The History of Marriage and Family is Changing

That people who have kids and families should get married. That getting a divorce when they have kids is selfish and wrong, and that other kinds of relationships aside from marriage is bad for families with kids. Moreover, they say that in order to be a happy family, they need to get married. Those people push the people around them to make harsh decisions in their relationships, ones that could lead to an even worse situation. To better help people with hard situations to make the best decision, we have to support them with their decision making, as no one knows their situation better than they do.

One thing that is commonly stated about divorce is, once two married parents with children decide to divorce, that they are no longer a family (66). Although, they may not be living together in the same house it does not mean they are still not a family. No matter what, the parents will always be linked to each other because of the children. Is that not the definition of a family? In addition, assumptions are made that if people are married with kids that they are an ideal family This is not the case, if the marriage is not working out and is only causing problems amongst the parents and kids than that is not considered a family either.

Before getting divorced the realities and consequences must be considered because they are serious. No one comes out of a divorce unscathed. Even if you are in a marriage that is abusive, adulterous, or where your spouse is addicted to a substance or has abandoned you, it is important to be forewarned before you go ahead with the divorce. Knowledge is power and it enables you to make plans and wise decisions. We are aware that marriage should not be taken lightly and in the same manner, neither should divorce.

"Trial Marriage". Ladies' Home Journal 14 (May 1993): 12-13.) If an unsolveable conflict arises, the couple can cancel their wedding plans and escape the painful exercise of divorce. Living together ultimately can test the couple's compatibility and have them really get to know each other. Although evidence suggests that "couples who live together do not necessarily have more or less successful marriages than couples who don't live together before the wedding, studies show that non-marital cohabitors are more realistic about their demands and expectations of marriage.

The differences between the cultural perception of marriage in the “Roaring Twenties” compared to today have manifested themselves in many different ways. Marriage in the 1920s was less of an option, and more of an expectation. Despite a decline in marriage rates compared to decades previous, marriage was still considered far and wide a social norm, albeit a faltering one. Couples were much more reluctant to get divorced, and many saw marriage as a commitment that illustrated their maturity and adulthood. Compared to what is probably the peak of marriage rates in America, the post-WWII era, the 1920s experienced over two-thirds the amount of marriages.

However, a shift in culture has affected the reasons to seek marriage with many millennials swaying from traditional relationships. Author Stephanie Coontz stated “Almost half of American marriages end in divorce. That 's an intimidating number to those who haven 't been married “(Pg. 330) Sadly, marriage hasn’t had the best reputation in the past decade leading single individuals to neglect any benefits contracting marriage may bring. However, many millennials have put education as their priority, leaving romantic relationships for later which is not necessarily a bad thing.

The inability of being able to ensure a successful relationship is what lowers Moller away from the idea of marriages being a good idea because of how easily it is for people to get divorced and how unpredictable humans themselves can be. People can loose interest in their spouse and be stuck in loveless relationship, which isn’t necessary and could all be avoided if people didn’t marry in the first place. However marriage isn’t a gamble like a game of Russian roulette, it’s a relationship built on the hope of having prosperous relationship that will eventually create a family. If one doesn’t give an intent to have a successful marriage they won’t loose anything if things work out and the couple loves each other. They will loose more if they never give it a try.

The government is not going to add their two sense into promoting programs, which will save marriages. However, what about the people who still believe in it, or need to save their own marriage that is on the brink of divorce. The government feels that marriage is not worth saving since it’s not for every person. It is understandable that marriage is not for everybody, but let the entire world a fair chance at the opportunity of

There is no purpose in masking a marriage when the chemistry and love is no longer there. Instead of fighting and causing pain to them and everyone around them, it is better to be honest and admit that that the marriage is no longer working. It is perfectly fine to admit and decide that divorce is the best thing for their family. Marriage is a beautiful decision not a painful sacrifice.

As Berlin states in his testimony that, “marriage can help children only if the marriage is a healthy one”. When he states a healthy one, he means in the matter that they are not fighting or no abuse is occurring. An unhealthy marriage can cause many issues for a child's well-being and future development. Berlin also mentions that “marital hostility is associated with increased aggression and disruptive behaviors”. Coming from this a divorce may be necessary in many cases, but the debate is still: what are its true effects?