Compare And Contrast A Sorrowful Woman And A Secret Sorrow

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The two stories “A Sorrowful Woman” by Gail Godwin and “A Secret Sorrow” by Karen van der Zee discuss women who are in a constant struggle to fit in with their roles in their families The effects of their unhappiness are presented throughout the stories. The titles of the stories encase the word sorrow to reflect the main theme of the stories because they revolve around sorrowful emotions. Both authors share the same concept of sorrow, however they express it in different ways. In “A Sorrowful Woman,” the woman remains unidentified. Though she does not speak with her family, her sorrowful emotions derive within her family. This is noted as the speaker shares “The sight of them made her so sad and sick she did not want to see them ever again” …show more content…

Faye desires a child to make her family complete. Because she is unable to conceive, she undergoes deep sorrow when hearing the tragic news that she could not bear any children for her husband Kai. Faye stands confused and cannot comprehend why Kai remains by her side considering the fact that she cannot birth a child for him. She explains to Kai “You don’t have to marry me. You could marry someone else and have children of your own” (Zee 35) . In hopes of finding a solution, she discusses the matter with Kai. As well, the woman in “A Sorrowful Woman” presents her problem to her husband too. She is not content with her family and wishes to be free and alone. To cope with her distress, she distances herself from her family in order to live comfortably in her home. Though they feel sorrow for different and opposite reasons, both women have empathetic spouses who wish to help them with their …show more content…

In “A Sorrowful Woman”, the woman’s son experiences sorrow as he is deprived of a healthy and normal relationship with his mother. As the mother seeks solitude in the basement, the only form of communication her son and husband have with her is through notes and drawings. “The child could not write, so he drew and sometimes painted his,” (Godwin 42) in hopes that his mother understands them. The mother neglects her own child as she fails to reply to her son’s drawings, leaving him sorrowful. The boy is too young to fully comprehend his mother’s situation, so all he knows is that he is unloved and unwanted by his mother. According to Jill Savage,a writer, speaker and founder of Hearts at Home, “A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother's love. A mother's love needs to be given unconditionally to establish trust and a firm foundation of emotional intimacy in a child's life. If love is withheld, a child will look for it in a million other ways.” With the neglection of his mother, the son turned to his babysitter for the love and guidance his mother deprived him of. The woman resents her child so deeply that she blames him for her illness and wished to get rid of him. In “A Secret Sorrow”, the couple resolves their issue by adopting three children. Faye finds reason to believe that the children may have experienced tragic moments in their

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