The Fatherless Daughter Project Essay

I remember doing things my way because I couldn’t trust anyone to follow through with the task I gave them in group projects. In addition, I was afraid to talk about my parent’s divorce because no one in my circle of friends at school went through the same condition I did. My parent’s divorce led me to having trust issues and made it hard to confide in anyone. I usually don’t feel alone. I had a great deal of friends and a large family.

McBride delves into his mother’s closed off past. Something she never allowed herself to share with any of her children. He grew up in the projects. Growing up McBride did not understand his mother; he was embarrassed, and baffled by her. It was not until he was a grown man that he began to uncover the truth about the early years of her life and her long-repressed misery.

During her tough journey through life, Cheryl has truly found herself and becomes the person she knows her mother raised. Cheryl’s journey in life started with struggles at a very young age. From the time she was very young, her parents had a very violent relationship that resulted in her father leaving. In many cases this would be acknowledged as a good thing, and I’m not disagreeing, but that hardship of losing your own father is also a tragedy to deal with. Many times, parental issues lead to children pulling away or rebelling, but Cheryl never did.

Nanny provided her with love and protection, but that is not the love she wanted. One day in her early teen years Janie thought she finally had found out what love was with Johnny Taylor, a young boy, but her grandmother told her love was about “stability and money, “and had nothing to do with caring about the other person. On Janie’s journey, she... ... middle of paper ... ...at she had to be strong and much more than a house-wife. Moving on with her life, in the next marriage with Joe she was constantly belittled, but she stayed by his side even after the abuse. Janie had develop faithfulness in this relationship, but still she had not found true love.

Ever since I was small I would hear stories from my parents, true recent stories they would hear from their hometown Tepezala in Mexico. Most of the stories were about children, children that were nothing but abused and no help was provided to them. But there was one story I heard about two years ago about a 10-year-old girl named Andrea who really impacted me. I was told she was not a planned baby in other words her mother came out pregnant at the age of 15. Like in most cases of young mothers, she didn’t receive support from the baby’s father and neither from her parents since she was already seen as a decrease.

I always assumed I would do the same, but after seeing my parents’ marriage fall apart and my Mom struggling with the new change in her life and feeling as if she was lost and had no skills to get a job and provide for herself, she felt as if she had lost everything. I did not want that. Luckily, my brother and I were pretty much all grown and headed out on our own. Seeing how my Mom struggled with no education and no job experience I made sure I did not follow in her footsteps by working at an early age and getting my Cosmetologists license. All of the experiences I had up until this date have made into the person I am today.

Being abandoned by my loved ones is one of my insecurities, since childhood. Ive been through rough times my entire childhood from being with one parent to another or being on streets all alone. I never thought anyone would ever be interested in me or even if they did, they would use me and then walk out my life. My whole perspective on relationships changed when my boyfriend walked into my life. I thought it wouldn’t last or he’ll be flirting with other girls and what not.

1. Throughout A Loss for Words, Lou Ann discusses the impact of having deaf parents played in her and her sister’s childhood. Some examples include, being an interpreter and a guide for her parents while she was growing up, causing her to more of an adult rather than being a child (Walker, 1986, p. 2). Lou Ann never minded though she loved to feel important and to help her parents, along with her two sisters, with their business affairs. It was not always easy though Lou Ann says that, “in a few instances I was an unfaithful go-between,” for instance, “the garage mechanic who refused to serve them because [her parents] were deaf” (Walker, 1986, p. 21).

Depending how close you become with this friend, usually you meet their parents. I witnessed many different levels of parenting, ranging from not caring at all, to parents that are way too overprotective. I just happened to be best friends with a girl that had the most overprotective parents. My friend Sierra wasn 't allowed to do most things that teenagers do. For example, she couldn 't date till she was 16, rarely got to go out and eat, and wasn 't allowed to go to anyone 's house unless their parents called hers.

Pauline clearly felt nobody cared for her, that her Father was more interested in her stepmother and children, she felt this so strongly it led her to running away from home. She was at risk... ... middle of paper ... ...bsp;(9) Summary This study indicates risk factors for Pauline including an unhappy home situation with her Dad’s new family where she has felt nobody really cared whether she was there or not, her unsatisfying relationship with her Mother, her alcohol binging, cigarette smoking & marijuana use, her limited activities, dropping out of school at a young age, early sexual involvement and low mood. Protective factors bringing some resilience to her life include adult trust with her Aunt Sarah and Tutor, awareness of her iwi links and whanau contact, her enjoyment and regular attendance to at Alternative Education and her goal of wanting to stay there until she gets a job, recent enjoyable church involvement, her ability to learn from situations and wanting to make positive changes in her life. The likely outcomes for Pauline’s health are hopeful but the significant concerns that could tip the equilibrium are firstly the early onset in her life of a relationship with Jack and their sporadic condom use, as a probable outcome for Pauline is pregnancy and wanting to keep the baby, and secondly her alcohol, marijuana and nicotine use and the level of addiction that may have built up.