mum can not take anymore. She tells Dee that Maggie, not her, will be receiving the quilts and she snaps. "I did something I never had done before: hugged Maggie to me, then dragged her on into the room, snatched the quilts out of Miss Wangero's hands, and dumped them into Maggie's lap. Maggie just sat
Everyday Use ends with Dee leaving, not with the quilts, thus making room for the new bond between Mama and Maggie. Dee may believe that she has won in some way because she is the educated sister who appreciates her heritage, but the reader sees it is in fact Maggie who has become victorious by having her way of life validated by Mama’s support and Dee’s envy. Maggie’s system of values is redeemed by creating a new relationship, with herself, in which she is no longer silenced and can truly appreciate the beauty of her home even in its everyday use. While there is little growth seen from the experience on Dee’s side, we know that Maggie is forever changed, giving her more power than she ever had. There is still and will always be a struggle between her and her sister, but Maggie now knows she does not need redemption from Dee, nor anyone else, because it is she who carries the importance of the past into the future.
Alice Walker's "Everyday Use," explores Dee and Maggie's opposing views about their heritage by conveying symbolism through their actions. Maggie is reminded of her heritage throughout everyday life. Her daily chores consist of churning milk, helping mama skin hogs on the bench which is the same table her ancestors built, and working in the pasture. On the other hand, Dee moved to the city where she attends college. It is obvious throughout the story; Dee does not appreciate her heritage. When Dee comes back to visit Mama and Maggie she announces that she has changed her name to Wangero. Dee states "I couldn't bear it any longer, being named after the people who oppress me" (89). Her stopping the tradition of the name Dee, which goes back as far as mama can remember, tells the reader that Dee does not value her heritage. Another symbolism of her lack of appreciation for her heritage demonstrated through her actions is when Dee asks Mama if she can have the churn top to use it as a ce...
In the short story "I Stand Here Ironing" by Tillie Olsen the conflict between a mother whose giving is limited by hardships is directly related to her daughter's wrinkled adjustment. Ironing, she reflects upon when she was raising her first-born daughter, Emily. The mother contemplates the consequences of her actions. The mother's life had been interrupted by childbirth, desertion, poverty, numerous jobs, childcare, remarriage, frequent relocations, and five children. Her struggling economic situation gave way to little or no opportunity to properly care for and nurture her first-born child. In spite of the attention and love Emily craved and never received, she still survived, and even made strengths, and talents, out of the deprivations she had endured.
The story 'Everyday Use', written by Alice Walker, is a story of heritage, pride, and learning what kind of person you really are. In the exposition, the story opens with background information about Dee and Maggie's life, which is being told by Mama. The reader learns that Dee was the type of child that had received everything that she wanted, while Maggie was the complete opposite. The crisis, which occurs later in the story, happens when Dee all of a sudden comes home a different person than she was when she left. During the Climax, Mama realizes that she has often neglected her other child, Maggie, by always giving Dee what she wants. Therefore, in the resolution, Mama defends Maggie by telling Dee that she cannot have the household items that she wants just to show others, instead of putting them to use like Maggie.
Author Alice Walker, displays the importance of personal identity and the significance of one’s heritage. These subjects are being addressed through the characterization of each character. In the story “Everyday Use”, the mother shows how their daughters are in completely two different worlds. One of her daughter, Maggie, is shy and jealous of her sister Dee and thought her sister had it easy with her life. She is the type that would stay around with her mother and be excluded from the outside world. Dee on the other hand, grew to be more outgoing and exposed to the real, modern world. The story shows how the two girls from different views of life co-exist and have a relationship with each other in the family. Maggie had always felt that Mama, her mother, showed more love and care to Dee over her. It is until the end of the story where we find out Mama cares more about Maggie through the quilt her mother gave to her. Showing that even though Dee is successful and have a more modern life, Maggie herself is just as successful in her own way through her love for her traditions and old w...
Motherhood is a traditional role for women. From the time they are young, girls are taught to grow up, marry and become mothers. Of course they can do other things with their lives like play sports, have careers, and travel, but an overwhelming amount of women want to be mothers no matter what else they accomplish with their lives. It is common knowledge that being a good mother is one of the hardest jobs in the world. It is to forever have a special link with another person or people and have a tremendous influence, maybe the most tremendous influence over their lives. Motherhood is a roller coaster ride for women, full of ups and downs, fears and accomplishments. But what happens when motherhood defines who a woman is? All children grow up, and while a woman is always a mother, children need their mothers less and less until eventually their dependence is very minimal. What happens to the woman whose singular role and purpose is no longer needed? In The Summer Before The Dark, and The Fifth Child, the maternal roles of Kate Brown, and Harriet Lovatt are analyzed and traditional motherhood behavior is deconstructed due to these characters’ experiences and relationships with their children.