In romantic and platonic relationships, individuals experience different variations of attachment. Previous experiences shape and mold a person’s attachment style into four different categories: secure, preoccupied, fearful and dismissive. Each of these categories illustrates positive or negative emotions of self and positive or negative emotions for others. These attachment styles can be seen in The Office’s Dinner Party episode. In The Office’s Dinner Party episode, Michael Scott invites his fellow co-workers, Jim and Pam to a dinner party. Michael Scott and his girlfriend, Jan, welcome Jim and Pam into their home and give them a tour. Jan’s dominance in the relationship becomes obvious when she shows Jim and Pam her office, workspace and …show more content…
These individuals are self-sufficient and do not need close relationships. This idea can be seen as a tactic to maintain their positive view of themselves and avoid others’ opinions and disapproval. Dismissive individuals place importance on non-personal components of life rather than relationships. They stay clear of attachment, intimacy and self-disclosure. When this type of individual is in a relationship, they tend to not care about maintaining relationships, which can be perceived as callous and uncooperative. They tend to communicate and accommodate less with others and withdraw during conflict. Dismissive individuals like to handle their problems internally and do not seek help from others (Guerrero, K., Andersen, A., Afifi, A., 2013). The Dinner Party episode can illustrate the different attachment styles in relationships. Jim and Pam are the only guest that have a secure attachment style. They both are comfortable in their relationship and communicate effectively. Both Jim and Pam easily show their connection with nonverbals, like touching, smiling and laughing with each other. Also, they are self-sufficient but function as a
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On a scale from one to ten, how suitable would it be to furbish one’s residence with a picture frame without displaying a photograph inside of it? Such is the relationship between the Christian and Platonic social imaginaries. The Platonic social imaginary can compatibly frame the picture of Christian faith and open up the possibility of deism. However, the frame simply gives emphasis and prominence to the picture; the two essences are not compatible enough to function interchangeably. Perhaps we must adapt a Catholic social imaginary in order to look past how the Platonic views work as an icon to point towards a higher deism. Through examining figures such as St. Augustine and Anselm, Plato, and the way that these social imaginaries interlace
The three relationships I choosed are, my cousin Beatriz Guerra , my best friend Kimberly Cantu and my friend David Nieves. My cousin Beatriz is adventurous person,even though we are 6 years apart from each other we still get along every well. We stand in the intensifying stage. We often spend time together and also do favors for each other . Every friday we go bowling together or sometimes go shopping.We also do favors for each other.When I need help with any of my assignments or advice for any personal problems that I might have, I ask for her assistance she would also do the same. For example, this week I was struggling with my compare and contrast essay so I asked Beatriz for help and she was very nice and helped me.
Admittedly, many psychologists define attachment as an enduring, affectionate bond that one person forms between himself and another person throughout life. Mary Ainsworth provided the most famous research: strange situation, offering explanations of individual differences in attachment. However, in this Adult Attachment Style questionnaire that I took, I found many factors relevant to attachment as defined in the textbook. For example, in the textbook, it defines attachment based on Ainsworth research, the strange situation by observing attachment forms between mother and infants. They are described in four attachment styles: securely attached, insecure avoidant, insecure resistant, and insecure disorganized.
