Another example of success brought by Janet Wolfe deals with unconditional other acceptance. Unconditional other acceptance is exactly like what it sounds, the unconditional acceptance of others, their behaviors, actions, thoughts, and feelings. Janet got into a relationship with a man who loved to work and did not like to socialize. A few years later she found that she felt lonely when she wanted to do something or travel and he did not want to go. Although she had a busy life with work and friends she found herself periodically depressed, angry and in self pity. He replied to her behavior with, “That's the way I am--now what are you telling yourself to get yourself so upset?” (Weinrach et al., 2001) Now she finds herself with the opposite …show more content…
Her husband had to have surgery to remove prostate stones. Ann’s last husband died of from lymph cancer fifteen years prior. This procedure caused a lot of anxiety for Ann. On the day of the surgery she took a lot of busy work to keep herself preoccupied but instead she had many irrational thoughts. She thought her husband might have cancer, that her son would have to grow up without a father, and she was angry that she was in the situation to begin with. The doctor came out of surgery to tell Ann that the results of the biopsy would be back in a couple of days. The doctor tried to tell Ann that the risk of cancer was very low and if there was cancer, it would be treatable. She burst into tears and could not stop thinking irrationally. The results eventually came back negative and the anxiety went away. Even though she was an REBT practitioner she was not able to make herself think rationally and then she participated in self-downing, her thoughts being, “"I should have been able to be more rational about this. What a hypocrite I am, teaching others to be rational and not applying it to myself." (Weinrach et al., 2001) REBT, like every other theory of counseling and psychotherapy is not 100% effective in treating depression, stress, anxiety, or any other issue. It requires long-term dedication and hard
Reading this book has been interesting and heartbreaking experience. A Year of Magical Thinking, a journey through the grieving process. While dealing with the death of her husband, she is confronted with the sickness of her only child. This book touches me, and it makes me think of what would happen if my loved one died. This paper is a reflection of my thoughts and feelings about this woman’s journey that has been explored by book and video. I will also explore the author’s adjustment process, and how she views her changed self.
“Well, Alice, my father said, if it had to happen to one of you, I’m glad it was you and not your sister” (57). Even though Alice was the victim of the horrid crime, she had to stabilize her own emotions, so that she could help her sister cope with this tragedy. Throughout Alice’s childhood, Jane struggled with alcoholism and panic attacks. “I wished my mother were normal, like other moms, smiling and caring, seemingly, only for her family” (37).
Margaret Mead once said that "For many Americans, the concept of success is a source of confusion. As a people, we Americans greatly prize success. We are taught to celebrate and admire the one who gets the highest grades, the one voted most attractive or most likely to succeed. But while we often rejoice in the success of people far removed from ourselves-people who work in another profession, live in another community, or are endowed with a talent that we do not especially want for ourselves-we tend to regard the success of people close at hand, within our own small group, as a threat." Personally i believe that this is not true for many reasons. It makes the world run smoother although I wont be talking about that personally it really does.
One of the primary reasons I prefer to utilize CBT is due to its compatibility with my personality. I am an organized, logical, and direct individual, all of which CBT encompasses well. CBT is a highly structured therapy. Even though there isn’t a particular order to procedures while utilizing CBT, there does tend to be a natural progression of certain steps. This aspect allows me to feel as though I am leading client’s to their goals in a logical manner. Not only that, CBT has a great deal of research backing that has proven it to be effective in treating several diagnoses such as depression and anxiety (Corey, 2013). Perhaps the best quality of CBT is the fact that it is known for having an openness to incorporating techniques from other approaches. According to Corey (2013), most forms of CBT can be integrated into other mainstream therapies (p.
At any one point, as a family, we were in denial, we were angry, or we were depressed. And there was conflict. We disagreed with the doctor’s findings. We didn’t always agree with each other on a course of action. It was a confusing time.
Margaret Mead said in her quote that people recognize other people’s success from afar, but when people succeed who are close to the people who are recognizing the people’s success from afar, don’t typically recognize those close around them, and could see those people as threats. For example, during sports competitions, such as swimming. I may look at a swimmer like Ryan Lochte and recognize his success and have tremendous respect for him. On the other hand, if there was another swimmer that I swam against, and that particular swimmer won a race, I may not recognize that he won that race, I may view him as a threat. If I do view him as a threat, I may not like him and could possibly develop hatred towards him just because he beat me. Some may be shocked at how often this happens in sports. It seems that whenever someone that you don’t particularly know makes an accomplishment, more people tend to celebrate that accomplishment. Meanwhile, if someone locally makes an accomplishment some people may be reluctant to congratulate. Perhaps, people are more likely to celebrate someone else’s accomplishment from afar because that person may know that they will never see that person in their life, which is a very real possibility. Those who succeed locally, some may not recognize, based on the fact that oneself hasn’t accomplished that particular goal, which could cause
CBT has been known to cure a variety of disorders both in clinical environments and non-clinical environments. This type of therapy technique has been tested for efficacy and has proven to be highly effective. Furthermore, the future for CBT looks very positive as well. Researchers and theorist are now working on making this type of therapy available for suicide prevention, schizophrenia, and other psychopathologies.
