Are you happy? The emotion is one of the most sought after in the world. We keep searching for it, but it seems to be a difficult thing to grasp. Occasionally we think we’ve found it, only to realise the things around us might not have made us happy after all. In fact, living a truly happy life is easier when you let things go rather than hope to obtain something. If you want to find happiness, these six things should be thrown towards the exit sign.
1. The need to ‘fix’ yourself
“If only I lost 5lbs, I’d be much happier person.” You can probably imagine something similar you’ve said, if not the exact statement. Self-criticism is not necessarily a bad thing and we all need to look in the mirror occasionally to understand our limitations. But expecting happiness to come from changing yourself by losing weight or running everyday is the wrong way to go about it.
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LiveLighter has plenty of tips to guarantee it won’t even feel as hard as you might think. But you aren’t going to find happiness simply by focusing on changing your looks or personality.
2. Finding someone to blame
People are not perfect and everyone has made a mistake – more than once. If things go wrong, it’s a human reaction to start looking around blaming someone else. The boss was a jerk or the husband is a lazy bum; these are all too easy emotions to feel. But the truth is blaming others won’t change things, even if the circumstances were down to their actions. You are only hurting yourself and keeping yourself stuck in the moment by blaming and seething.
When things go wrong, take a moment to vent that anger or disappointed; but not on the person’s face. Go for a walk, buy a new book from Booktopia or shout in a forest. Then let go of the need to blame and move on. Your success and happiness are a much sweeter revenge.
3. Waiting for the big financial
Conover inferred many times that when something bad happens there will always be another person pointing the finger at another o...
Why is it that we as human beings feel the need to blame someone for every negative situation, which occurs? If we really look at the situation with any great depth, we may discover that an almost endless amount of things may be 'blamed' for the tragedy blaming an individual is pointless - only fate can really be blamed.
Everyone wants to be “happy.” Everyone endeavors to fulfill their desires for their own pleasure. What makes this ironic is, the fact that most don‘t know what the actual definition of happiness is. “In Pursuit of Unhappiness” presents an argument, which states that not everyone will be happy. Darrin McMahon, the article’s author, explores the ways our “relentless pursuit of personal pleasure”(McMahon P.11;S.3) can lead to empty aspirations and impractical expectations, making us sad, and not happy. Rather than working to find the happiness of others, we should all focus on finding what makes ourselves happy. It is easier to find happiness in the little things
For example, in the book, The Pigman by Paul Zindel, John was in trouble for supposedly sticking glue into their telephone lock so that his father could not make any phone calls. But, his mother blamed him without knowing for a fact that he had actually glued lock in the first place. Also, people will blame each other for more than one complete reason. They could blame others to take the blame off themselves, they could blame someone else because they are scared off owning up to their own mistakes, or they are scared of the consequences of their own mistakes. In addition, blaming oneself is not going to help the situation that one is stuck in.
But I learned that, you shouldn't try to get revenge. Not always does revenge makes us feel better. When we try to get revenge, we want to retaliate to the other person, prove to them that they did something wrong. But revenge is not the best option. There are plenty of other ways that we can communicate those feelings without having the need to hurt someone else’ feelings.
We are always trying to look better, work harder, choose better love partners and earn more money in order to be more appealing to the people around us. The sad truth is that many people spend their whole life working hard on the outside image, completely ignoring the things that really matter in life like self-love, compassion, acceptance and growth. The thing is, the more we like and appreciate ourselves the more we can offer to this world. The decision to love yourself will positively affect everything else in your life, like your health, career, bank balance, love life, relationship with other people and the way you spend your free time. You will also feel more centered in life, will find your true life purposes and will value every little success you achieve each
The pursuit of happiness ultimately leads to disappointment and a lack of satisfaction because people’s cravings can never be entirely fulfilled. Dalai Lama once said “When you are discontent, you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself, ‘Oh yes – I already have everything that I really need.’” This quote shows that having high expectations of anything leads to disappointment when the expectation is not met. Also, having anticipations for what happiness is makes attained happiness irrelevant and inadequate relative to what one wanted to get
Mental disorders are rapidly becoming more common with each new generation born in the world. Currently, nearly one in two people suffer from some form of depression, anxiety, or other mental health problem at some point in their lives (Editor). With so many people suffering from their mental illnesses, steps have been taken in order to get help needed for these people but progress has been slow. In the medical world, hospitals are treating those with physical problems with more care than those with mental problems. Prescription drugs can only do so much helping the mentally ill go through their daily lives and more should be done to help those who need more than medicine to cope with their illness. Mental health should be considered just as important as physical health because of how advanced physical healing is, how the public reacts to those with mental illness, and due to the consequences that could happen if the illness is not correctly helped.
When looking at the list you have to wonder what do I do to make myself happy? For me I surround myself with my friends who are happy. Knowing that their happiness would rub off on me. I also find myself trying to make others happy by helping them, when they are down in their time of need. Being there for others can be very self-gratifying and boost happiness for both you and the person whom you are helping.
What can we do to remedy, you ask? Well we can start by thinking about what we do before we do it and putting ourselves into the other person’s shoes. How would you feel if you are working at McDonalds and you make this huge bag of food and give it to the wrong car. Then the next car pulls up waiting for its food and you realize what happened, so you explain it to the person and rush to make some more food.
Contrary to belief, genuine happiness is very rarely found at the bottom of a shopping basket or on the leather seats of a brand new car. Often we hear the cliché saying “Money can’t buy happiness” but this is in fact true. Whilst the elation and delight brought from finally owning a wanted item is extraordinary, you must remind yourself that your happiness should not become dependant upon your ownership of this item. Being happy is not something you can purchase from a shop or car dealership, it is the way you take on life. Unfortunately, happiness does not have its own aisle at shops and never will.
How much time do you spend thinking about tomorrow or yesterday while not thinking about today? Constantly dwelling on the past or dreaming about the future prevents you from experiencing happiness today. Spending too much time thinking about the job you lost last year or the vacation your planning next year will prevent having happiness now. Enjoying each moment of a day is one of the most important steps toward having inner fulfillment and happiness. By focusing on the moment, you are able to complete the other essential steps to have complete lifelong happiness.
Truth and happiness share a relationship of not knowing the truth, which only makes people happier. The people of the new world lost their freedoms but in return receive many pleasures. This thus adds to the apprehension of knowing the truth. They don’t want to know the truth because they are trained not to and it seems like they don’t want to know the truth, either. To avoid ever knowing the truth they use soma. By taking somas, they avoid truth whenever they are frightened by it. It in turn conceals their sorrows and instead fills them with fake hallucinations.
Not many people in the world today express happiness, we always hear about the bad and despair in the world around us. I try to stay happy and positive as much as I can, because I think happiness can be spread through the littlest things in life. In a world today where all you hear about is the bad going on around you, having something to hold onto and give you hope can change the outlook of that situation. I try to live all of my days by being positive and happy,
Loving yourself is the key to a happy life. When you love all that you are, unconditionally, life reflects that back to you. When you learn to love yourself, fully, you create a happy, loving environment to flourish in. When we lose sight of what’s most important—loving self—we lose sight of our goals and dreams and being happy and healthy. Ultimately, to live a fulfilling life, first and foremost, requires that you love all that you are and trust that life loves you in return.