Acknowledging, the importance of attachment has been in helpful development of couples therapy, in particular to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), “where it helps explain how even healthy adults need to depend on each other,” (Nichols, 2013, p. 62). EFT is an empirically validated experiential therapy model that works with emotion to create change. EFT therapists use “attachment theory to deconstruct the familiar dynamic in which one partner criticizes and complains while the other gets defensive and withdraws,” (Nichols, 2013, p.63). Research has demonstrated the importance of attachment in individuals. It is not solely a childhood trait attachment is a trait that individuals carry for the rest of their lives. Nonetheless, it is important to work on the attachments with families and couples in order to alleviate some of the negative interactions that arise from feeling a fear of losing the attachment with
The study refers to relational maintenance as “the action and activities romantic partners use to sustain desired relational definitions” (Bolkan and Goodboy, 327). Studies show prosocial behaviors, where openness, positivity, assurance, social networks, shared tasks, and conflict management are the primary functions with a relationship are defined as operationalized maintenance (Bolkan and Goodboy, 328). Conversely, antisocial or avoidance strategies are utilized in negative relational maintenance. These methods of maintaining a romantic relationship are categorized by jealousy induction, avoidance, destructive conflict, allowing control, spying, and infidelity (Bolkan and Goodboy, 328). Often partners utilizing these behaviors report less liking, satisfaction, respect, control mutuality, and commitment. Furthermore, this observation prompted Bolkan and Goodboy to investigate if the practice of negative relational maintenance behaviors results from difference in adult attachment styles. In previous studies focus has been placed on the role attachment styles plays in prosocial maintenance behaviors, where functions including assurance, romantic affection, support, conflict management, advice, social networks, openness and positivity are performed by secure partners (Bolkan and Goodboy, 329). Clearly, attachment styles contribute
The first stage of the cycle is the man experiences rejection by his current partner. The past experience of rejection by the man's previous attachment relationships will be able to detonate by contact with his current partner's behaviour of rejection. Brown et al. (2010) pointed out that previous experiences of rejection weaken a man's ability to cope with present rejection. Such experiences include excessive rejection, punishment, neglect and abandonment. According to Bowlby's attachment research (as cited in Bretherton, 1992, p. 769), repeated threats of rejection may lead to excessive separation anxiety. Thus, an anxiously attached man tends to be the one being rejected or abandoned several times by parents or previous partner in his past life experience. Substantial research has been carried out which indicated a link between attachment style and man's abusive behaviour (Brown et al., 2010). Other than that, a man received excessive punishment during their childhood is more likely a troublesome individual (Fergusson & Lynskey, 1997). Therefore, when a m...
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It seemed like she must have set it up that way because it was a nice, private table ... It was very low-keyed, just two couples having a nice dinner." '' Justin and Jen were really close with each other, Sandra and Bryan Randall were really close too. It was a really happy vibe. They seemed to be having a lot of fun together.''
The researcher's qualitative research consisted of speaking with platonic friends of the opposite sex in casual random settings. The qualitative research was completely random using friends by chance that had no idea of the experiment. In doing so the researcher realizes that it is unethical, but figured it was the only way to find the real answers to his problem. During the conversation the researcher at one point or another came to ask the same four questions to all of the subjects involved in the experiment. The four questions were as follows: 1) we are strictly platonic friends, right? 2) Why are you my friend? 3) Have you ever wanted to be more than friends? 4) Is it a possibility for us to be more than friends? The "so called" platonic friends names will all remain confidential in order to keep their business private. To this point there have been ten random friends that have partaken in the qualitative study.
There are many different types of relationships. From your neighbor to your significant other, experiencing different relationships is a part of everyday life. Wether you posses good or bad communication skills will affect the interpersonal relationships within your life. The popular television series Modern Family is a good example of the different types of friendships, types of love, and relationship theories that encompass the everyday person.
As humans, we are constantly building relationships with others and meeting new people, but sometimes it 's hard to maintain a relationship with another person, when only one person is engaged in it. All healthy relationships or friendships should be based upon the concepts of caring, supporting, and spending time with each other, and if one person is not able to provide these concepts towards the other person, then the relationship quickly becomes one-sided.
“Relationships are what make up our world today, they shape the ways we see things and the way that we do things, relationships affect how we see the world today”. I believe supporting what your partner does, having a great sum of trust and showing your affections towards your partner is what will make a healthy relationship great.
Throughout most of my life I have gained friendships and relationships with others that have turned into long term, but others which only lasted a short while. The friendship that has greatly impacted my life significantly over the last eight years is someone who means so much to me. This meaningful friendship all started back when I was in middle school, which has grown stronger over the years. I met Brooke in middle school because we had some of the same classes and were in homeroom together. Our friendship developed quickly and lasted throughout our high school years. We became really close our Junior and Senior year of high school. But, maintaining our friendship hasn’t always been so easy. Today, we text and call each other on our free time, but I know I can count and rely on her when I need someone to talk too. I call her my second sister and vice versa. And when we go home on breaks we see one another as much as we can. The best part of our relationship is that if one is in need of advice or in need of a shoulder to cry on, we are always there for one another. Keeping in contact is very important in our relationship and communication has played a key role in our relationship.