The Theme Of Violence In Pamela Cooper-White's The Cry Of Tamar

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Pamela Cooper-White’s, The Cry of Tamar, was an emotional read for myself, from cover to cover Pamela touches my heart beat and the desire to reach a hurting group of women. Not only did this book have the potential of being an emotional read, it hit areas that our true to my life. I believe that violence that happens against women, does not go without causing the ripple effect and in the end touching many lives more than just the victim. A little background history of the urgency this book places in my heart towards the broken. I grew up in a single parent home, my mom divorced my adulterous abusive father after she (and inadvertently us) experienced some injurious abuse leaving her hospitalized. This was just the beginning of the violence I would experience and see as a ‘women’ in this world. Now a child of a single parent home, the violence was turned towards me, first starting with my brother’s endless abuse, not your average sibling rivalry, rather pretending to drown me, suffocate me, sitting on me. As my brother became harder to control, it was my mom’s abuse towards the two of us physical, mental and the neglect. As my mother’s boyfriend moved in with us, then begin more of the abuse …show more content…

First off, I was raped by the man I was separated from, he was a volunteer fireman, and good friends with all the policemen. Myth #9 states “Most women are raped by a stranger in a desolate place”, fact is, I was raped by my estranged husband in my children’s playroom (Cooper-White, 116). Myth #7 stating that women use it as a form of revenge, it was truth and not revenge. As a rape victim, it was hard to get anyone to believe me due to his connections with the police force, his great lawyer and the fact that he was my husband, Cooper-White talks about spousal rapes in this chapter as

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