Natida Nivasnanda
RHET 105-E3
Deborah Tannen (2015) claims that the standard classroom environment of active discussion cater and benefit to men and their “pursuit of knowledge” whilst hindering women (p.370). She identifies that women are predisposed to listen and are intimidated by men and their active participation. She states that males and females learn contrastingly. As well, Tannen argues that it is dependent of the majority of the class atmosphere that one’s learning behavior is determined. Tannen backs up her claims using her own experience and observations as a student, crafting and concluding her own experiment. She calls upon the conversation of changing class structure as well as the awareness of students and their role in
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She acknowledges a very specific aspect of women in “unrelated cultures” and their participation in “ritual laments” whereas men in these cultures do not (p.370). Tannen (2015) offered that “[men in unrelated cultures] have their own, very different verbal ritual: a contest, a war of words in which they view with each other to devise clever insults” (p.370). Her introduction of this new concept ties with her main claim that males and females communicate in different styles. Tannen offers a new perspective of her argument, mixing background into the conversation. Though she writes with an inkling of delving into the topic, she dismisses it in the next paragraph by going back to the “two styles in American conversation” (Tannen, 2015, p.370). She mentions race again in her paper, but this time in relevance to the experiment that took place in her graduate class. But like the last time, she does not go deeper into race. Tannen merely notes the race of the students alongside the gender. It was very disorganized and I did not understand why she mentioned the added factor if she was not going to comment on a new idea other than noting that race and culture …show more content…
She describes men (in unrelated cultures) as participants of “a war of words… to devise clever insults” (Tannen, 2015, p.370). Men “[attack] readings” while women “express their pain” (Tannen, 2015, p.370). Thus, she created a vulgar perspective for the side regarding men, while painting an over-sensitive standpoint for women. When I think about linguistics, I do not think of it was “a war” as Tannen wrote. Language in the aspect of Tannen’s excerpt is seen as something purely verbal, whereas war is regarded as negatively physical. War has connotation of violence and Tannen use of aggressive words is an attempt to persuade the reader by using disapproving language. If her main focus was to remain objective, then I would say her tone was inappropriate. But if her goal was to write with her passion and dedication apparent, then I would rethink and say her tone was less so. It can be summarized that Tannen does a poor job of persuading her readers. Men who read her excerpt must feel attacked, her explanations on their behavior in classroom settings angled to be distasteful. Conversely, women who read her excerpt must be offended, a blanket generalization spread across them to describe their habits interacting in
Verifying the Theories of Deborah Tannen's You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation with an Episode of Politically Incorrect with Bill Maher The book You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, written by Deborah Tannen, is an analytical book offering scientific insights on the conversational differences between women and men. The book is copyrighted 1990 and is still read and widely talked about all over the world. Tannen is a Professor of Linguistics at Georgetown
Analysis of You Just Don't Understand, Men and Women in Conversation by Deborah Tannen In the first chapter of her book, You Just Don't Understand, Men and Women in Conversation, Deborah Tannen quotes, "...studies have shown that married couples that live together spend less than half an hour a week talking to each other...". (24) This book is a wonderful tool for couples to use for help in understanding each other. The two things it stresses most is to listen, and to make yourself heard
emotion Aimee[4] reveals in her song lyric. As Anderson uses a song lyric as text in the film’s dialogue, the question of how lyrics can be looked at in terms of conversational content is raised. In showing how men and women speak differently Tannen cites many kinds of examples in You Just Don’t Understand. Not only does she look at experimental and observational studies, she also includes excerpts from plays and short stories to show that speech patterns carry over into artistic expression[5]
having a moment’s rest, the media has also been sighted by Marie Winn. It was in the act of changing our entire families into groups of distant acquaintances, which we read in, “Television: The Plug-in Drug.” Finally, add to this list “screaming.” Deborah Tannen states that the media is making us scream at each other, an enlightening fact one may find in her essay, “The Triumph of the Yell.” Some new light has recently been shed on the subject, though: the media is not a concrete being. To say the
between men and women, whether it is between children, teenagers, or adults; because of a cross gender society. Once both sides understand this “cross-culture communication” problem, so that no gender is blamed, improvement will naturally occur. Deborah Tannen, is an award winning writer and a best selling author for her eccentric essays based on differences of male and female conversations. In the essay, “Sex, Lies and Conversation” she writes on the many distinctions of the style of conversations
think that better communication is possible. One of the researchers we took a look at was Deborah Tannen. According to Tannen the reason that men and women do not communicate well is that men and women use language differently. Women take the attitude that conversation is to explore solutions to common problems while men concern themselves more with getting information and hard data from conversation. Tannen states that what women look for in communication is human connection, while men consider status
brightening with the truth that men and women experience different challenges. Deborah Tannen’s Marked Women has to face the music when applied to Virginia Woolf’s Professions for Women. In Tannen’s essay the claim that “[t]here is no unmarked women” has trouble withstanding but manages to hold up Woolf’s position of the battle women fought against the traditional norm to the freedom they can possess. First and foremost, Tannen claims that all women are “unmarked” and that leaves the essay with room for
and maintain social relationships, and (2) to express and create the social identity of the speaker. In my paper I will attempt to verify how language is affected by sex and gender. My primary focus will be on Deborah Tannen’s work on understanding women and men in conversation. Tannen discusses many disparities in language caused by gender such as men often seeking straightforward solutions to problems and useful advice whereas women tend to try and establish intimacy by discussing problems and
between males and females can be explained by either the biological aspect or the cultural/environmental aspect. Deborah Tannen, a University professor of linguistics at Georgetown University and an Author, suggests the biological explanation to the problem: “Sometimes when you are talking to someone from other gender, it is like you are talking to someone from another world” said Prof. Tannen when she was talking about communications between opposite genders. That is the main reason why girls and boys
My name is Rob Geis, and I’m a male college student who happens to be gay. Now, I’m not an “oh-my-God!” gay, nor am I an “honey, that blouse is all wrong” gay, but for some reason that image gets stuck in people’s minds when I tell them that I am gay. In many ways, coming out was one of the most liberating experiences of my life. I‘m free to do whatever I want under the banner of homosexuality: I can wear skimpy, too-tight clothing that doesn’t suit me, put on makeup, act effeminate and cutesy
“Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence” says Tannen(27). For some couples finding that certain weight that will balance the scale of communication can become interesting and a hard task. In the book You Just Don’t Understand, written by Deborah Tannen, she gives many examples of how men and women compete for a gender hierarchy, in which she believes that males and females compete for status in society. She often believed that
Deborah Tannen is the author of the book You Just Don't Understand where she analyzes the different meanings of communication between men and women. Her research shows that women and men use the same words and phrases and yet can interpret and react to those same words and phrases differently. Tannen compares the two sexes to find men use their conversation as a type of competition or to preserve their independence. For example, men talk about their knowledge regarding sports, cars, women, exc
Deborah Tannen (2013) illustrates that everything a woman wears or says is a statement and thus defines who that woman is in her piece “There Is No Unmarked Woman.” These unfair demands are rooted in all forms in society: pronoun usage, such as ‘he’ referring
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often a term used against women leaders, and Sotomayor and Clinton are Exhibit A for why the word matters: that others had called them bossy was used to argue they were ill-suited for the public offices they sought. In an article for USA Today, Deborah Tannen explored the reason behind this word and its effect in leadership, “I found that women