Before the age of ten, I already experienced more loss than any of my peers. My maternal grandmother, with whom I had a very close relationship, passed away from lung cancer when I was seven years old. My paternal grandfather followed her two months later, dying from the same disease. With their deaths, I lost two of the people who cared for me most and I struggled with the void left behind in my life with their passing.
Less than two years later, my father, who maintained a very close relationship with me despite his divorce from my mother and who picked me up from school every single day, decided to move to Los Angeles with his new girlfriend. He promised to fly me to see him twice a month. He promised Disneyland and trips to the beach. Twice a month quickly became once a month and once a month eventually turned into just a few weeks
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As boyfriends would come and go from her life, so would my attachment to the father-figures they often became. They often came into my life with such enthusiasm and would eventually disappear with very little explanation and sometimes without even a goodbye. I wondered if my mere existence was preventing my mother from maintaining love in her life as my perception of what it means to love someone began to take shape.
By the time I reached adulthood, I realized how intrenched I was in my acceptance of love as something that comes and goes. I had a series of long-term boyfriends and eventually a marriage that was built upon love that faded almost as quickly as it emerged. In my life, relationships were usually temporary and any exceptions in the lives of others that violated this understanding were viewed as rare and mythical. The loves of my life were consistently of the seasonal variety and it was this realization that led me to one of the most profound lessons of meaning in my
When I was twelve years old, a close friend of mine passed away. At first, I didn’t know how to process what was happening. How can someone I’ve known for the majority of my life be gone? But then it finally hit me. My friend was really gone. There would be no more days challenging
Everything for a year had been leading up to this point and here I was in the middle of the happiest place on earth in tears because my friends had abandoned me in the middle of Disney on the senior trip.
I loved my mother, but there has been , ever since my boyhood, a sort
Mothers tend to place a much firmer hand on their sons hoping that if they hold on tight enough that they will never leave. And when they start to date mothers become shadows in a young man’s life. Many mother have an almost psychic symbiosis having to keep their sons in a safety net forever. One mothers quote saying “she wants to throw her arms around he...
It's been ten years since I moved to Arizona and have been apart from my dad. Before this I lived in Mexico. I was born here in Phoenix but most of the family lived over there. By the time I was 5 years old my mom and dad had some problems. My mom had decided to live apart from all that so one day she pulled me out of school and packed our bags with our plane tickets all ready. As small as a puppy, I didn't understand much or better yet what had happened.
A narrative is a story. In writing a narrative essay, you share with the reader some personal experience of your own in order to make a point or convey a message. You may choose to tell how your grandfather influenced your desire to become an orthodontist, or perhaps you’ll relate the story of the time you didn’t make the cut for the basketball team. Whatever story you tell, your purpose is to share with others some experience that has taught you something or changed you somehow.
October 10, 2013 was the day my grandmother passed away. While this may not seem to be significant, this was a monumental moment in my life. Prior to her death, I had been grappling with depression for many years, and with her death, it only seemed to intensify. My grandmother had resided with us; she had become almost a second mother to me. Her death was the first death I had ever experienced firsthand. The experience had been traumatic for me to say the least, but it had also taught me a lot about myself, and life. In the months following her death, it seemed that all my relatives began passing away. My grandfather passed away, two of my uncles passed away, and then my aunt.
Death and dying is a natural and unavoidable process that all living creatures will experience at some point in life, whether it is one’s own person death or the death of a close friend or family member. Along with the experience of death comes the process of grieving which is the dealing and coping with the loss of the loved one. Any living thing can grieve and relate to a loss, even children (Shortle, Young, & Williams, 1993). “Childhood grief and mourning of family and friends may have immediate and long-lasting consequences including depression, anxiety, social withdrawal, behavioral disturbances, and school underachievement” (Kaufman & Kaufman, 2006, p. 61). American children today grow up in cultures that attempt to avoid grief and deny inevitability of death (Shortle, Young, & Williams, 1993). Irreversibility, finality, inevitability, and causality are the four factors relative to a child’s understanding of death. These four components are relative to a child’s developmental level at the death is occurs (Willis, 2002).
Grief can be defined as the natural reaction to loss. Grief is both a universal and personal experience (Mayo Clinic, 2014). Individual experiences of grief vary and are influenced by the nature of the loss (Mayo Clinic, 2014). There are multiple different theories that have attempted to explain the complex process of grief and loss. Theorists such as Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, William Worden and John Bowbly explain in their theories how they believe an individual deals with the grieving process. In this essay, I will be focusing on William Worden’s theory and will be discussing the process for a child aged nine to eleven.
My father was always there for me, whether I wanted him to be or not. Most of the time, as an adolescent trying to claim my independence, I saw this as a problem. Looking back I now realize it was a problem every child needs, having a loving father. As hard as I tried to fight it, my dad instilled in me the good values and work ethic to be an honest and responsible member of society. He taught me how to be a good husband. He taught me how to be a good father. He taught me how to be a man. It has been 18 years since my father’s death, and I am still learning from the memories I have of him.
I began to despise it. I walked around the world believing that love didn’t exist, and this time was the gloomiest of my life. I didn’t come to discover my passion for love by falling madly in love with the man of my dreams. That hasn’t happened (yet). Instead, I developed a passion for love when I looked around me and saw the love in life already present.
When I was younger I thought my sister was always going to be there. I never thought she would die so young. She died when I was in 5th grade so I was around 10 or 11 years old. We had our fights and now I wish more then anything that she was here. She missed my first homecoming, my graduation and many other important dates in my life and there is still more she will miss. Now that I'm the only child in my household, it’s terrible because...
In my life time, I have experienced many deaths. I have never had anyone that was very close to me die, but I have shed tears over many deaths that I knew traumatically impacted the people that I love. The first death that influenced me was the death of my grandfather. My grandfather passed away when I was very young, so I never really got the chance to know him. My papaw Tom was my mothers dad, and she was very upset after his passing. Seeing my mom get upset caused me to be sad. The second death that influenced my life was the death of my great grandmother. My great grandmother was a very healthy women her whole life. When she was ninety three she had
On the day my father died, I remember walking home from school with my cousin on a November fall day, feeling the falling leaves dropping off the trees, hitting my cold bare face. Walking into the house, I could feel the tension and knew that something had happened by the look on my grandmother’s face. As I started to head to the refrigerator, my mother told me to come, and she said that we were going to take a trip to the hospital.
Like many other people, my experience with loss would definitely begin with death. The very first death that I can remember was when I was seven or eight years old. The pastor of our church who had kids my age was on a mission’s trip and accidentally drowned trying to save one of his own kids. This news stuck very vividly in my young mind. The funeral, the traditions that the family had, the children my age crying, and crowds of people coming to the house to support the family all influenced my thoughts on how life ends. This first encounter with the end of life played an important role with the