Roethke continues to use contrasting diction to emphasize the child’s love for his father. In the third stanza, Roethke describes the waltz, ‘At every step you missed / My right ear scraped a buckle” (11-12). Obviously, it is painful for the child to have his ear scraped at every missed step, but he refuses to speak up or stop because he loves dancing with his father. Lastly, and possibly the most dramatic of all the contrasts, is the last two lines of the poem. Roethke states, “Then waltzed me off to bed / Still clinging to your shirt” (15-16).
Both poems “My Papa’s Waltz” by Theodore Roethke and “Those Winter Sundays” by Robert Hayden are poems in which the speaker (a son in both cases) attempts to explain his complex relationship with his father. It seems that the two poets are reflecting back in their early lives as young boys and showing different appreciation toward their father. In my interpretation “My Papa’s Waltz” is about a boy and that is excited that his father got home to play with him. Only problem is the speakers father is drunk and it hard to enjoy himself but he held on because the unconditional love he has for him, as the line says “The Whiskey on your breath / could make a boy dizzy; / But I hung like death: ” (1-2-3). However, “Those Winter Sundays” is more about a boy that really didn’t appreciate his father’s tough love and hard work to kept heat in the house as the third stanza said “what did I know, what did I know / of love’s austere and lonely offices?” (13-14).
By the first two lines, the reader may already see how this man feels about his father's drunkenness. It seems as if Roethke has preceded his poem with this factor in order to demonstrate the resentment that he feels toward his father. However, the last two lines of the poem suggest feelings other than resentment: "Then waltzed me off to bed/ Still clinging to your shirt" (Roethke 668). By mentioning the fact that his father put him to bed, Roethke seems to show affectionate feelings Bridges 2 involved in this dance. He shows his caring feelings in the last line by using the words "still clinging".
As they dance, when the boy misses a step his ear scrapes his dad's belt buckle painfully, and finally the father whisks him off to bed. This is obviously a defining moment in his childhood. Most of us can think of a time when we roughhoused or danced with our fathers, standing on their feet so that we could keep... ... middle of paper ... ...o so because they love their children. By reflecting back on this experience as an adult, Hayden gives the reader the chance to mend his/her ways before it is too late-to appreciate our fathers for all that they do. Although Theodore Roethke and Robert Hayden have very different experiences in childhood to write about, the overall message is appreciation of their fathers.
The events of our childhood and interactions with our parents is an outline of our views as parents ourselves. Although Robert Hayden’s relationship with his father differentiates from the relationship of Theodore Roethke and his father, they are both pondering back to their childhood and expressing the events in a poem. “My Papa’s Waltz” and “Those winter Sundays” provide the reader with an image of a childhood event which states how fathers are being viewed by their children. These poems reflect upon the relationship of the father and child when the child was a youth. Both Roethke and Hayden both indicate that their fathers weren’t perfect although they look back admiringly at their fathers’ actions.
In addition, Roethke writes that he “hung on like death,” and since death is inescapable and hangs on to everyone, we can assume that as a child he never wanted to be separated from his father. He then writes, “such waltzing was not easy.” This line itself speaks to the relationship between him and his father. The “waltz” of life between the two was not easy, but it is an inseparable dance between two entities. It isn’t until the next stanza where Roethke really shows us what is happening in this poem. “We romped until the pans/ Slid from the kitchen shelf;/ My mother’s countenance/ Could not unfrown itself.
Compassion do to the fathers had work, I knew that he couldn’t be their all the time for me and sometime drank alcohol do to the stress of work, but was always happy with the family. My family always understood my father and knew he will never let us down. Self- reliance came to me after watching my father struggle with his job. My father struggles and had work to give the family everything encourages me to graduate college and have a better future. It through my father’s hard work that I am the man I am today, teaching me to have compassion, be discipline and to rely on my strength.
He knew that his dad loved him and that his dad still cared about Bryan even if Bryan didn’t care about him. “I am sorry dad,” Bryan said, “I am sorry for everything I had said to you. It was my fault, not your fault so you shouldn’t be the one to say ‘I’m sorry’; it should be me. I should be the one who is sorry.” Bryan knew that no matter how sorry he was his dad cannot be bring back to life. He learned a very special lesson that night in the hospital and that is to treasure something because one day it might disappear.
Roethke’s and Hayden’s poems use tone in the same way to show that both children ultimately love their fathers regardless of the abuse he commits. The young boy in My Papa’s Waltz is clearly very fond of his father even though his Papa abuses him. It is through the tone the young boy uses that Roethke shows how much he loves his father. This is first enforced when the boy says, “But I hung on like death: Such waltzing was not easy” (Roethke, 3-4). The boy loves his father and he h... ... middle of paper ... ...se of sound further proves that the young man loves his father.
A relationship is important to a father and son. The importance is acknowledging one another. Father and son relationships are important in the poems, “My Papa’s Waltz,” “Those Winter Sundays,” and “My Father’s Hat.” Theodore Roethke acknowledges his father’s love and attention in his poem, “My Papa’s Waltz.” Robert Hayden acknowledges his father in his poem, “Those Winter Sundays,” by recognizing his father’s hard work and sacrifice. Mark Irwin acknowledges his father in his poem, “My Father’s Hat.” The three poems acknowledge the fathers; however, the poems are different in their mood. The mood of Theodore Roethke’s poem, “My Papa’s Waltz,” is exciting.