Emily's upbringing by her father, the death of her father, and the disappearance of her sweetheart were all of the factors that contributed to her seclusion. Initially, Emily was taught by her father to stay home and was not taught self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth, or self-dependence by her father. Emily was restricted from courting by her father; her father would claim that none of the young men she was interested in were good enough for her or the family (Faulkner 77). Emily's father made her dependent on him by not allowing her to be confident in herself and "thwarting her woman's life" (Faulkner 79). For example, there is a picture in the minds of the townspeople that Emily is in the background, and her father is in the foreground holding a whip (Faulkner 77).
She went against even the most fundamental of social laws and gave a laborer, by the name of Homer Barron, an opportunity to court her. This shocked the entire town and “reaffirmed her imperviousness” (429). Emily was unable to produce a healthy relationship with a person because her father kept her single to her thirties, making her feel as though no man deserved her hand.
In her youth, her father excludes her from all of the young men that fancy her, and also drives away her only mentioned family members, which leaves her alone with her father, who was ultimately taken away from her as well. The townspeople surround her name with mystery and pity, which Emily seeks out to change once her father is gone. Once Homer Barron denies her a romantic relationship, she murders him so she can stay with him, but a dead body cannot love a person. Emily seeks love for her entire life, yet much against her efforts, she never knew what it was to truly feel
Hindered by her father’s over protectiveness, Emily does not know how to cope with the emotional hurdles that she approaches, later in life. After losing her father, Emily is not able to deal with the pain of losing him. This pain is the foremost explanation of her inevitable alienation, because “She is afraid to confront reality (“Alienation”par.1).” Shut away in her home Emily’s future of marriage and children have dwindled into waste “Being left alone, and a pauper, she had become humanized (Faulkner par.27).” Like many people, Emily’s emotional capacity stems from the relationships with her parent. Since her father locks her, up and shuts her off from the rest of the world. She never acquires the potential to grow emotionally further and experience what love can be.
As she grew older, Emily began to distance herself from society, and gradually the public reciprocated. Her overbearing father controlling her life and pushing everyone away ultimately contributed to the acceleration of her mental instability and sense of control which led to Emily’s gradual isolation from society. Emily’s peculiar personality and aura, mainly her sense of control and unwavering independence that she developed from her father, frightened other civilians. When certain women asked the Baptist minister to go to Emily’s house to discuss her marriage with Homer, readers can gather he was very afraid, “He would never divulge what happened during that interview, but he refused to go back again” (Faulkner, 378). Furthermore, when she went to purchase poison from store, she was asked by the druggist to clarify its purpose, but she refused, “Miss Emily just stared at him, her head tilted back in order to look him eye for eye, until he looked away and went and got the arsenic and wrapped it up.” (Faulkner, 377).
The story takes place post-Civil War when things are starting to change. Her father turns down every suitor for Emily to marry as he sees them as not good enough for his daughter. This takes away Emily’s childhood, she is never able to experience any real kind of relationship or any other love besides her fathers. The reads are left to believe that maybe her father is abusive and or uncaring. Also that her mother may be dead or generally not in the picture at all.
“ Page 1: Colonel... ... middle of paper ... ...decorated for a bride. Every thing that Emily had bought that day in town ( the toilet set, the men's clothing) was found in that room along with the body of an unknown man and a strand of gray hair on the second pillow next to the body. Was Miss Emily to blame for the death of Homer, or was it the town's fault for never interfering and trying to get her professional help? Every knew that insanity ran in her family but instead of helping her the town pitied Miss Emily and her situation grew out of hand. As a reader of this story I understand her taking Homer's life, she never had anyone to love and when she found Homer she thought he would be the man she would spend the rest of her life with.
Emily’s father controlled her life and when he died she insisted that he had not. “She told them that her father was not dead.” (Faulkner 302) This is when the reader can begin to see that something is not right with Emily. She clings to her father’s body, controlling him the only way she could after he controlled her for her entire life. Emily’s young years were ruined by her father driving off all the young men who would call on her, making her feel unable to fit in socially. As a result, she had no friends to help her cope, and her only close family had died.
It is not said in the story, but it is assumed that Miss Emily's mother is deceased or no longer around. The reader is left with the impression that her father was uncaring, abusive, and arrogant. Apparently he kept Miss Emily hidden from fitting suitors and did not let her make a life of her own. After her fathers death, Miss Emily was emotional unstable. For three days after her father died, she refused to acknowledge his death.
She was brought up thinking that nobody was good enough for her. Her father had even shunned away his own family. Emily was turned into quite an odd character due to this type of upbringing. Emily’s love was controlled by her father, a man that was respected and of high class in the community. After her father passed away, Emily tried to act as if it never happened, and she was actually going to keep her father in the house.