The world is full of psychos and you might be with one right now. That's a situation more people encounter. There are many factors in a healthy relationship. Being with someone can be a wonderful experience, but it can change into something worse. A friend I talked to said "me and my boyfriend talk a lot and tell each other how we feel." That's one way couples can avoid getting into arguments rather than screaming at each other. To make a relationship last there must be a foundation, and that foundation is a good friendship. Couples also need to be honest, which can give couples a bond and develops trust. The elements of a healthy relationship are: being able to communicate, being honest with each other and having a good strong friendship.
People know how to use their mouths and talk, but sometimes couples don't. This can lead to one of the partners to act out their anger in a physical way rather than just sitting down and resolve them in a respectable manner. Each partner should communicate with each other rather than lashing out and acting irrational. The lack of communication causes most problems in a relationship. According to the "Project Survive" presentation a healthy way to solve problems is to sit down and talk. While talking, each partner should respect each other's feelings and remember not to pressure each other. Divakaruni says in "Silver Pavements, Golden Roofs" "I have guilty feeling that aunt and uncle don't usually eat this way, and as we sit down I glance at uncle for confirmation. But he has already started on the food. He eats quickly and with concentration, without raising his head. When he wants more he points silently, and aunt hurries to serve him." Illustrates how her aunt and ...
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...he other partner wondering if their significant other is hiding something from them or if something is wrong. Honesty will bring couples closer together and in time bond them together.
Relationships would be much better if people talked about their problems. If people resolved problems by talking they're wouldn't be any husbands beating their wives' or people separated from their families. People should also try to avoid bad relationships by becoming friends first and learn more about the person before they regret it in the future. People need to be careful whom they get involved with because that person can be a totally different person than you think. Honesty can help build trust in a relationship, and also help each partner understand each other better. Being in a good healthy relationship can serve you well in life and it beats being with a psycho.
When reading the article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication”, I could totally relate to some of the key points the article was trying to make. There have been many times when I have found myself trying to communicate to those that are closest to me and plainly seeing that what I was trying to express was not coming out the way I was expecting it to. Sometimes during those conversations I could see that the other person was getting upset or irritated with me which was not my intention. “People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers. That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate, a phenomenon we term the ‘closeness-communication bias” (U.S. News & World Report, 2011),
Listening is a core concept for relationships and when someone takes part in incompetent listening it can cause issue for the people involved. I have been the recipient and the partaker in incompetent listening, I understand how it feels and I know that we need to look deeper with empathy before making judgements.
...tionship. As with any relationship, marriage is no different. Each member of a marital dyad must have clearly defined, and understood communication between them. Satisfaction and stability in a marriage is achieved through communication and interaction between its members. A breakdown of interpersonal communication is positively related to dissatisfaction in a marriage.
Getting below the surface of each individual sharing your hopes dreams and fears. Examining the hows and whys of life with each other. With open and honest communication you can solve everyday relationship problems in a healthy way. Without communication the relationship will die.
The results of my Insightfulness snapshot in Appendix A indicate that I am normally excellent at understanding what people have to say although there can be circumstances I misread what the sender is saying and I contract the wrong impression. My snapshot of Self-Disclosure in Appendix B explains that I am occasionally open with my friends but I do not constantly share each personal detail with them. I would agree with most of these results because of the type of person I am and the relationships I have formed. I definitely concur that the majority of the time I have an excellent idea of what people are communicating to me, although there is the odd instance I am completely mistaken with my judgment. I would say predominantly I am well aware of what people are communicating. Furthermore I am an empathetic person and I know when I need to adjust my behavior to suit the situation accordingly. I agree with the snapshots and with time I believe both the messages I send will improve and the messages I receive will have more meaning and use to how I carry myself throughout diverse situations. In regards to self-disclosure I would agree and disagree with a few of the points made. I from time to time allow my friends in on my emotions and feelings, but I also think I have a good balance of sharing only what is necessary towards building a better relationship. There are a number of people in my life who I am close with but do not feel the need to share my intimate thoughts with. This is mostly because I have a small yet powerful support system already and I do not feel the need to have that closeness with all the friends. I think it is crucial to open up to the most important people in your life but very personal details should be kept pr...
