I had never really considered the definition of assertive behavior, nor had I ever contemplated my own assertiveness level. I generally think of assertiveness more as a state of being, not really something that I need to strive for. After reviewing Module One and researching assertiveness and assertion training, I realize that I have not Dbeen realistic about what assertiveness entails. According to Beagrie (2006), “Many people confuse assertiveness with being bossy, overbearing or aggressive. Being assertive is simply the ability to stand up for yourself, state your views, tackle issues up-front and, in many cases, stop others from taking advantage” (p. 24). I can admit that up until now, I was one of those confused people. I have often viewed assertive people as somewhat bossy and overbearing. Even when I have needed to be assertive, I have felt that people may view me in a negative way . In reality, I now see that there is absolutely nothing wrong with expressing how I feel as long as I continue to respect those around me.
I find the subject of assertiveness to be very interesting. Growing up, children are given so many rules and lessons. As little ones, we are bombarded with instructions on manners, conduct, and respect. So often we are taught how to treat others positively. However, parents and teachers often forget to teach their children about self respect. I do not believe that most kids are taught how to be assertive. Many adults become assertive by watching this behavior exhibited by superiors and those around them. Others view non-assertive people and vow not to develop these traits. Coming from a military family, I was taught to speak when spoken to when we had company. Offering my opinions and speaking freely...
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...aught how to become assertive. This would not only increase the success of each individual, it would also positively affect the firm as well. Accomplished employees with long lasting careers will likely amplify the achievements of the corporation as a whole. Assertive employees are bound to create positive and constructive relationships with customers.
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I am an introvert by nature who approaches most everything from an analytical perspective. Although I consider myself a very positive person, many people, including my wife, tell me that my personality and delivery method often make me appear insincere or uncaring about a situation. While this calm demeanor works to my advantage in dynamic, high-intensity activities, like battle management in a combat environment, it clearly works to my disadvantage when dealing with people on a personal level. During my twenty-six year career, xxxOne mentor in my career. As a consequence, I have not spent enough time mentoring others. Fortunately, Air War College offers me plenty of ways to work on improving my personality and how I project myself to others. Being more self-aware mentoring opportunities, fostering relations with diverse , and learning from senior leader perspectives in seminar and
Sutton tells one “Learn to be just assertive enough, and don’t become an overbearing asshole” (Sutton, 2010). As a boss one has to act confident because acting makes one feel confident this is the self-fulfilling prophecy. Acting confident Sutton says “magnify the illusion and reality that you are in control of what your followers do, how well they perform, and they ...
This theory, founded by Stanford psychologist Leon Festinger, describes the mental state in which people feel when they have unpredictable thoughts relating to their decisions and the ability to change their attitude (Griffin, p. 200). This theory matters because its purpose is for people to find consistency in their beliefs, even if the situation is not consistent. When students are using nagging strategies and believe that their behavior is inappropriate or ineffective, they are experiencing dissonance (p. 317). Dunleavy and Martin found a way to reduce dissonance in students, by changing the students’ beliefs about general nagging behavior (p. 317). Having students perceive some of the nagging strategies as appropriate would help reduce their unpredictable thoughts, mostly because students would be much more comfortable knowing that this is the behavior they are displaying. For students to believe that their behavior is acceptable and appropriate is the main focus on reducing dissonance. As for instructors, Dunleavy and Martin suggest that they are not experiencing cognitive dissonance. Instructors are the ones who infer the behavior of the students, claiming that they would probably feel more comfortable in viewing the students’ behavior as less appropriate (p. 318).
As individuals, we are constantly learning what to say, do or think. Almost everything that we do is a result of learning it. Some things, we learn at a young age; while others may take years to obtain the knowledge. Assertiveness, is one aspect of learning and it is one of the toughest to obtain; but why? Is it not easy to stand up for what is right or say your own, opinion, maybe saying no, an easy two letter word? Well no, it is not easy, some people struggle with, this on an everyday basis. They try to figure themselves out and wonder why they weren’t honest or why did they let themselves be used. These are the questions I constantly had when I was growing up, not realizing that all I needed was to learn how to overcome my passive-aggressive
The Japanese have their own ways of approaching and asserting themselves when it comes to business. According to Nishiyama (2000), it is difficult to approach a Japanese businessman without a proper introduction from an introducer (p. 44). It is also impossible to approach a Japanese businessman through letter or email, telephone call, or even paying a visit in person unless you have an appointment (Nishiyama, 2000, p. 44). If they really have to do business over a letter or phone call, they would start the conversation by apologizing first to the receiver because they feel that these techniques are too impersonal (Nishiyama, 2000, p. 45). They are cautious of choosing foreign business partners and hesitate to do business with someone without prior knowledge of their prospective partner’s credibility and reputation. If there was a situation where an aggressive salesperson comes without a proper introduction or appointment, that person will be politely refused (Nishiyama, 2000, p. 45).
