The Consequences Of Guy Codes

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In today`s Society, men and women are raised from young ages to act in certain ways that are established through the guy code. According to Kimmel in ``Bros Before Hoes`` ,''boys were taught to deny their emotional needs and disguise their feelings''(pg.470). The boy code does not give the opportunity for boys to express their wide range of emotions instead prohibits them for doing so. Boys are reinforced with subliminal messages of ''acting manly'' from boyhood that turns into sullen indifference. Men turn to anger and violence in frustration situations because they believe that these are the only acceptable emotional factors. In the development process from boyhood to manhood, women are also affected by the consequences of the guy code.

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