Forgive But Never Forget.
You know that feeling you get when you feel that nothing can bring you
down; you are flying high; you feel immortal and want to live forever?
Well, this was exactly how Emily had been feeling on this particular
day. It was the Christmas holidays; there had been no traffic on the
way home from college and finally it looked like her family were
starting to get back to how they had been before the accident.
This particular day was a cold winter afternoon. The kind of day when
you can see your breath and your fingers feel numb in an instance. She
had her car heaters on top yet she was still cold. She looked at her
house. It was a small-detatched house on the outskirts of Harrogate in
North Yorkshire. It was the perfect place. A town with shops in one
direction and in the other was green hills and endless beautiful
nature.
She knew no one would be home but she still tried the bell. Why hadn't
she remembered her keys? Now she had the afternoon to kill before
anyone would be home. All her old friends would still be in class at
the local college so she decided to finish off her Christmas shopping.
As she drove down the main road towards the town centre she couldn't
help but think of him. How he use to flick the cats eyes up off the
road and how he and his friends would stand on opposite sides of the
roads and then when a car came pull a pretend rope. It use to scare
drivers half to death. It would be the second Christmas without him
now. She found tears rolling down her cheeks. They were cold and she
wiped them away in disgust. She had not cried for him since the
funeral. She had cried on the inside though, ...
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...at the chain. She suddenly took her bag and
pulled out her chain.
They looked at each other; they looked at the chains and smiled. Emily
reached into her bag once more and pulled out Charlie's chain. She
walked over to the grave and buried it in a shallow hole. She took
Georges hand and they sat there both looking at the grave. The three
of them were back together. Emily sat there crying, not caring who saw
them this time. Charlie had won but she didn't care, He deserved it.
She stood up and pulled George up with her. "Best friends till death
do us part and then forever more" she recited. She leant down and
kissed the headstone. "Merry Christmas big brother, we'll all be
together again one day, see you then!" she whispered and walked off
hand in hand with George. She had forgiven George but she will never
forget.
Many people show empathy for humans like homeless people or ill family members or even just someone in a bad state. These people you can say show responsibility towards those events that are unpredictable in life. There are many people that show this, many people that explain this, and even many people that cause those emotions. These people don’t feel the same things we feel, these people see society in different eyes, in different ways, and in other words in different perspectives. They feel that they cannot forgive people for events that caused them anger, depression, or even made them feel like if they weren't worth anything.
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The novel “Gilead” by Marilynne Robinson is written in first person as a seventy-six year old minister, John Ames, writes a letter to his son in a epistolary format. The last days of John Ames' life is coming near and he uses the time he has left to write his son a letter that has stories of their family, personal thoughts, and advices he wants to give his seven year old son. He hopes to give his son some wisdom and also something more to remember him by. This initially shows the readers that John Ames is loving and caring. But in retrospect, there was a time in John Ames' life where he found it hard to forgive; especially to one person, his namesake, John Ames Boughton (Jack). Ames was really bitter towards Jack and he found it really hard to forgive him because he was a troubled teenager and an atheist that always challenged Ames' beliefs. One of the themes of “Gilead” is forgiveness.
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