And how every holiday now feels so empty, as if I have a big hole in my heart. I sadly, personally know four people that have been diagnosed with cancer. My baby cousin at age three passed away because of the disease. I’ve also lost an uncle who was the age of seventeen and a pepere who was the age of sixty-four. Thankfully my other pepere is still kicking around.
What had started as a simple check-up, turned into much more when my grandfather was diagnosed with Leukemia. It changed the entire course of my life, however, at the time, I had no idea. After an arduous few months, my grandfather lost the battle to cancer, an illness that simply could not be defeated. Immediately, I realized that I never wanted to feel this helpless again and decided to become someone
The year that led up to her passing was a difficult time for me, I had lost my father at a very young age therefore, I have no memories of him. However, with my nana I grew up with her all my life and have lots of memories of her so the pain of losing her is very different from my father. I watched the woman who had been the family rock deteriorate before my eyes. With each passing day my grandmother grew weaker and her beautiful soft face began to change colors her eyes were no longer the vibrated golden brown filled with life that I had always remembered. The day she told me she was diagnosed with cancer and there was no hope for a recovery and given only six months to live.
How does a daughter go from talking with her mother daily to no longer wanting to speak with her again? Through a series of events, that is exactly what has happened between my mother and I. My mother and I have had a rather typically mother/daughter relationship with its good times and bad times. However, in late 2012, my family’s life was suddenly changed when my father died in an unexpected diagnosis of cancer. My father went in the hospital Dec 3 and died December 28, 2012.
My grandmother (his wife) possessed the largest burden of the constant care for my grandfather as he slid into a state of powerlessness and incapability for basic self-maintenance. However, since my grandma never learned how to drive, taking full care of my grandpa become a near impossible task. After nearly a year and a half of my family witnessing my grandfather losing himself to Alzheimer’s, my family decided to place him in a hospice care facility that could provide him with the proper care before his inevitable passing to the disease a few months later. Since my father’s dad lived in Ohio and his mother died before I was born, I was only able to see him a few times a year. The proximity to my mother’s parents provided me with a special bond to them as I was growing up seeing them a few times a week.
Last year I lost three main people in my adult life. My grandmother who passed away from cancer, my grandfather who passed away from old age, and my great-grandmother who passed of a heart attack in her sleep. Although all of these members of my family were older and as they age it is inevitable they will pass away. I struggled with the problems in my relationship with my boyfriend who was not present during these periods of time as well as a job that I was extremely unhappy at. In chronological order, my great-grandmother passed away in January 2013, my grandfather passed away in July of 2013 and my grandmother passed away in November the week before Thanksgiving 2013.
Two years and four months ago I died. A terrible condition struck me, and I was unable to do anything about it. In a matter of less than a year, it crushed down all of my hopes and dreams. This condition was the death of my mother. Even today, when I talk about it, I burst into tears because I feel as though it was yesterday.
Four of his siblings died before they entered adulthood, most even before Hitler was born. From the start of Hitler’s life it was full of loss from his early life. He was constantly moving from town to town because of his father’s work. At the age of 16 his father died, Hitler despised him, it was actually more of a positive event because it allowed Hitler to pursue his lifetime dream of becoming an artist. A quote from Mein Kampf summed up his feelings, “I respected my father, but I loved my mother (Hitler, 1925).” Then at the age of 18 his mother passed away due to breast cancer, she was treated by a Jewish doctor coincidentally.
This major dilemma played a major role in mom’s returning back to school. She had taken care of my great grandmother for months before she passed away, and decided that she wanted to make an impact on the lives of geriatrics. While in school, Mom didn’t have it to easy. Not only did she raise a daughter and take care of a husband, she had to deal with numerous setbacks. These included such things as my father suffering a heart attack and going on to have a triple by-pass, she herself went through an emergency surgery, which sat her a semester behind, and her father also suffered a heart attack.
Esther's father's death had showed that she was in need of a father figure for love, support and to act as a model for her life. Esther grew up with only the one influence of a parent, her mother. Often times the loss of a friendship can be a great loss of support and confidence within our lives because we can lose them forever. This is demonstrated when Buddy Willard Esther's boyfriend break up. "He told me that his annual fall chest x-ray showed he had caught tuberculosis...in the Adirondacks" (Sylvia Plath pg.