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According to Deborah Tannen, she argued that similar miscommunication occurs all the time between women and men. Tannen defined genderlect “as the belief that masculine and feminine styles of discourse are best viewed as two distinct cultural dialects rather than as inferior or superior way of speaking” (Tannen pg., 433). In other words, discussion of men and women are not accurate and immoral, and as she mentioned inferior or superior, but overall just different. To get a better understanding of this, Tannen gave examples in which she quoted “women seek human connection, whereas men are concerned mainly with status” (Tannen pg. 433). Indicating that women tend to find that interaction when talking to the opposite sex, while men just want

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