The Way We Lie article by Jennifer Ericsson

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Lies can be expressed in a variety of ways, as listed in the reading “The Way We Lie” (Ericsson, Pg. 216-224). At times you can tell a lie without getting noticed but other times you can get caught in between a lie, and what good is the truth when you could hurt the other person’s feeling such as saying “ Man, you don’t look good today” or “ Oh my gosh, what are you wearing? This isn’t the 20th century” there are always different ways people take in criticism either they take it positively and approve and grow from that, or they can look at it negatively bringing their self-esteem down and then even making them think that there outer appearance as well as inner isn’t considered ‘right’. Even though we don’t seem to see their reaction to the truth or unfriendly reminder of something that was said to them, those words may still mock them, since it was about them. The thing about a ‘white lie’ is it’s just a small lie, only meaning to boost up other people whereas, when it’s not a white lie, the lie is usually used to protect, oneself in a situation. Although white lies are said to never be told they at times can save relationship(s), even giving good complicates to people to make them feel good about herself and , and plus everyone lies why should you be looked down upon when others tell white lies as well.
For those with relationships either, with their families, friends, and/or married or just a couple we all seem to think that a white lie, would damage and ruin a relationship which at times it could, but it all depends on the white lie you deliver to the person or group of people. When Jennifer Moses indicates in her article, “Did I remember to go to the dry cleaners? Yes--but it was already closed. Did I enjoy that delicious ...

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...lie? When we know that there different in there ways? All I’m saying is that a white lie won’t harm anyone or thing, it’s placed in life so it can help others, and try to even save time with everyday tasks at times telling the truth it can bring us down, at times lies can as well, but it’s knowing when to stop when you believe you have gone too far with them. Now, I’m not saying you to tell a white lie every day to your loved ones, and bosses. I’m just saying that tell them, when it’s mostly needed!

Works Cited

(Chernoff Marc n.d) ,http://www.marcandangel.com/2007/10/04/the-15-most-common-white-lies-and-why/

Moses, J. (1996). The lies that are good for your marriage. Good Housekeeping, 223(6), BIH12. http://ezproxy.mohawkcollege.ca:2054/ehost/detail?sid=c784cfe7-01cd-445e-88e1-3a48a1d73898%40sessionmgr15&vid=4&hid=23&bdata=JnNpdGU9ZWhvc3QtbGl2ZSZzY29wZT1zaXRl

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