I first became a mother on a very hot day in North Carolina on August 2008, to a 9 lb. 7 oz. girl. We moved to Texas when she was 7 months old and have lived here ever since; except the 6 months we lived in Canada during the winter. It was a great experience living there but it made me very grateful for Texas winters. Flash forward to now and I am a single mother of two strong willed girls one almost 9 and the other recently turned 5. I have been a single mom for almost 3 years now and the job is every bit as gratifying as it is exhausting. It has not been easy or simple, but I love the little family we have made. I have found an incredible source of independence and strength through being a single mom. I decided right after my divorce that I would accept it. This is not what I wanted for myself or my daughters; but this is my reality now. I can’t go back in time and change anything so I am accepting the situation for what it is and moving forward. My own mother was a single mom through part of my …show more content…
Even though it is only 8 days of the month; I cherish that time I can get rest and renewal. Many of us arrive to motherhood in different ways; but no matter how you became a mom the fact remains that motherhood is hard. Whether you are a single mother or not, motherhood can be frustrating and exhausting but it can also be fulfilling and rewarding as well. I read an article the other day called "The one thing you must tell your child" from thebettermom.com. There were a couple of things that stood out to me when I was reading it. Our children need to hear us say, "I will always love you. Nothing you do will make me stop loving you." "Just like God loves us, we will always love them. God never gives us on us and we will never give up on them." I agree we should tell our children often. They need to be reminded that we love them even when you are angry with
"Love cannot remain by itself — it has no meaning. Love has to be put into action and that action is service."
Undeniably, this corroborates the fact that joint custody positively impacts children as they have more than one emotional input to turn to when
I give to you, that you love one another; just as I have loved you, you also are to love one
At first, I had a hard time trying to find an older person to interview, because I did not want to interview my family since I’ve lived with them my whole life. While I was getting ready to interview my friend’s parent, I started reading the questions to myself, and I realized that I do not know the answer to them if I ask my parents. I chose to interview my mother because I have never sat down with her and have a serious deep conversation with her. I realized that I am closer to her than my father, but I’m not as close as I thought I was with her, and it broke my heart when I finally realized that. At the age she is, I finally realized that I have been taking advantage of her and I refused to live this way with her. This interview was emotional for both of us, and it also brought us closer to each other. I am so grateful and happy I did this interview with her.
W. S. Ross once said “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” As simple as this quip may sound, its complex implications are amplified through the life of every person born since the beginning of humanity. What attribute makes a mother such an extraordinary influence over her young? One such attribute is the ability to nurture. Beyond the normal challenges of cooking, cleaning, schooling, singing, feeding, and changing is the motivation by which such sacrifices are made possible. One cannot raise a child without mutual respect. Emotion and anxiety must drive her instincts. Her ability to foster is only heightened by minute personal imperfections and overwhelming responsibility that lead to a lack of confidence. Yet the prevailing characteristic that separates a ‘birth giver’ from a ‘mother’ is the unconditional, undying, and at times underestimated love for her child. To be a mother in the purest sense, she must embrace this notion of nurture.
I remember the day she born. I was nervous for the simple fact that my life would never be the same. Soon no longer would I be known as just Ayanna, I would take on a new title. A title that I would share with so many woman, and after eight long hours of labor, I would now be known to the world as mommy.
For most people, becoming a parent is one of the greatest moments in their lives. I never understood the true meaning of love until I became a father. Little did I know; I would also learn the tragedy of loss.
We as parents have become older, and we lived our lives. It is now our Children’s turn to live theirs and hope, as parents, we did most of what we had to do as God had wished us.
Motherhood has taught me many life lessons. Before becoming a mother, I was a self centered child. I had no motivation to succeed. All I was worried about was where the next party was. At that time I had no want to try because I was so scared to fail. I was slowly progressing to go nowhere and do nothing with my life. That has all changed now. I no longer party or use drugs. I work full time, attend college full time and devote my all to my children. Without them I would probably be in a jail cell not where I am today.
Why did you choose this article? Obviously, being a mom means more than having given a birth to a child. It is loving, caring and devoting the whole life to raise my child to become a good, happy and successful person in life. This is a toughest and high intensive full time job with many requirements, but without salary payment. Like other moms on the world, I want to find out the most suitable parenting strategy for my child, as it is the determinant factor in child development, and also affects my child’s psychological and social functioning. I realized that the way I raise my child is often similar to the way I was raised by my parents, but it seems difficult and challenging to clearly understand, accept and modify my parenting style. My
Instead of feeling that you need to replace your wife or your husband for your kids, why don't you focus on what you need to provide or give to them? Being a single parent is not a reason for you to feel guilty. You should rather be proud that your sons and daughters have you.
Privileged to say the least, I was born into the opportunity of living and growing up in San Diego. Surrounded by both parents and a younger brother for most of my life, I was raised and attended school in the Ocean Beach area.
Is being a single mother a the most inspiring, difficult, demanding, and rewarding job in the that a person can have? I always looked up to my mother as a loving and caring inspiration to me and others who she came in contact with. Even though I always looked at my mother as a role model she is not perfect, I watched her make mistakes such as abusing prescription medication she received due to an injury, spend money irresponsibly, and procrastinate time and time again. My family has battled hardship, adversity, and lack from the time I was old enough to realize what was happening in the world around me. A mother’s actions in life can leave permanent impressions on her children. I have adopted good and bad habits from my mother. I also learned from her mistakes which made me the person I am today. When I was young she was my inspiration because of the good moral character she possessed. Now that I have seen some of the negative and bad decisions that she made affect her life and everyone that lives with her I strive to do the opposite and make good life changing decisions such as eliminating procrastination and staying away from drugs. A person, especially a mother can be defined by their actions during these tough times. My mother has always been the most
Single parenting is probably the toughest thing to do. I was 15-years-old when I met my daughter’s father. We met in Middle School, and we were in a relationship for 5 years. I had our daughter when I was a 19-year old senior in High school. My daughter’s father and I made the mutual decision to part ways due to a lot of complications in our relationship. Throughout the years, we’ve had many ups and downs. Our relationship was a roller coaster. My daughter’s father is still very much in her life, and we try our best to co-parent, but even though we co-parent, it is still very hard to do things on my own. Single parenting gets difficult at times and I never thought I’d be ‘one of those girls’ who has to do something like parenting alone, but here I am doing it, and there’s no other way I’d have it. I’m happy to be the mother of a very beautiful smart 3-year-old. I’m happy to be faced with challenges that have me pushing to do better and be better, as single mother.
Social Development has not prepared individuals to be single parents. Single mothers and single fathers need to establish strong support networks, personal friendships, and positive parenting skills. They need to learn how to synchronize the demands of work, home-care, and supervision of children (Benson, 1993). They need to enforce limits, rules, and boundaries consistently, and to transmit responsibility and values, in order to raise responsible, self-controlled, and healthy children (Cloud, and Townsend, 1998). They need to find ways to improve and maintain their self-esteem. Many single parents learn to live on reduced incomes, find acceptable ways to deal with non-custodial parent, and redefine their relationships with their children. These are but a few of the challenges facing single parents (Benson, 1993).