Although keeping a secret from one’s partner could be seen in a positive light, ost people do not like when their partner conceals information from there and view it as relational transgression (225, Aldeis, Afifi). The researchers were looking at the reasons why individuals believe that his or her partners were keeping secrets from them. Also the two took a deeper look at how these reasons discovered affect changes in the couple’s conflict. Conflict was also examined, which can promote growth in relationships as well as damage them. Lastly relationship satisfaction between a couple was examined. Past research shows that individuals who are happy in their relationships tend to view their partner’s actions in a more positive way than those who are unhappy within their
Lying has therefore been found in relationships to be used as a means of maintaining privacy, protection of the other and self, or to enhance expression (Kunkel & Guthrie, 2013). A lot of expectation can be placed on the other in a relationship and this can in turn create or motivate one to lie, for the reasoning of upholding or presenting an image which is knowingly untrue, but is desired. In the beginning of a relationship, self-serving lies that exaggerate the positive image of a person are common. Research has found that some partners may actually prefer to not know the truth and some people are happiest when they fail to see things are they really are, especially when relationally threatening information is involved, (Simpson, Ickes, & Blackstone, 1995). This supports the argument that lying is very much dependent on the people involved, as to how they interpret lying, if they see it as dishonest and intolerable or if they prefer to live in an illusion that lying can help to
“[...] The success of a relationship is solely dependent on two factors: a man's ability to listen lovingly and respectfully to a woman's feelings, and a woman's ability to show her feelings in a loving and respectful way” (John Gray). When I read this simple and yet heavy quote, I was greatly perplexed. How can the success of any relationship be dependent only on two factors? Simply put with one word: communication. We tend to over complicate relationships, with anxieties and insecurities, oblivious to the solution literally being on the tips of our tongues. Closely inspecting this quote, however, I realized that this is a team effort, it is as much my responsibility as it is his. Therefore, mentally highlighting the woman's role; my role, in this team effort, all of a sudden created a serious challenge. As a 21-year-old woman, I find it extremely difficult at
Communication is important in relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns, support each other; organize our lives and make decisions; and it allows us to work together. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond and our body language. We can all learn how to improve the way we communicate.
Trust. The. One of the more touchier subjects to discuss is the lack of honesty among people. Many people - myself included - have trust issues. Admittedly, my issues are not as large as others, but they are still there.
Intimate relationships are a lot of times used for one’s personal needs. Relationships are being created with significant others for many different reason. I have never experienced being in a relationship for the wrong reasons, so I cannot talk much about this. However I can tell you a common issue I personally notice in today’s relationship struggling is the partners don’t talk about their feelings with one another. “Difficulty articulating what you feel; many adults don’t know to express what they feel. Instead, you communicate what you think” (Sachs, 2005). I believe this statement has a lot of truth to it because a lot of couples will not talk things out hoping that they will reside, when in reality that doesn’t happen. Tony and I could definitely work on this factor in our relationship, I have a hard time opening up and telling him my feelings about stuff that may be going on. Tony is really good about telling me how he feels at any time. I struggle with this because I push it off not hoping it will reside but because I feel like it is something I will get over and move on with. This is something we both are willing to work on and it will take time to accomplish
Despite every luxury, comfort and love a relationship cannot survive without honesty. One is never forced into stay in a relationship. It depends on one 's own decisions whether not to stay in relationship. Instead of lying or cheating one should always be truthful and honest. Hurting someone a little with truth is always better than hurting with lies. One should be emotionally honest with ourselves and one another"Building a Magical Relationship" (Collins 6). Sometimes it is important to hide certain things if one have a perfect reason for hiding and hiding is not lying. Relationships require commitment and dedication in order to be
Communication is one of the most important factors in our lives. It dictates the relationships formed with the individuals in personal and professional lives. Effective communication provides a foundation for trust and respect to grow. It also helps better understand a person and the context of the conversation. Individuals often believe that their communication skills are much better than what they actually are. Communication appears effortless; however, much of what two people discuss gets misunderstood, thus leading to conflicts and distress. To communicate effectively, one must understand the emotion behind the information being said. Knowing how to communicate effectively can improve relationships one has at home, work and in social affairs. Understanding communication skills such as; listening, non-verbal communication and managing stress can help better the relationships one has with others.
To begin with, lack of communication is a significant cause of the recent rise in the rates of divorce. A marriage is on the rocks when the lines of communication fail. People will tend to stay quiet about money management and job issues, because they don’t want to burden their partner. Most of the time they think it’s easier to deal with it by one’s self, but in reality, it’s pushing their partner out of the room and shutting the door. When this starts to happen, it’s harder to push back. In marriage, one person’s problems is supposed to be handled by both. One will feel neglected if they don’t have a say in a particular situation. Thus, resentment and distance starts growing between the two. Those small problems now become big problems, which result in separation. In order to have a good solid foundation, each couple needs to be heard and voice his or her own feelings. This includes conflict of opinion with concerns to small or big disputes such as religion, children, job opportunities and money management.
Interpersonal relationships are those that we have with other people. Communication between others is essential to human survival. We communicate to get what we need: food, affection, knowledge, understanding, money, the list goes on. In these relationships, we build our image of ourselves, learn to trust, and sometimes fall apart. This paper will analyze interviews discussing what happens in their real life experiences with relationships and compare how they may differ from person to person.