The writer often finds that when organization makes changes to stay competitive there are always someone who will say “we have not done it that way”. Change can scare a person at times. The writer believes that leaders and managers needs to have training and experience in implementing changes to employees that are set in their ways especially employees that has worked
I love the assessment of conflict handling styles, because I always confused when I am facing with difficult situations. After answering these questions, I find out that my conflicting handing style is accommodating, which is somewhat like my communication style and leadership style. Understanding these traits can better help me interact with others.
In the meantime, you should get to be distinctly magnificent at the key capacities and elements of administration and set yourself on a course of ceaseless change all through your vocation. Be that as it may, administrators are in charge of ensuring that things are done appropriately. And keeping in mind that pioneers may bring us vision, motivation and test, these things mean nothing without the proficient execution achieved by great administration.
Although today, confidence and assertiveness can be perceived as bossy. In a work environment, women are twice as likely to be branded as “bossy”; therefore, young women are becoming quiet and submissive to avoid the label (Clerkin, C., Crumbacher, A., Fernando, J., and Gentry, A. B. 2014). Women who exhibit masculine traits such as independence, aggression, and competitiveness are considered mean and unlikeable because a stereotypically female is nice and nurturing (Clerkin, C., Crumbacher, A., Fernando, J., and Gentry, A. B. 2014). After analyzing the data, women in leadership roles are penalized for acting aggressive and assertive; thus, they face a double standard.
Assertiveness is defined as “the ability to express ones feeling, ask for what one wants, and say ‘no’ to what one doesn’t want” It is a desirable trait that resolves conflicts with ‘sensitivity, responsibility, and action.’ Assertiveness could be a learnt ability or be part of the personality of the beholder. In this investigation, the level in which assertiveness could be learnt, through observation, will be explored. The behavioural and cognitive components of assertiveness will be investigated to see how they will be affected by observation of assertiveness. Such information could be helpful for young adults in determining whether assertiveness could be learnt. It could also provide some information on the level of ease
...ht. Hiring the right people and training/developing them into the role of an empowered employee takes time and patience, but the result can be very successful if done correctly. Many companies in very different industries have had great results because of their abilities to motivate and empower their staffs. Although companies may have different ways of going about motivating employees, if they follow their core philosophy to the point, the employees could buy into it as well. As a result, the companies will be more profitable in the end.
By allowing for employees to be increasingly engaged in workplace activities, they are then given the opportunity to develop new skills. Most leaders also encourage for employees to participate in team building activities so that any employee would be more comfortable and have stronger chemistry when working with other members of their respective departments, and with other employees in the company as a whole. Leaders are capable of motivating their subordinates through a series of actions, such as words of encouragement, acts of appreciation, and allowing for employee involvement in key decision making processes in the company. For instance, leaders who appreciate, constantly encourage and assist in the improvement of the tasks performed by their subordinates will be able to build a strong and healthy employer-employee relationship. This good relationship instils the traits of confidence in employees and motivates them to enhance their performance. Excellent leaders commonly try to develop a dialogue or establish open communication with their subordinates. Employees who are well
Assertive: confidently aggressive or self-assured; positive: aggressive;dogmatic. Being assertive has been something I used to really struggle with when I was younger and even late into my teen years. Many people struggle with being assertive, and personally I struggled with it in fear of being seen as mean or rude. I have worked to develop this trait into one of the dominant parts of my personality after working on gaining it for years. I think it is important for people to realise that dominant traits do not have to be lifelong but they can be learned over time. Being assertive can be seen as a leadership trait and when I think of myself being assertive I always think of times I have had to step up as a leader and show that I am confident
...he workplace. Individuals face many barriers and challenges along the way, however, the development of effective skills such as communication, self-reflection help overcome these. Individuals with positive attitudes are also more likely to succeed as shown through studies as they have greater power of resilience. Intrapersonal perception forms the foundations for success, but it is a better understanding of social interactions that combines with personal perceptions to achieve individual success.
It can be a challenge to effectively communicate in the workplace or in daily life. Because of this, it is important to consider how to choose an effective communication tool. According to Dwyer (2016), assertiveness techniques are a communication tool that can supply a method to solve it. This essay will discuss the meaning of assertiveness and how to apply it using verbal and non-verbal skills. Furthermore, it will analyze the advantages of assertiveness and explain why this is a powerful communication skill.