Are you looking for a book that will just straight out tell you some of the most common mistakes women do to mess up their lives? Well, if you are this is the book for you. It's written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger an admired psychotherapist and the hosts of a top rated midday talk show. Dr. Schlessinger has strong beliefs and opinions about the things women often do to mess up their lives, and in this book she comes right out and lets you know what they are. She writes about the ten most common things she hears from her actual patients and callers and helps us women to understand that we make our own choices in life, if we are not happy than it's no-ones fault but our own. You can choose to live a life of grief and misery or take her advice and rise above it.
Dr. Schlessinger addresses many things in her book for example how women tend to attach to a man, revolving our lives around them when they only make us a small part of there's. She hears often how women feel they need a man in their life complete them, or to have any self worth. Women often believe if they have a man around they will feel better about them self and that he may possibly fulfill the loneliness and hurt they may have from a previous relationship or experience. Dr .Laura believes men are here to share life with us and not to be it (3). She recommends that instead of looking to a man when feeling lonely, scared, or even as though you're life has no meaning, you should make a list of things to do that will help you manage them. The list can consist of; talking to an understanding friend, walking, taking a bath, or possibly writing in a journal.
Another topic she writes about is how women just sit and complain about how their men put them down, mi...
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... person and we choose our own destiny, we can't sit around and blame anyone if we feel depressed or if our lives seem a mess. We need to be strong and follow our dreams, quit acting stupid and change our behaviors by taking leaps and risks. It may be hard and scary at times but that's all part of life and we have to work for what we want. Dr. Laura Schlessinger states, "Once we muster the courage to take responsibility for our own problems and to tolerate the discomforts of risk, the possibilities for personal growth and joy are limitless (223).If you are prepared to hear the truth of how we let certain behaviors ruin our life and ready to make changes to them, than a good place for you to start would be by reading this book.
Works Cited
Schlessinger, Laura. Ten Stupid Things Women do to Mess up Their Lives. New York: Harper Perennial, 1995.
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and don’t have to be. Psychology of Women Quarterly. Blackwell Publishing. Printed in the USA.
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