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"The universe has to move forward. Pain and loss, they define us as much as happiness or love." Whether it's a world or a relationship, love and loss have a time; everything ends. Just because things aren't forever and tragic event occurs, doesn't mean you have to live your life in sorrow. You can't let life just happen to you, take control and choose to be happy.
It's easier for people to bring you down than for you to bring people up. When you surround yourself with negativity the chances of you seeing things from a negative light are pretty high. Growing up my mother always told me "you take on the traits of the people you call friends". Meaning, whether on purpose or subconsciously, when you spend time with a person or a group of people you begin to act like them. Now it's all up to you what you want your actions and attitude to reflect about your character, but the way I learn was that if you want to be known as someone who has good moral standings and a positive attitude then you need to surround yourself with people who want the same thing. It's always easier to do someone thing when you have the support of people. Just as it's easier get drunk every night and get into trouble when you find a group that gets drunk every night and can get you into trouble. I completely understand thinking that you can change people from the latter into someone who is a "good person" but taking on the whole group at once is asking for trouble. So be the example for others to follow, but be sure you aren't following the wrong example yourself.

Don't let other people tell you what you're capable of. Even though it sounds like such a silly cliché, you can do any thing you set your mind to. It is true though that we each have a unique skill ...

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...o could ask for anything more? Well it turns out the stresses of school and social standing are still enough to change the course of friendship even as a senior. One by one I began drifting away from the people I thought I would always need. But I believe that was my mistake. I had it in my mind that I needed other people in my life to make me happy. So when I lost everyone, it was one of the most devastating things that had happened to me. Now I'm not saying that you don't need people, being alone forever isn't anyone's idea of a good life. But you need to learn that happiness comes from within and not from being surrounded by people. This is the lesson I desperately needed to learn even if I didn't realize it until now. Even though I feel like I lost everyone, at this present moment in my life, I have never been more content with not only my life, but with myself.

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