In it's simplest form, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, (or CBT as it will be referred to from here on out), refers to the approach of changing dysfunctional behaviors and thoughts to realistic and healthy ones. CBT encompasses several types of therapy focusing on the impact of an individual's thinking as it relates to expressed behaviors. Such models include rational emotive therapy (RET), rational emotive behavioral therapy (REBT), behavior therapy (BT), Rational Behavior Therapy (RBT), Schema Focused Therapy, Cognitive therapy (CT). Most recently a few other variations have been linked to CBT such as acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), dialectic behavioral therapy (DBT), and Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) (Harrington and Pickles, 2009). The main aspect that all of these branches of therapy share, is that our thoughts relate to our external behaviors. External events and individuals do not cause the negative thoughts or feelings, but, instead the perception of events and situations is the root cause (National Association of Cognitive Behavioral Therapists, 2010).
Even when he tried to stay optimistic, fear and anxiety set in often in Schwartz’s mind. He experienced fear and anxiety related to impending death. Worries of missing out on his son growing up and not experiencing romantic moments with his wife ever again filled him with both terror and grief. He expressed this fear to his psychiatrist and his concern that he might be depressed. Dr Cassem assured him that crying was a sign of acknowledgment of his love for his family. He also worried if there was anything he could do t...
These types encompass Cognitive Therapy, Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), and Multimodal Therapy. For instance, an individual anguish from a quiet confidence that activates negative thoughts about his or her capacity or display. As a result of these patterns of negative thinking, the person might start averting social issues or passing up opportunities for advancement (Wedding & Corsini, 2014). Cognitive behavior therapy frequently adapted for clients who are comfortable with contemplation. For CBT to be efficient, the Client must be eager to evaluate his or her logic and feelings. Such rumination may be difficult, but it is an excellent way to acquire how internal states impact outward behavior. Cognitive behavior therapy is also appropriate for people looking for an interim alternative treatment that does not inevitably contain pharmacological medication. One of the assets of CBT that aid clients was developing coping strategies that may be beneficial both now and in the
REBT is a international in its influence and is generally a major step towards psychotherapy . Ellis is one of the 20th century therapist to establish this theory. This theory is rational for the counselor when the client is not. This theory is used to help the client become more rational with their disturbing negative thinking.
REBT is intended to help clientsand it may reverse discharge for specific clients or if the methods are not completed appropriately. One of the deficiencies of REBT is that it has the abilities of rubbing certain clients the wrong way. To be more exact, a misinterpretation with regards to REBT is its disappointment to talk about the emotionality aspects of the emotional disturbances. It has additionally been bludgeoned for being a compassion for extreme minded clients. As to the aforementioned point, I for the most part feel that the counseling profession usually captivates feeble-minded clients, clients who are warm and responsive and caring too. REBT might likewise fail to offer the fundamental level of sympathy to productively work with specific clients which may make certain clients feel exceptionally helpless and therefore not having the capacity to trust the therapist enough to impart enough or any information to the therapist for the therapist to have the capacity to give help. Compassion towards clients is essential and thus failing to offer a certain level of it causes REBT to be imperfect in such a way and consequently turning into a simple shortcoming of it (Aaets.org, 2014.) An alternate shortcoming of REBT is that the relationship between B (Belief) causes C (Consequence) or only accompanies C because of An (Activating Event) couldn't be easily tested, and that knowing certain thoughts that are
Through the next couple of days our family went through some of the coping stages. We experienced anger because we did not know the severity of the damage, we were depressed and then we had to come to accept God’s will. Ann was a devout Christian and we found comfort of knowing where she was going to.
There are many pieces of literature that help us understand the idea of acceptance. Here are three pieces that can be used as a great example of acceptance, “Texas v. Johnson”, “ My So Called Enemy”, and “The Lottery”. “Texas v. Johnson” by William J. Brennan is a document
REBT is based on believing that feeling upset is not caused by an event but rather our beliefs toward the event that upsets us. When people have irrational beliefs about external or internal effects problems occur. The objective of REBT is to help individuals modify illogical beliefs and negative thinking to transcend psychological problems and mental distress.